The old man broke up after 5 months of remarriage, and the 65-year-old aunt asked too much, and I couldn't accept it
For the elderly, remarriage is a way to reduce the burden on their children and reduce loneliness. Having a wife can solve the problem of companionship, children don't have to go home often, and parents can be taken care of, this kind of companionship is really beneficial.
But you need to be careful not to be taken advantage of when you remarry. There is a recent story about a remarried couple who parted ways after five months, and the 65-year-old aunt said: "He is too demanding, and I really can't accept it." ”
What the hell is going on?Let's have a hard time.
When I look back and recall the days when I lived alone, there are always some emotional moments. My surname is Lu, and I have been retired for 10 years and have a good pension every month. People were curious about what kind of career I had in my youth to enjoy such a generous retirement. In fact, I am not an outstanding person, and I have not studied further, but I have worked quietly in the company for many years, accumulated rich experience, and brought certain benefits to the company, which is why the pension can be so rich.
However, there is more to life than just financial fulfillment, there are some things that make me feel emotional. My partner passed away in such a hurry that I couldn't share the good times of retirement with me, which is a big regret in my heart. We have always had a good relationship, we have never had a quarrel for decades, we have supported each other in our marriage, we have raised our children together, and our married life has always been very happy.
Interestingly, I have observed a phenomenon: it seems that the more loving couples are, the less likely they are to last long, and one of them will always leave first;And those couples who quarrel a lot can stay together for a long time. This situation makes me feel a little unfair, why can't loving couples spend more time together, but let those couples who are constantly in conflict suffer.
However, complaining about these providences didn't seem to help, and I had to accept the reality that my partner couldn't share the beauty of my later life with me.
Since my partner left, I started a lonely life, and many people suggested that I remarry, but I didn't think about it. Living alone makes me feel free and free, and I don't think it's necessary to remarry.
However, fate can sometimes be unexpected. While dancing in the square, I developed feelings for my dance partner, and although at first I just regarded him as a friend, I developed unexpected feelings for him as we danced together for a while.
Maybe it's because he shows concern and greetings to me every day, creating a sense of security for me, which is one of the reasons why I like him. He has always been very considerate and caring for me since we came together, and he stayed by my side when I was sick. Although he doesn't have a pension and doesn't have a house of his own, I feel like he's genuine about me. Whenever I needed him, he was always the first to be there for me, which made me feel very happy.
As time went on, our relationship gradually stabilized, and eventually I chose to remarry him. At that time, my friends around me advised me that it was good to just live together, and there was no need to remarry and get a license.
However, I felt that since I had decided to spend my life together, I should have a clear identity, so we chose a legal marriage. After remarrying, he moved to my house because he didn't have a house to live in.
In the beginning, he was very diligent, helping me with household chores every day and helping to pick up and drop off the children. Not only that, but he also cooks my favorite meals, showing his care and care.
However, a month later, he made a request that made me hesitate. He told me that his son was getting married, but he didn't have enough money to buy a house for him. He begged me to be able to transfer my house to his son as a matrimonial house, while I needed to rent a house outside. Although he promised to take good care of me and let me get through my old age with peace of mind, I considered that this involved a real estate transfer and had to be carefully considered. Moreover, my children will not agree to me transferring the house to someone else, because it was left to me by my predecessor and the inheritance should belong to them.
After a moment of hesitation, I rejected his offer. Instead of getting angry, he said he could go outside and borrow money to buy a house for his son. He said that as a father, he has a responsibility to give for his son, and even if his son has grown up, he is still willing to give. In order to prevent him from borrowing loan sharks, I finally decided to provide 100,000 yuan as a down payment for his son.
When he heard my refusal, he was overjoyed and praised me for being a wonderful wife. Soon after, he excitedly took out 100,000 yuan to buy a house for his son. However, as soon as the house was bought, he offered that his son needed a car. I was reluctant to lend a hand to help, as his son was not his own. Even though I have savings, the money is for retirement and I don't want to be involved in other things.
He kept pleading, reassuring him that it was the last time. For the sake of him being my husband, in the end I chose to help him and gave 50,000 yuan to his son again.
I thought things would settle down, but it didn't take long for him to make new requests. Because he knew that I was soft-hearted and easy to speak, he kept looking for good in me. He said to me, "In the future, give me your salary card for safekeeping, and you just need to concentrate on the housework, after all, this is what a woman should do." Every weekend I go to my hometown to attend to my parents, who are old and need to be taken care of. ”
When I heard this, my whole body felt bad. I felt that with him, I would always give, so I decided to end the relationship so as not to suffer. When I proposed to break up, he didn't agree.
After my persistent persuasion, he finally agreed to divorce me. After the divorce, my friends were curious as to why I chose to divorce. Because I used to show off my happy life to them, they were all curious.
I replied bluntly: "His request is too much for me to accept, so I have to divorce to ensure that I can live in peace." ”
After the divorce, my life has really become much easier, because no one is greedy for my money anymore, and no one keeps making all kinds of demands.
Nowadays, some seniors are very savvy, and when they are looking for a life partner, they not only want to find a nanny who can take care of them for free, but also expect to be able to take a woman who can afford to pay for them. Sadly, once they have found their ideal partner, some people fail to cherish the relationship and often show unfriendly attitudes towards women. Therefore, it is important for women to keep their eyes open when choosing a partner and not to be deceived by the rhetoric of such men, otherwise they may find themselves in an extremely difficult situation.