I'm Wu Yufeng, 52 years old, and I'm looking for odd jobs in a labor market in the county.
When I first got married, I was grateful to my parents for giving me a small house of 60 square meters, although I was still burdened with some debts at that time. In order to pay off our debts, my wife and I were frugal and it took several years to pay them off.
During those financially strapped years, thanks to the support of my parents-in-law, they often gave us some help. My father-in-law set up a cold vegetable stall in the vegetable market, which started selling at 11 o'clock at noon every day, and my mother-in-law would come to help.
I also have an older brother who works well in the county's power supply bureau, and my sister-in-law is also a regular employee of the power supply bureau. Every time I go back to my father-in-law's house, my uncle and sister-in-law say hello lightly, and then sit aside and watch their mobile phones or TV. My wife and I worked hard to cook and cook, and even when the dishes were cooked, my uncle and sister-in-law rarely took the initiative to help serve the dishes. Sometimes, we even set up the chopsticks before they sit down and start eating.
Every time I go back to my parents' house, the work of stir-frying and cooking always falls on us, and sometimes my wife feels some complaints. I comforted her and said that my uncle and sister-in-law had a good job and a prosperous life, and they might look down on us. But we need to be calm, live our lives well, and don't look down on ourselves. It has nothing to do with us that they have money, we don't count on their help, the important thing is to live a good life on our own.
Occasionally, my father-in-law and mother-in-law would quietly fund us with 3,500 yuan to help us through the difficult times of life, because they knew that we were under pressure to buy a house. Of course, these grants are not allowed to be known to my eldest brother, and my mother-in-law always reminds us not to leak our mouths, so as not to cause confusion.
I felt the care and help of my father-in-law and mother-in-law, especially when I was working in an irregular labor market, and my father-in-law's cold vegetable stall became my workplace in my free time.
One day, I was helping to prepare cold dishes while my mother-in-law warmly greeted the customers. Suddenly, when my mother-in-law handed a customer a handy bag, I saw her hands shaking, and she collapsed next to the tricycle.
I immediately called the emergency ** and took my mother-in-law to the hospital, but I didn't expect her to have a massive cerebral hemorrhage.
During my mother-in-law's hospitalization, my wife and I took turns to stay by her side and take care of her wholeheartedly. Occasionally, my brother and sister-in-law would come over and bring some fruit, but even though they could not stay on a permanent basis, my brother-in-law entrusted me to continue to take care of my mother-in-law because he was too busy with work.
I didn't complain, I was willing to give up my job in the labor market and earn less money, because taking care of my mother-in-law was more important.
In the process of taking care of the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law's life became more and more difficult, and she was unable to take care of herself, and the responsibility of taking care of her fell on the shoulders of the wife. There was even a time when my sister-in-law came, but she deliberately stayed away from these trifles.
My mother-in-law's hospitalization expenses were supposed to be shared equally between us and my eldest brother, but my eldest brother and sister-in-law insisted on sharing them equally. Faced with this situation, I had to borrow 20,000 yuan from a friend to pay for my mother-in-law's hospitalization.
When my father-in-law learned about it, he said with emotion: "I can see the hard work you have put in, and I know how much care you have given to me and my wife over the years. But now I want you to share the hospitalization expenses, I really don't want to go, and besides, your family has no extra money. ”
Hearing my father-in-law's words, I hurriedly comforted him: "Dad, please don't be sad. Taking care of the elderly is what it should be, and money can be earned. We are capable, I'm still young, and slowly we'll earn it back. ”
Due to the deterioration of her mother-in-law's condition, she unfortunately passed away a month later.
After the death of his mother-in-law, his father-in-law no longer had the intention of running a cold vegetable stall and stayed at home alone all day. We regularly go back to cook for him and keep him in company. Although I suggested that he move to our house, my father-in-law politely refused, fearing that it would cause us trouble, and that our family was too small to live in.
