Do you have such a guy around you:
His bedroom looks like a garbage dump;
She has to change at least three sets of clothes before going out;
Frequent swear words and internet buzzwords on my lips;
His favorite "sport" is to talk back ......
Congratulations, witnessing the "awakening time" of an adolescent child!
Of course, the biggest headache is the parents of adolescent children. They often feel as if they have completely lost their "influence" in front of their children, that their children are no longer willing to share their lives with them, and that there is either nothing to talk about between parents and children, or only they are "angry".
On the contrary, children spend a lot of time on social software, and there are always endless words and chats with friends.
At this time, most parents are very afraid, as if their children are about to go "astray" and "life is ruined"!There are even some parents who take "tough measures" and directly confiscate their children's mobile phones, but who knows, the parent-child relationship is becoming more and more tense!
Kevin Lehmann, a world-renowned American psychologist, pointed out in his new book "Reconciling with Adolescence" that this may be the last thing parents have to worry about.
In fact, social software is not as "scary" as parents think, rather than blindly stopping and saber-rattling, it is better to keep pace with the times and maintain balance, which is one of the "smart and effective" methods.
The reason why most parents have a negative view of their children's use of social software is mainly because they feel that children are easily targeted by uneasy and well-meaning people, and even dangerous things such as fraud and kidnapping will occur, so the child's life will be ruined!
Secondly, adolescent children begin to awaken their self-consciousness and desire to establish more social relationships, often spending a lot of time on social software, sometimes delaying their normal Xi and life.
Blindly "suppressing by force" cannot fundamentally solve the problem, and the key is to look at the problem scientifically and handle it wisely.
1. Keep pace with the times
First of all, as parents, we need to realize that we live in a world full of high-tech, and these rapidly developing technologies are also profoundly affecting our lives.
Teens love cool new gadgets, just like we were back then.
Just like anything else that is new, we need to look at these social apps objectively and correctly, not just fear.
If children have social media accounts, we may want to agree on some "safe use guidelines" with them. (Note that the word "agreed" is used here, not "some guidelines are issued").
For example, we want to tell them not to divulge personal information, home addresses, and other private information to anyone they don't know or have contacted
Secondly, it's best not to add "friends" on social software casually, even if a friend recommends a "friend", don't accept it rashly.
At the same time, make it important for them to be socially respectful and not engage in malicious remarks, bullying, or other inappropriate behavior.
Once they encounter unfair treatment, educate them to use the reporting mechanism on social ** platforms to expose misconduct.
2. Maintain balance.
Of course, more parents are still worried that their children are addicted to social interaction and affect their lives, after all, everything is "too much".
As parents of adolescent children, we can manage and control their social spending in the following ways.
1. Work together to develop a schedule:
Discuss and develop an appropriate schedule with your child, including school Xi time, outdoor activities, social ** time, etc. This allows children to participate in the decision-making process and increase their awareness of time management.
2. Establish clear rules for use.
Stipulate the amount of time allowed to use social software on a daily or weekly basis, while making sure the rules are specific and clear to avoid confusion. When necessary, you can use screen time controls on your device to make sure your child 'keeps his or her promises'.
3. Model good digital behavior.
As a parent, it is especially important to teach by example.
We need to be role models for our children and use social interaction in moderation and sensibility in front of them, so that they can see our balance in the digital world.
4. Engage in fun alternative activities.
As parents, we can also offer engaging alternative activities such as outdoor activities, reading, sports, etc., to help children stay screen-free and socialize moderately.
Conclusion:
Adolescence is a critical period in every child's development, this period is often full of stress, conflict and various problems, and children also become extremely sensitive, sentimental, and "fried" at the slightest touch.
Therefore, parents need to pay close attention, accompany them carefully, and persevere!
If you are in the process of getting along with your children, the conflict is constantly escalating, the conflict is escalating, and even struggling, then it is time to treat these "little adults" in a different way!
I sincerely recommend you to check out this book "Reconciling with Adolescence", which can not only help parents understand the behavior and inner world of their adolescent children, but also give their children more support, so that you can calmly and wisely accompany them through the critical stages of life!
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