Your test results are out, do you have any experience of taking birth control pills for a long time?”
Hearing the doctor's inquiry, Xiaoxue was stunned.
Oral contraceptives, how is it possible.
After a year and a half of marriage, in order to conceive a child as soon as possible, she and her husband did not take safety measures every time.
But his stomach didn't move for a long time, and his mother-in-law counted herself again and again, "Are you sick?"Otherwise, why haven't you been pregnant for more than three years?”
In order to prove that there is nothing wrong with his body, Xiaolei ran in the hospital no less than three times, and each time the results showed that he was in good health and had no problems.
Later, the mother-in-law suspected that her son had a problem and asked him to go to the hospital for a check-up.
As a result, like Xiaoxue, she was in good health.
The doctor said, the child is a random thing, you don't have to worry about it. The more anxious you are, the more you can't get pregnant. ”
Looking at Xiaoxue, who is anxious about herself, her husband Chen Ming will always gently persuade her.
Now that I think about it, behind this sentence is a husband's despicable thoughts.
Xiaoxue and Chen Ming met on a blind date.
They felt that they were eye-to-eye, and they got married.
There is no doubt about affection, but they also respect each other as guests.
Since two months ago, Xiaoxue's menstruation began to be irregular, and she suffered from endocrine disorders.
So, she had to go to the hospital a few more times.
Doctor, can I detect it if I have taken birth control pills?”
Sorry, this is not testable, but in my years of experience, your endocrine disorder is related to taking a lot of birth control pills. ”
Since it can't be detected, it's possible that the doctor made a wrong diagnosis.
Xiaoxue naively thought so, after all, how could she calculate that the person next to her pillow had secretly given her contraceptive pills for a year.
The revelation of the matter should start with a list of medicines.
That day, while doing laundry, Xiaoxue dug out a receipt for the purchase of contraceptive pills from her husband's pocket.
Birth control pills?Who is it for?Is it another woman, or is it yourself?
Either way, it's unacceptable to Xiaoxue. If it is the former, it means that he is cheating, and if it is the latter, why is that?
If he doesn't want children, he can just say, "Why does it have to be this way?"
Moreover, the husband also gave himself the medicine, so the medicine went to **?
Once the seeds of doubt are planted, people become cautious.
Chen Ming, who was careful step by step, was still discovered by his wife for his shameful behavior.
It turned out that just a year ago, her husband fell in love with a female college student named Wang Qian.
He doesn't want children, but so that after the divorce, he can be with Wang Qian without any burden.
If she was pregnant, wouldn't you divorce her?”
Yes, if you have children, as a man, you have to bear the responsibilities of the family, and divorce is naturally not a burden-free thing. In order to prevent Xiaoxue from getting pregnant, Chen Ming put a contraceptive pill in the milk he drank a year ago, because it was not an emergency drug, and his body resisted.
Later, Xiaoxue decisively divorced Chen Ming, and now she is living a good life. And Chen Ming was not with the female college student.
Xiaoxue is not alone.
Do you still remember the case of a husband killing his wife in Hangzhou in 2020?
The person next to the pillow is so cruel to himself, how can it not make people frightened by the evil of human nature!
Don't choose marriage in a panic, and choose a partner with a minimum view of human nature.
Xue Zhaofeng once said such a passage in "Wonderful Sayings", which was explained very thoroughly:
One of my views on marriage is that to see if a person is fit for marriage, not by looking at the highest place, but by looking at the lowest place. If you accept the lowest point of the ta, you can choose to enter into a marriage.Look at a person, whether it is worth marrying, not how he usually is, but when he is angry and frustrated.
It is only in the worst mood that people can reveal their true colors.
Unscrupulous, behind the hysteria, is a soul without self-control.
Knowing how to control one's emotions is the greatest quality of a person
Really good people have long learned to control their emotions, and controlling their emotions well is the greatest education and the highest level of self-discipline.
Everyone has a temper, it is instinct to take it out, and it is the ability to press it down.
As Napoleon once said: A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take a city!
An emotionally unstable person is constantly in a state of fear.
He's like a walking dynamite bag, they don't even know when he's going to be **, and the consequences don't matter to them.
This lowest flaw of human nature corrodes our lives like poison.
So don't be gullible, I'm just going to do something because I didn't control my emotions. It's nothing more than an excuse for a person to run away from his own meanness and not want to admit his shortcomings.
I once saw such a sentence on Zhihu:
The worst part of him is what determines the final direction of your relationship.
The worst part of him determines your happiness in the rest of your life.
A person who is emotionally out of control will inevitably lose control of his life.
Olison Madden said in "The Capital of a Life":
At no time should one be a slave to one's own emotions, one should not subject all actions to one's emotions, but should control one's emotions in turn. No matter how bad the situation is, you should strive to dominate your environment and save yourself from the darkness.
Behind emotional stability is ability, but also pattern.
A person who can control his emotions means that he has learned to think rationally.
There was a story like this in a TV series:
The wife rushed home as fast as she could, but the husband complained about why the children were hungry when they came back so late.
When the mother on the side pulled her son and said to calm down, he roared hysterically: "She is your daughter, of course you will say that." ”
The wife silently left the living room, tied her apron and began to cook and stir-fry.
Unbeknownst to the husband, half an hour ago, his wife had almost been involved in a traffic accident.
When I saw this, to be honest, I felt sorry for that wife.
A person's life, calculated at the age of 80, is 365 days a year, and it takes 29,200 days to be 80 years old.
After pinching the head and removing the tail, there is not much time left for a person to go out to eat, sleep and socialize.
Each of us only comes to this world once, and the rush of life has consumed too much of our energy.
Why do we have to use what little energy we have left to bear the bad emotions of others?
Cherish life and stay away from negative mental consumption.