In 2005, a girl in Ningxia underwent a "female-to-male" operation, and bravely pursued the touching experience of love
In 1500 B.C., the prophet Moses and others wrote the Bible, which is still regarded as a classic by the apostles. The first book of the Bible, Genesis, tells us"God took Adam's seventh rib, pressed it into the shape of a woman, blew on her, raised her, and called her Eve"。
Eve was created by Adam's flesh and blood, so she and Adam were interdependent, and neither could do without the other.
In 2005, the doctor removed one of Geng Lanjun's ribs and cut out the shape of a supporting bone for his **"Girls"to"Boys"of transformations.
Masculinity is made of its own flesh and bones, it is born of flesh and bones, it makes itself who it is. The gender is changing, the mind is the same, the soul is the same, and the long journey of life continues.
The soul is closed.
In the summer of 1974, Geng Lanjun was born in Wuzhong, Ningxia, to a family of inmates. Her parents are both police officers, but her mother has artistically short hair, and she also likes to cut her daughter's hair short.
The father touched his daughter's head and jokingly said:"She didn't look like a girl, she was clearly a boy"。
In my memory, Geng Lanjun and the boys played spinning tops on the iron ring, and when they looked at their faces, they were sweating profusely every time, and they were dirty everywhere.
When she got home, her mother slapped her on the ground and scolded her'Look, you're like a little girl, and you're going to play more with girls and not with boys.
Geng Lanjun stretched his neck, stuck out his tongue, and bared his teeth:"Female dolls are very delicate, and it doesn't hurt to play with them. "
She rubbed her eyes and played with the children as soon as she went out, leaving her mother's words behind.
Boys run fast and hit when they want, while girls will only huddle together and chat, with small brains, willful, and crying when they can't move.
When Geng Lanjun went to school, he still had short hair, wore neutral clothes, often played with boys during recess, and ran around the playground unrestrainedly.
She dislikes going to the toilet the least, and she feels uncomfortable every time she goes to the toilet, especially when the strange girl looks at her in amazement, thinking that she is a man, which makes her even more indignant about her female identity.
After entering puberty, Geng Lanjun came to menstruation, and she desperately took the sanitary napkin from her mother's hand, thinking desperately:"Why am I a woman?"
Those days of the month were a baptism for him, there was not much activity, there was no cold water, he had to carry hygiene products with him, and occasionally he had a stomachache.
What made him even more unbearable was that he couldn't tell the truth to the boys who had played well with him, he could only say that he had eaten a bad stomach, but watching the roars and screams they made when they played together, he felt lonely and depressed when he got home.
Back home, Geng Lanjun, who was lying on the bed, looked at the ceiling in horror.
She didn't understand why she suffered so much because she was a woman, and why she had to endure all the inconveniences caused by her physical characteristics, even though she was a boy and liked everything that was incommensurate with a girl.
He felt that he was bound, that the male soul was firmly trapped in the female body, and that he could not break free, which made him miserable.
She decided to abandon feminine femininity as much as possible, so she wore short hair and overtly children's clothing.
In the scorching summer, Geng Lanjun put on his jersey and sweated on the playground with the children. After the game, he poured a bottle of water on his head like a child, then shook his head and smiled happily.
The summer passed, Geng Lanjun's originally fair-skinned ** turned brown, his body was stiff, his muscles were more developed, he was strong and handsome, and he was obviously a boy.
The change in appearance never made him feel relieved, so every time he entered the women's toilet, Geng Lanjun would feel uncomfortable, as if he was a ** person who accidentally broke into the world of women.
In high school, Geng Lanjun met transgender people through books and newspapers, and eventually became convinced that he was one of them.
From then on, he began to look at himself and stopped worrying about his gender;He is a man with female physiology.
In 1992, Geng Lanjun heard about China's first female-to-male surgery from the newspaper, and had the idea of changing sex, and began to collect relevant information, deciding to change back into a real man when the time was ripe when there was more money.