One day when we went back, my father-in-law gave us good news: someone planned to open a factory and needed to use his house, and he was willing to pay 600,000 yuan in compensation.
We are very happy with this news, and the problem of my father-in-law's pension seems to be solved, especially considering that he does not have any pension.
Although it was a joy to receive a sum of 600,000 yuan, the father-in-law lost his residence because of it. I sincerely invited him to come to my house again, but he said that he would not bother us as long as he was nimble.
In order to solve the problem of my father-in-law's residence, I rented a house not far from our family and visited him regularly.
My father-in-law used to live in a bungalow, but now he lives in a building, but he is not very comfortable. On one occasion, he accidentally stepped on the air while descending the stairs, causing him to be unable to move.
Initially, we thought that my father-in-law had only suffered a minor injury and would get better after being hospitalized** for a while, but the risk of falls in the elderly is really worrying. My father-in-law was bedridden after being discharged from the hospital, and after two months in the hospital**, we started discussing how to take care of him.
The eldest brother said: "Dad, I am very busy at work, you know it is very important, I also have a lot of social activities, I don't have time to take care of you. Or you can go to my sister's house to care for the elderly. ”
My sister-in-law also thinks that it is the most suitable choice for my father-in-law to go to our home to care for the elderly.
She said: "Sister, brother-in-law, both of you are part-time workers, unlike us who work in a regular unit, the time is so tight, you have time to take care of your father-in-law, let your father-in-law go to your house." ”
The father-in-law was a reasonable old man, and after thinking for a while, he said, "You are all here today, let's have a family meeting!".Now that my legs and feet can't move, and I need someone to take care of me everywhere, I have to trouble you to provide for me. ”
Since my son and daughter-in-law both said that they were busy with work and had no time to take care of me, I had to go to my daughter's house. I know that I am in this situation, and no matter who I am, I need to take care of me. ”
The 600,000 demolition money in my hand, whoever gives me the pension, whoever takes care of me, I will give it to whom, I haven't touched a cent of this money, since I plan to go to my daughter's house to support the elderly, I will give the 600,000 yuan to my daughter's family. ”
Son, daughter-in-law, let's talk about it today, you can't fight for this money in the future. ”
The eldest brother and sister-in-law were surprised when they heard their father-in-law's words.
The father-in-law saw the emotions of the eldest brother and sister-in-law, and said, "Son, daughter-in-law, if you want money, then so be it, you take turns to provide for me." Each family takes care of me for a month, and the 600,000 yuan will be divided equally for you, 300,000 yuan per family, do you think this is okay?”
The eldest brother and sister-in-law agreed to the proposal to take turns in the elderly.
When my father-in-law arrived at my uncle's house, but only stayed there for a week, he hurriedly called me and begged me to take him home as soon as possible.
He said: "I don't suffer this at my son's house, after they all go to work, sometimes they don't come back for a day, they put the thermos bucket on the bedside for me, and I get the food on the bed, it's everywhere, and no one cleans it up for me." ”
The father-in-law also mentioned that his sister-in-law thought he had an old man's smell, and he didn't even want to enter his bedroom, and his expression was often straight.
The father-in-law resolutely did not live at the eldest brother's house, and the eldest brother was tired because of this.
So, my father-in-law came to our house.
On the first day my father-in-law came, he handed me the deposit receipt of 600,000 yuan and said, "Son-in-law, I will count on you to support your old age in the future, you can take the money." ”
In fact, I didn't take care of my father-in-law for the 600,000 yuan, as early as when I took care of my mother-in-law, their family didn't have this money, and I did my best to take care of her.
Our house is very small, with only two bedrooms and one living room. My father-in-law came to my house to care for the elderly, and my son had nowhere to live, so my son was still in elementary school at the time, so I had to tidy up the balcony and arrange a small bed for my son to sleep on the balcony.
The son was curious about sleeping on the balcony, but the father-in-law was reluctant to go, believing that his son had lost his place to live because of his old age.
