Parents as students"The first teacher", which plays a vital role in the growth of students. Parents' words and deeds will directly affect all aspects of their children, such as behavioral habits, speaking styles, and thinking concepts. Every student has different learning abilities and different academic performance. Some students can be admitted to prestigious universities, such as Tsinghua University, Peking University, and Fudan University, while some students can only be admitted to ordinary universities and junior colleges. However, even among the lower families, there are some"Scholars", they achieved a counterattack through their own efforts, so that the whole family crossed the class gap. The success of these poor students has aroused people's attention to the parents at the bottom.
However, there is often a gap between the educational resources of low-income families and those of students in big cities. For example, Beijing's"Haidian baby"Since childhood, he has received various elite education, which makes the bottom students ashamed. Moreover, the admission score of Tsinghua University, Peking University and other prestigious schools is also very high, and if students do not reach this score line, they will not be admitted. However, a poor student in Shanxi was admitted to Tsinghua University through his own efforts, and he said to other students"Don't take your parents too seriously"。His father was a taxi driver and his mother was a sanitation worker, and the family was not wealthy. The student felt that his parents didn't help him much in his life, and they didn't know much about his studies, let alone help him with his homework. Even if he chooses to take the college entrance examination, they can't give reasonable advice, just let him explore it himself. This means that even if he enters the society after graduation, he will not be able to get the support of his parents and will have to work his own. However, compared to the students around them, those students who have received an elite education since childhood or have a privileged family have the opportunity to choose to go to graduate school or study abroad even if they can't find a job. And if poor students want to achieve their goals, they must put in more efforts.
The emotion of this Tsinghua poor student also reveals the pain of many low-level parents. Many low-income parents have limited education and limited help for students. For the college entrance examination volunteers, fill in like this"Life events"Parents will not easily make decisions for their students, for fear that choosing the wrong direction will backfire. Everyone is an individual and does not necessarily depend on their parents for growth. Relying too much on their parents and following their parents' arrangements, students may lose the ability to think independently, or even become"Gnawing on the old people"。Therefore, although the words of Tsinghua Hanmen Xueba sound a little harsh, there is some truth when you think about it carefully. There may be differences between parents and students in terms of educational concepts and hobbies, and what parents think is a good major may not be the one that students like, so students do not need to take their parents' words too seriously. In addition, students learn to be a better version of themselves and strive to climb upwards, not to follow the path of their parents. If the parent's guidance is wrong, the student may also choose the wrong path by following them, which is not worth the cost.
Parents play an important role in guiding and guiding students' growth. First of all, parents' three views and ways of thinking are very important to the growth of students. Enlightened parents produce excellent students with good behavior and good manners. However, if the parent behaves misbehaps, then the child may also become rude and rude. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds in daily life and become a role model for their children to learn.
Secondly, parental encouragement and appreciation have a significant impact on students' mood and self-confidence. Parents' affirmation and encouragement can give students better emotional value and make them more confident. However, if parents just continue to belittle and criticize students, even if students achieve excellent grades, they will not be rewarded accordingly, and students will not be able to truly grow from them.
Most importantly, parents are one of the students"Mirrors"。Parents' words and actions can reflect what the student's future may look like. If parents want their children to achieve better results, then they need to grasp the scale of education and guide their children appropriately, rather than trying to take full control of their lives. Parents can provide the right direction and help, but they should not interfere too much with their children's choices and decisions, so that children have room to think independently and grow.
Times are constantly changing, and parents' educational philosophies need to keep pace with the times, because the times are likely to change differently than before. Parents should set the right mindset and let their children explore and work their own, so that there may be unexpected gains. Don't rely too much on your parents, but develop the ability to think independently and develop independently. The purpose of education is to help children become better versions of themselves, not to ask them to follow the path of their parents. Encouragement, appreciation, and correct guidance from parents are all effective ways to help students. Most importantly, parents should be role models for their students, have good behavior habits and positive ways of thinking, so that they can have a positive impact on their children's development.