Later, one"Not much to say, melancholy and vulnerable"'s quiet girl walked into Geng Lanjun's life.
The girl is Geng Lanjun's high school classmate, Geng Lanjun falls in love with her, and firmly tells her that if he has the opportunity, he will definitely become a man.
They walked, chatted, and ate together, and Geng Lanjun accompanied her home every day. In the years of innocent youth, there is no better friendship.
Later, her girlfriend got married, but the groom was not Geng Lanjun. Under pressure from her family, the girl had to go to the appointment to get married.
On that day, Geng Lanjun appeared at the wedding scene with roses in his hand, and his girlfriend's relatives looked at him in horror, thinking that he wanted to **.
Geng Lanjun was expressionless, walked up to his girlfriend unusually calmly, handed her the bouquet, turned to leave, determined and heartbroken.
Reborn from the ashes. During this period, the thought of her beloved daughter becoming someone else's wife made Geng Lanjun very painful and had to consider sex reassignment surgery.
Only when he meets his favorite girl in the future will he be able to say it confidently and boldly:"Marry me!"。.
Geng Lanjun needed money to do business, so he began to work hard to save money. He loves to study Xi, from waiter to salesman, advertising designer, to copywriter.
She bravely tried different fields and careers in different cities, hoping to realize the value of life by constantly surpassing herself.
In 2000, Geng Lanjun had just arrived in Nanjing and was about to go to the women's toilet of the train station, when the cleaner stopped him and said:"The men's restroom is over there. "
He didn't say anything, and since then he's been looking for the gentleman he used when he was in New Jersey, and no one has gotten him away.
Geng Lanjun is more relaxed in front of gentlemen, he does not shout, point fingers, and does not feel embarrassed or embarrassed.
In 2004, Geng Lanjun was working as a designer in an advertising company in Xiamen, and met a reporter who was moved by his special experience, published his story in the local "Strait Herald", and gave him the ** number of Dr. Xiu Zhifu, a master of plastic surgery.
After Geng Lanjun contacted Dr. Xiu, he had an in-depth discussion with Dr. Xiu, and Dr. Xiu spoke highly of Geng Lanjun and thought"He has a good mentality and is suitable for surgery"。
However, in order to prevent Geng Lanjun from withdrawing after the operation, after confirming Geng Lanjun's desire to change sex, Dr. Xiu communicated with Geng Lanjun many times.
At the end of 2004, Dr. Xiu agreed to be his chief surgeon, and the Plastic Surgery Center of Guangzhou Armed Police General Hospital and Fujian Haixia Hospital agreed to operate on Geng Lanjun free of charge after the Spring Festival.
In the Spring Festival of 2005, Geng Lanjun returned home happily, and finally saw the hope of becoming a real man, and the long-term expectation soon became a reality.
She told her family that while they knew her daughter had always looked like a boy, she had always been a woman, so they were surprised that her daughter could completely change her gender through surgery.
Since 1992, when Geng Lanjun learned about the female-to-male surgery, he has occasionally communicated with his family about the matter, but the family has always objected.
This time, Geng Lanjun patiently told us about the pain and difficulties she had experienced over the years because of gender disorder, and her parents, who loved their daughter deeply, listened to her words and after careful consideration, not only agreed to the operation, but also agreed to accompany her in Xiamen.
In March 2005, Geng Lanjun returned to Xiamen and began his path to success.
The first surgery was performed to remove the female *** organs, including **, ovaries and uterus. The most difficult part of the surgery is the excision**, because it is blocked by the urethra and is supported by the rectum, which, if left unattended, can cause damage, resulting in urine leakage or difficulty in defecation.
In the second mastectomy, a small, semicircular incision is made around the areola through which the subcutaneous tissue of the breast is completely removedThis process requires great care, as even the slightest negligence can cut blood vessels and cause bleeding.
Fortunately, both surgeries were successful, and Geng Lanjun gained self-confidence as a result. He can finally face the world calmly, and he even said to Dr. Xiu:"Now I have a wish to meet the girl I like"。
On July 19, Geng Lanjun underwent the most important ** reconstruction surgery in the entire sex reassignment process, and Dr. Xiu transferred the ** of Geng Lanjun's abdomen to ** to connect the original female appendages.
