Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
See in a book:Love is the most uncharitable and eccentric, it will make a person who lives happily happier and a person who lives a miserable life more pathetic.
People cannot live without love, and love includes family affection, love, and friendship. So far, my husband and I are getting along well, at least there is more happiness than pain.
It's not that we don't quarrel, but we reflect on each other after a quarrel and then correct it. The best model in marriage should be: grow together. This was shared to me by a classmate.
When I was in college, I had a classmate who was very popular, her name was Zhou Meng.
I still remember her self-introduction in class: Zhou Gong interprets dreams, two of them, Zhou Meng.
I was a shy person when I was in high school. You may be more lively with familiar people, but you will be more shy and quiet with unfamiliar people. Maybe many friends started with this kind of character.
Introverts are very envious of extroverts who can deal with people like a spring breeze.
My high school classmates said that I would be bullied when I went out to work in the future. Later, my mother told me that my family owed money, and then I didn't take the college entrance examination and went out to work for half a year. What happened in those six months made me really want to change myself. I want to be strong, to be expressive, and I don't want to be bullied by anyone.
But Heaven was playing a joke on me. Half a year later, my dad earned money and sent me to study again. I didn't repeat my studies and chose to go to a five-year college.
Zhou Meng in college has a very charming personality, and her classmates like her. After a long period of contact, I learned that she has been very popular since she was a child.
At that time, I was a very gossip person, and I liked to listen to all kinds of stories told by my classmates. One of the most favorite is to listen to other people's love stories. Zhou Meng told me that the best way for two people to get along is to be synchronized.
I asked her: Why?
She said: If one person goes too fast and the other person can't catch up, they will have nothing to say. If one person walks too slowly, the other person will feel tired. The two of them were synchronized, on the road together, talking and laughing all the way. Even though there will inevitably be pain along the way, it will also give birth to more happiness. So it's important for two people to grow up at the same time.
When I first met my husband, I was in a small electronics factory during the summer vacation of my junior year. His job position is right in front of me, and sometimes I am slow on my hands and feet, and a lot of products will pile up on the assembly line.
He is handsome, gentle and patient. When he sees that I am slow, he will deliberately slow down. Later he asked me out for a walk in the evening and we talked. At the time, he was an ordinary worker, but I admired his work attitude. Meticulous and serious. Do small things well.
Chatting and chatting, the atmosphere rose, and he confessed to me during the Tanabata Festival. I've never been in a relationship before, and I'm too timid. When I met someone in junior high school and high school who liked me, I also liked it, but I didn't dare to be together. When someone confesses to me, I'll run away shyly.
My college classmate "Pianpian" told me that if I meet a boy I like again, I will say yes first, regardless of thirty-seven or twenty-one. Let's talk about it, and then break up if it doesn't work.
Probably remembering her words, I agreed. Later, when school opened, I went back to Hunan to study. We started a long-distance relationship.
Sweetness, pain, suspicion, gain and loss, happiness, joy, torture and other emotions in love should have been experienced by anyone who has been in love.
We had all kinds of difficulties in this relationship. At first, he lied to me that he had never been in a relationship, and then a woman came to provoke me. The so-called ex-girlfriend came to attack me, and it really hurt me. Because of these things, we quarrel occasionally. Later, I was obsessed with work, so I didn't care.
And my parents were against it at the beginning, and my mother didn't think well of us. Just walked and walked, from no one to bless, to now some people envy. Whether the shoes are suitable or not is only known to you, and what others say doesn't count.
Some friends said that we are doing well now and have become soul mates.
Yes, it has been a good year, and we have been reborn after countless tribulations.
We will gradually get better, and there is a very important reason why we all have a common understanding: we grow together.
There is a story that two husbands and wives share joys and hardships to start a business, and the man is developed, and he dislikes his wife for being a yellow-faced woman. Therefore, it is women who don't know how to love themselves, so they let men run away.
Some stories say: After a woman gets married, she is greedy for vanity and abandons her husband and children, and it is all because men are not motivated and do not work hard.
In fact, the root cause of these love stories in the end is that the two people did not grow up together.
One person walks fast, the other walks slowly. Should those who are fast reject those who are slow?
No, at this time, the fast person should pull the slow person. Let him or her catch up with you. Or the fast ones, slow down, and wait for the other half to grow.
Many people will use the growth of money to measure a person's growth. Indeed, judging others with money is more intuitive and simple.
This man has an annual salary of one million, which is very promising. This person's performance is over 100 million, which is really amazing.
But people are complex and multifaceted, and it is very one-sided and narrow-minded to look at a person only with money.
If you don't have character and no sense of responsibility, what does it have to do with you if your other half gets rich.
When two people live together, especially after getting married, we must learn to find more advantages in each other in trivial chores.
If you only talk about money, when I was working in Guangdong after giving birth. My husband went to a big factory, and the salary was higher than mine. Later, my performance got better and better, and my income was much higher than his.
We will quarrel over small things. He said I had changed, not the same as I was in college.
I said calmly at the time: It will definitely be different, don't think that saying something big will make me a pua. I'm going to grow, how can I still be like a university.
The husband may be surprised to hear this, but he also calms down. Then he started to become more motivated, working hard, trying to learn more skills Xi.
After all these years, we rarely fight over money. Because he knows that if I was just a money-conscious person, there would never be any emotional connection between us when we first met.
My request for him is to learn Xi new skills every year and keep improving himself. Of course, the premise is that he himself must have a sense of ascension, otherwise, this requirement will become the beginning of a contradiction.
I started SOHO last year, and it's not the same as before. It turns out that they are all working part-time, and it doesn't matter who earns more or less.
But after I choose to start a business, my vision and thinking will change, if the two people's thoughts can't be synchronized, it will be difficult for the two of us to go on.
We've had open and honest conversations about these issues. He also listened, and he studied the course on his own online, and his design ability is getting better and better. With his help this year, my foreign trade customers have increased many times.
In the past, he didn't like to read books the most, but now he always feels that he has too little time to read. In our work, we can communicate the direction of our work and work together to solve the difficulties we are currently experiencing. In life, we raise children together and share our feelings after reading together. Of course, we all have our own hobbies.
With such synchronous growth, even if there is a quarrel, we will be fine soon. A good marriage will no longer make people feel helpless, and the sense of happiness will be enhanced.
Finally, there is a saying circulating on the Internet:In the matter of marriage, the encounter depends on luck, the business depends on people, and the ending depends on fate. If we choose to get married, we need to grow up and learn to take on family responsibilities. The home is not the private property of one person, but the common property of the family, which needs to be maintained by each member of the family.
Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. Married life is much calmer than the days of falling in love, but when we are willing to learn to Xi, grow ourselves, learn to tolerate and appreciate. Then we will meet a better future.