China as the Orient".Four ancient civilizations"One of them, known for its long history and profoundCultureThe heritage is famous all over the world. The most important of themValuesThat's it".Filial piety", it isHuaxiaTraditional virtues that children are instilled in them from an early age. Filial pietyNot only during the lifetime of parents and elders, but also after their deaths. And in the customs of inheritance, going to the grave is an important ritual. In addition to the nostalgia and remembrance of the ancestors, there are many things to pay attention to. There is a saying among them: "If five people cannot go to the grave, their children and grandchildren will prosper." So, what are the five types of people referred to by the "5 people" here?Next, we'll dive into this issue.
No matter how times change,Filial pietyin ChinaCulturehas always occupied an important position. Every year Qingming andChinese New Year, people will go to the grave to sweep the grave to show respect and remembrance of their ancestors. However, in this process, there is one category of people who are forbidden to go to the grave, and that is infants and young children, who are under the age of three. This is not only due to the difficulty of infants and toddlers in adapting to the hardships of hiking up the mountain, but more importantly for safety reasons. Graves in the countryside are often built in remote locations with rough roads. For children at this age, it can be difficult to deal with the dangers involved. In addition, infants and toddlers are not constrained in their words and actions, and it is difficult to ensure that some taboos are observed in a dignified environment, and they may even play on the grave. In addition, the grave is considered to be a place where the "yin" qi is heavy, while infants and young children have "yang" qi, and the two clash with each other, so infants and young children are not suitable for going to the grave. However, there are also places where children under the age of 12 are not allowed to go to graves, which is also based on regional customs. In any case, whether for safety reasons or in accordance with the principle of counteracting yin and yang, the fact that infants and young children are not suitable for graves is common in traditional Chinese customs.
In addition to infants and young children, the second type of person who cannot go to the grave is the son-in-law. This concept originated from the old ideas of ancient times, and it is no longer applicable todayModern society。In ancient times, daughters were regarded as "outsiders", and sons-in-law were even more soFamily relationshipsThere is a distant existence, so the son-in-law can only be regarded as a "relative", and it is not realFamily members。Therefore, if the son-in-law goes to the grave of his father-in-law, it means that the family will lose the male inheritance bloodline, and the family inheritance will be interrupted. Such a situation can lead to a lot of discussion in the neighborhood, and may even be treated coldly or even scolded. However, there are exceptions. If the son-in-law is "married" to the woman's family, and the child takes the mother's surname, then he is completely regarded as a member of the family, so that he has no problem going to the grave of his father-in-law.
The elderly are the third type of people who cannot go to the grave, especially those over 70 years old. According to the generational relationship in the family, the elderly at this age are already at the "ancestor" level of the family. Their safety and well-being are of paramount importance. If there is an accident on the way to the grave, it is difficult for an elderly person of this age to be rescued. Therefore, in order to avoid turning the worship of ancestors into a oneFuneralIt is not recommended for the elderly to go to the grave.
The fourth type of person who cannot go to the grave is the one who is seriously ill. A healthy body is a prerequisite for doing things well. If a person is physically weak, going to the grave loses its meaning. Because the ancestors did not want to see their offspring become so sick. Such a person going to the grave is not only irresponsible for himself, but also brings trouble to the ancestors, and there will be no good results for both parties, so there is no need to go to the grave.
The last type of person who cannot go to the grave isPregnant womenPregnant womenIt is a special group of people who need extra care. PlusPregnant womenEmbracedFetus, let alone cold, nor can you do strenuous exercise. The road to the grave is bumpy, and the mountainous area where the grave is located is heavy, cold and damp, plus a heavy mood, these will all be rightPregnant womenbody andFetusDeal damage. As you can imagine, this is also very inconsistent with the expectations of the ancestors.
To sum up, the five types of people in the proverbial "five people cannot go to the grave, but the children and grandchildren are prosperous" are infants, sons-in-law, very old people, people who are already seriously ill, and people who are pregnant. This provision is mainly based on the consideration of physical health. From this point of view, what the ancestor said still has a certain truth. After all, only those who keep it can maintain the continuity of the family. However, it is important to note that the rule that "sons-in-law do not go to the grave" is outdated and should be abandoned. AsFamily members, son-in-law should be and otherFamily membersLive in harmony without distinction. Therefore, they can go and go to the grave of their father-in-law.
It is worth mentioning that there are some other regulations and particulars in traditional Chinese customs, which may vary slightly from region to region and from family to family. Be that as it may,Filial pietyAlways ChinaCulturecoreValuesand in the daily life of the ChineselifeIt has been continuously inherited and embodied.