In traditional Chinese Xi, the elderly over the age of 70 generally no longer go to the grave. This is because the elderly have limited mobility, and the graves in the mountains are prone to danger when going to the graves. In addition, older people are more likely to feel sad and sad as they get older, and looking at deceased loved ones can trigger emotional swings. With the improvement of medical conditions, more and more people are living to be over 70 years old, so let the elderly recuperatePeaceSpend your old age and willSacrificeThe task is left to future generations.
The elderly are the elders of the family and have experienced a lifetime of toil and hard work. They have made great efforts and should enjoy the happiness and tranquility of their old age. Future generations take responsibilitySacrificeThe responsibility is to repay the kindness of the elderly. On the one hand, such a transfer can ensure the health of the elderly andlifeTranquility;On the other hand, it can also inherit the tradition and blood of the family, and pass on the feeling of gratitude from generation to generation.
Another saying goes: "Son-in-law should not go to the grave, go to the grave to insult the ancestors". Why can't a son-in-law go to the grave of his father-in-law and mother-in-law?In traditional extended families, daughters and sons-in-law generally do not go to the graves of their fathers-in-law, and this task is mainly undertaken by their own sons. The ancestors of the son-in-law and the father-in-law and mother-in-law are not directBlood relationship, although he is also a member of the family, he is not a member of the family after all. Especially in large families, if there are more than one son, it is better for the son-in-law not to go to the grave.
There is a history behind this practice andSocialCause. InAncient societies, the son-in-law is "married" to the family of his father-in-law and mother-in-law. They are not members of the family and are in a relatively low position in terms of status. In the familySacrificeBecause the son-in-law's ancestors and father-in-law did not have a direct relationshipBlood relationship, so the son-in-law is traditionally asked not to participateSacrifice
However, withSocialWith the development of the concept and the change of concept, the concept of marriage of modern people has undergone great changes. Nowadays, many families have an only child, and the son-in-law becomes the only daughter-in-law in the family, and sometimes participatesSacrificeActivity. Traditional ideas are not rigid and can be adjusted according to the actual situation and family relationships.
The ancients said: "Children cannot be taught, children cannot be punished", this sentence tells us that children's minds are not yet fully matureSacrificeIt is easy to be frightened and uncomfortable during activities. In addition, the child is rightSacrificeThe cognition is shallow and difficult to understandSacrificeof solemnity and importance. SacrificeThe deceased is a serious matter, and it is necessary to maintain a solemn attitude, and no casual laughter and playfulness are allowed. Therefore, it is best not to go with children under the age of fiveSacrificeActivity. When the child grows up, he or she will be able to understand and execute it betterSacrificeThe ceremony is also more secure.
The choice of offerings is also exquisite, especiallyFruits。InSacrificetime,FruitsIt is an indispensable offering. However, there are someFruitsYou can't take it to the grave. First of all, in stringsFruitsShould not go to the grave, such as:Grapesand longan, etc. It's because of theseFruitsThe implication is not good, and it may be interpreted as "a string of sorrows" or having too much concern for the deceased. Secondly, hollowFruitsIt is also inappropriate, because it would be considered insincere and lack respect for the ancestors. Finally, with a lot of seedsFruitsIt should also be avoided because it would be seen as unclean.
SacrificeIt is a way to convey emotions and thoughts, and it should be done with a sincere heart. Life is short, we should cherish the people in front of us, and have more love and care for the people around us. SacrificeThe meaning is not only in the remembrance of the deceased loved ones, but also in the rightAffection, family and traditionCultureTestimony of the continuation. InSacrificeWe should also reflect on ourselveslifeway and get along with family. Only by expressing emotions more sincerely and delicately can we better convey the respect and gratitude of future generations to our ancestors.
As Chinese, we have been accepting about it since childhoodSacrificetraditional education. And the saying "three people don't go to the grave, the descendants will be prosperous" reminds usSacrificeSome rules and particulars that should be paid attention to in the activity. The elderly, sons-in-law and children do not go to the grave, both as a sign of respect for different identities and roles, as well as for the sake ofPeaceand solemnly complete this ceremony.
SacrificeIt is not just homework, it contains deep emotions and meanings such as longing, gratitude and inheritance. Every timeSacrificeIt is all a remembrance of ancestors, a family andAffectionreaffirmation. in the everydaylifeWe also need to learn to follow these traditionsCultureand treat your loved ones and family with gratitude. Whether it is the hard work of our elders or the responsibility of future generations, we need to respond with sincere emotion and care.
Only by inheriting and understanding these Xi and traditions can we truly appreciate themSacrificemeaning and value. PassedSacrificeWe internalize the feelings of longing for the deceased and allow future generations to thrive with the blessings of our ancestors. So let's keep the adage in mind, respectSacrificeThe rules and rituals of the heart to inherit and cherish this tradition, letAffectionAnd love in every timeSacrificecontinued.