I am a 57-year-old middle-aged widow named Li Fenglan. It has been 10 years since my husband passed away, and I have been living alone for 10 years, and my children have all started a family.
I started to feel very lonely and didn't have anyone around to talk to. I wanted to find someone to be a companion with, so I met Wang Dalong through a blind date. Wang Dalong is 5 years younger than me, he is a successful businessman, tall and handsome, which gives me the feeling of love at first sight.
On the day of the marriage registration, I happily said, "Dalong, we will be married, and we will be a family from now on." I will always be with you, good to you! ”
Dalong smiled and said, "Me too, Feng Lan, with you by my side, my life is complete." ”
But it didn't take long for the big dragon to change. One day, when I made a dish that he didn't like to eat, he was furious: "How many times have I told you, don't make this kind of dish!" Why can't you remember?!”
Who knew that he was even more angry, and scolded directly: "You bastard, stupid and stupid, it's hopeless!" ”
I was frightened by his vexatious temper and said aggrievedly, "Dalong, how can you say that about me? I am your wife! ”
Who knew that he not only did not admit his mistake, but became even more angry. He slapped me in the face, and the force was so heavy that my face instantly swollen.
If I ask you to do it, you have to do it! Don't talk back! He growled.
I was stunned by the way he slapped me, no one had ever hit me in my life, and the slap chilled my heart. I choked up and said, "Dalong, how can you beat me?" I am your wife! ”
He said viciously: "You should be beaten, let you learn a long lesson!" Not an example! ”
I ran back to my room crying, looking at my red and swollen face in the mirror, and I couldn't believe what had just happened. I'm 57 years old, so why should I still suffer from domestic violence?
Since that day, Dalong's domestic violence has become more and more serious. He often troubles me for no reason, yelling and speaking ill of me at every turn. I spoke to him carefully, for fear that he would be beaten and scolded if I didn't pay attention.
Once, we went to a class reunion. He suddenly confronted me in public: "You see that man is looking at you, you have a leg with him, right?" ”
I hastened to explain: "No, no, I don't know him." ”
He slapped him on the spot: "Did I ask you to explain?" Still hard-mouthed! Wait and see! ”
The students were dumbfounded, and no one dared to speak out. I ran out in shame and hid in the bathroom crying. He's a tyrant, he's so hateful!
What's more, once Dalong even slapped me with a belt, and my back and arms were bloodied by him, and the pain was unbearable. I couldn't bear it anymore and yelled at him: "Wang Dalong, you brute! I want a divorce! ”
He sneered, "Divorce? Don't you dare! I can't let you go anywhere, you must be disciplined by me every day! ”
I was terrified, I really couldn't stand such a cruel man any longer. I secretly called ** to my best friend, crying about all the grievances I have suffered recently.
My best friend also sympathized with me, and she said, "Feng Lan, you must leave this beast!" This kind of domestic violence man is not worthy of being a human being at all! Get divorced, I fully support you! ”
I said, "I can't take it anymore and I must divorce him." It's just that he threatened me and said it would cost me everything, and I was really scared. ”
The girlfriend said, "Don't be afraid! Domestic violence must be severely punished! You look for an opportunity to gather evidence that he beat you and call the police! The law will protect you. Don't worry, I've got your back! ”
I was moved to tears by her encouragement, and decided to collect evidence and then decisively divorce. I'm 57 years old, and I can't live under this tyrant anymore!
Just when I was plucking up the courage to prepare for divorce, Dalong's younger brother Xiaolong suddenly came to me and said to me mysteriously: "Sister-in-law, I have something important to tell you, you must not tell my brother." ”
I asked curiously, "What's so mysterious?" ”
Xiaolong said: "Actually, my brother has always had a bad temper, and he has been married twice before, both because of domestic violence and beat his wife away. I'm quite happy to choose you this time, and I think you two will be happy. Who knows that he still hasn't changed, ** sick again! ”
I was surprised and asked, "How do you know so well?" ”
What's this, the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, I just listened to him complain a few words. I advise you, don't fight alone, and collect some evidence that he beat you, in case he defaults. This kind of person can't make sense by mouth. Xiaolong said mysteriously.
I nodded, he had a point. Maybe I should put up with Dalong for a while longer and gather evidence. So I started secretly recording the ** that the big dragon beat me and saved it in the cloud.
One day, Dalong suddenly became gentle and sent me flowers to apologize and tell me not to be angry with him. I asked curiously, "Why did you suddenly change your ** degree?" ”
He smiled and said, "Wife, I figured it out." I shouldn't have beaten you and scolded you, I'm too guilty. I promise to correct it, and I will only spoil you and not hurt you in the future, is it okay? ”
I asked suspiciously, "Are you ready to change your ways?" How can I believe your nonsense? ”
He said seriously: "I mean it! You just believe me this time! ”
The turn was so abrupt that I couldn't figure out what he meant. But seeing his sincerity, I decided to trust him one more time.
After that, Dalong really obeyed me and took care of my life wholeheartedly. I gradually let my guard down, and our lives returned to peace. Another year passed like this, and although I was still on guard in my heart, he kept behaving very well, so gentle and considerate that I was a little embarrassed.
Just when I thought I could grow old with him, one night, he suddenly came to me to settle accounts and asked me what I was doing during the day. I explained that I was having dinner with my best friend, but he didn't listen and slapped him directly!
Did I force you? Go wherever you say you want! Still talk back to me! "He scolded me severely.
It dawned on me that violence is deeply rooted and that it is difficult to change the vicious nature! At the beginning, his so-called "reform and return to righteousness" was simply lying to me!
I yelled at him angrily, "Wang Dalong, I've put up with you for a long time!" Get out of here! ”
I took out the evidence I had collected and called the police directly in front of him. The police soon arrived and took Dalong, who was still out of condition, away.
I finally regained my freedom, and I also warned all those who have suffered from domestic violence not to believe the rhetoric of the abuser! Their ** nature is hard to change, and you will pay a terrible price!
Now I have started a new life and joined the Self-Help Association for Domestic Violence Victims, sharing the pain of domestic violence with everyone, and making more people who suffer from domestic violence aware of the need to resist! We need to obtain the support and help of the law, so that these perpetrators can get the punishment they deserve! After joining the Victim Self-Rescue Association, I have met many sisters who have had similar experiences to me. Many of them were not only physically tortured, but also psychologically traumatized. I tried to comfort them and encourage them to regain their self-confidence and start a new life.