Someone on Zhihu once asked: What happened to those girls who were violated? One of the answers was heartbreaking and tearful. The answerer wrote: It will never be better.
The harm of a violation to a victim is so profound and long-lasting that it can stay with the victim for the rest of their lives, causing irreversible damage to their lives, psychologically and emotionally.
Back then, SHE became the undisputed leader of the Chinese music scene with its unique ** style. Since their debut, they have gone through 23 years and have become idols in the hearts of countless people.
Now the three members have developed independently, and this year's "Sister Lang" stage brought Ella Chen Jiahua back to the audience. When she returned to the stage again, she had a smile on her face, and she was in very good condition.
In 2000, 19-year-old Ella debuted through the group SHE, dressed as a neutral tomboy at that time.
In 2012, Ella announced her marriage to Lai Sixiang on Weibo. Compared with when she was single, she was more feminine after marriage.
In everyone's mind, Ella never seemed to change. has always been like she was on stage many years ago, giving people a very cheerful and sunny feeling.
But what people didn't expect was that Ella revealed in an interview some time ago that she had a tragic experience of being violated in her childhood.
She recalls that at the age of ** in her childhood, her father took her to visit a friend, whose son was ten years older than her. In the play corner of the room, the boy had Ella sit on his lap.
Due to her young ignorance, she agreed. However, the boy actually put his hand into Ella's ** and fumbled wildly. This frightened her and immediately screamed and broke free.
Since there was no one outside, she could only cry alone. In the interview, Ella mentioned that the experience haunted her like a nightmare until she confessed the secret to her family after she got married.
Not only that, but what is even more shocking is that the boy also violated her two older sisters.
Often, the topic of female assault is avoided, not only in the entertainment industry, but even in real life, many women choose to remain silent.
However, Ella bravely faced the pressure and spoke openly about her experience. Her purpose is to draw attention to children's sex education, promote social progress, and protect the physical and mental health of every child.
As Ella bravely revealed the secret, more and more women began to speak out online as well. Some praised her for being brave because she opened up a topic that had long been overlooked and shunned.
One stone stirs up a thousand waves. Many girls began to talk about their experiences in the comment section. Someone took a nap in the first and second grades, and was inexplicably stripped of his skirt.
Someone was sexually harassed by their landlord at a young age.
Someone was ** by his father's friend when he was a child.
It can be seen that if Ella had not bravely raised this question, this could have become an eternal secret in the hearts of countless women. It is precisely because everyone dares to speak up that it can resonate and promote the implementation of more measures.
Ella is no longer the little girl she was bullied back then.
She has become a mother to her children. The family of three lives very happily.
This incident also pressed her for many years, and it was not until five months after the marriage that she told it herself. Maybe it's because she has a child now, so she can empathize more with herself at that time.
Ella is not the only one who has similar things in the entertainment industry, and Xin Zhilei also boldly told about what happened to her. Use your own story to advise others to pay attention to this issue, because it is not that simple.
Writer Lin Yihan wrote "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" at the age of 26 is a book, based on her experience of being subjected to a teacher** when she was a child, profoundly revealing how much harm an acquaintance's violation can do to children.
Childhood violations can leave an indelible shadow on a person's life. This book is not only a profound reflection on Lin Yihan's personal experience, but also a wake-up call to the whole society.
It's really hard for girls to grow up carefree. Parents should pay more attention to this aspect of education. Always pay attention to whether your children are experiencing similar problems and actively guide them.
Statistics show that the proportion of child abuse incidents committed by acquaintances continues to be high, as high as a staggering 80%. In addition to the traditional teacher-student relationship and netizen relationship, neighborhood relationship and kinship relationship have also become the target of the perpetrators.
On the way of children's growth, one day they need to face society independently, and parents cannot always be by their side. Therefore, it is necessary to strengthen safety education and vigilance at all times, so that children can learn to protect themselves from danger.
Only when the family, school, and society give children solid support can they have the courage to resist aggression.