A month later, the wound healed, and Dr. Xiu took out one of Geng Lanjun's chest ribs, carved it into shape, and inserted it into the pre-formed ** as a support.
After four surgeries, Geng Lanjun finally changed from a woman to a man. He calmly accepts all the pain that comes with his body's metamorphosis and realizes that while he has waited years for his dream to come true, there is always a gap between expectations and reality.
Geng Lanjun was not prolific. But he thought to himself:"I have endured so many years of hardship to become a human being, and now I am a real human being if I don't endure hardship"。
He wanted a house.
In February 2006, Geng Lanjun received a photo of his gender at the police station"Male"and changed his name to Geng Zi. I've been waiting for this day for a long time"。He said with interest. This means that Geng Lanjun's male identity is recognized by the state.
When she politely showed her ID card to the camera, she became the first transgender woman to publicly reveal her identity.
Geng Zi told reporters that for 30 years, he has been living in the strange eyes of others, and he has long been Xi not caring about other people's eyes"It was important for the family to accept the fact that I was transgender"。
Geng Zi's mother, who had signed the consent form for the operation in tears, was so happy to see that Geng Zi had fulfilled her wish and began to pray earnestly"As long as the child is happy, his father and I are relieved. "
Neighbors affectionately asked him:"How's his body?"
His friend even said:"It doesn't matter if he's a man or a woman, he's still him. "
For Geng Zi, family is the most important part of his life, so he now has parents who understand him, and he will also form his own small family in the future.
After the operation, Geng Zi really felt that he was a real man, and he wanted to have a normal girlfriend, get married, and have his own children through adoption or IVF.
A few days after the operation, a girl in Meizhou, Guangdong Province learned the news of Gengzi from **, rushed to Xiamen, met Gengzi, and proposed to his girlfriend.
Geng Danling looked at a girl who refused to show up and wore a big mask and said"Emotional matters, you can't be in a hurry. "Today, he maintains a relationship with the girl as an ordinary friend.
After surgery in Guangzhou, Gengzi returned to Xiamen, where he had lived for five years. After a few months of recuperation, he decided to leave Xiamen for Shenzhen, but he was still the one who always wanted to leave his comfort zone and challenge his limits.
Geng's first job in Shenzhen was as a designer and copywriter for an advertising agency, which was an unprecedented challenge. When receiving the first task, Geng Danling wrote a plan book in three days and handed it to the deputy general manager, which was appreciated by him.
Half a year later, Geng Zi was able to easily make an excellent planning plan and successfully applied for another company as a planning manager.
Geng Danhao often said"Tomorrow is always the next stop"。This philosophy of life has led to a varied career, as he often changes jobs and cities.
Her emotional experience is much simpler, though, as her personal life experiences make her cautious before entering any relationship.
In recent years, as he gets older, he meets the person he likes, but he no longer dares to confess to her as much as he did when he was younger, and he begins to doubt whether she will be able to accept his past and if they will be able to move on with their lives.
One day, a friend who didn't know him introduced his girlfriend to him, and after meeting, she fell in love with Geng Zi and said that she wanted to be his girlfriend.
But Geng Zi had no feelings for the girl and politely rejected her. Geng Zi thinks"Since we want to spend our lives together, we must love each other"。
In 2012, a colleague introduced his cousin Geng Zi, Geng Zi wanted to fall in love with a girl at first sight, but he didn't dare to love, he was in a dilemma, if he said his light identity, would the other party be scared immediately?If he didn't say it, wouldn't it be more painful for the girl to find out on her own?
Geng Zi decided to confess to the girl through **, and after a few days, he felt that he was waiting for trial, he was restless, and finally the girl asked her colleague to pass the word on her behalf, and she refused Geng Zi's request.
Geng Zi is now single, and he wants to find a woman who can accept him and marry him.