I comforted my father-in-law and said, "Dad, you don't have to be sad, we will earn money well, and when I have enough money, we can change to a big house, and everyone will have their own bedroom." ”
However, since my father-in-law came to my house, I can't go out to work as often and am able to take care of the elderly, so my opportunities to earn money have become more limited.
My father-in-law lives in our house, and I bathe him every day, massaging his legs and arms after bathing.
For bedridden elderly people, the body temperature is often low, and I often rub his body to make him comfortable, and as a result, my father-in-law does not have a single sore on his body.
There are no fixed hours to work in the labor market, and I go home quickly every time I finish my work, for fear that my father-in-law will feel lonely at home.
When the weather is nice, I will carry my father-in-law downstairs and push him in a wheelchair for a walk in the community, so that he can chat with other elderly people and soothe his mood, while people who don't know us will mistake me for my father-in-law's son.
Whenever we bought beef and lamb, my wife and I couldn't bear to enjoy it ourselves, but instead stewed a bowl of meat for my father-in-law and let him eat it to the fullest, so as to ensure that the old man was well nourished.
My eldest brother sometimes only comes over once a month, and he knows that his father-in-law is taking care of us in our home, and he will definitely appreciate our care. When he came, he saw his father-in-law's ruddy face and said with emotion that it was thanks to us.
After his son entered junior high school, he grew taller rapidly, and the small bed curled up on the balcony was no longer suitable for him. However, the child was very sensible and never complained, he understood that his grandfather was old and needed our careful care.
One day, my father-in-law said to me: "Son-in-law, I have a proposal, let's go and see the new house, sell this small house, and withdraw my 600,000 yuan deposit to buy a big house." ”
Considering that the house was so small that my son's small bed on the balcony could no longer fit in, my wife and I started looking around. In the end, we settled on a three-bedroom, two-living room house that was spacious, bright and sunny.
I took a ** to show my father-in-law, and he was also very satisfied. I said that after moving into the new home, the large bedroom will be owned by my father-in-law, and the sunlight will let in, and I will install a TV on the wall so that my father-in-law can comfortably lie on the bed and watch TV.
The whole family was very happy and basked in the joy of moving into a big house, especially the father-in-law, who said that it was a blessing to be able to live in a big house in his lifetime and have his daughter and son-in-law to take care of him.
We are optimistic about this house, the owners have only lived in it for more than a year, and it is still brand new, and they are going to move to another place for work reasons.
My father-in-law's deposit of 600,000 yuan was about to expire, and we would lose a lot of interest if we withdrew it early, so we decided to buy the house as soon as the certificate of deposit expired, and we reached an agreement with the homeowner. The plan is to keep the old house for the time being and pay off a portion of the mortgage every month. In the future, if my son works in the county, I will consider handing over the big house to him to live in, while we continue to live in the old house.
In the process of sorting out the belongings at home, the eldest brother and sister-in-law suddenly visited and were surprised to see multiple packages in the living room. The eldest brother jokingly said: "Brother-in-law, you are moving in a posture!.""I admit with a smile that it's time to move. told them about the house purchase plan, and the eldest brother asked curiously: "Brother-in-law, it costs more than 1 million to buy a house, where did you get the money?"I could only answer truthfully, mentioning my father-in-law's 600,000 deposits that were about to expire, and explaining the plans for buying a house and repaying the loan.
The eldest brother and sister-in-law looked at each other, and their expressions became not very good. The eldest brother walked into the bedroom and said to his father-in-law: "Dad, I am your biological son, you can't buy a house for my brother-in-law with 600,000 yuan!."I'll keep the deposit slip for you first!The father-in-law fell silent, while the eldest brother and sister-in-law began to pester there for money.
The father-in-law finally spoke: "It's true that you are my son, but when I need to take care of you, you are **?."After a week in your house, you get impatient. I had to live with your sister for more than nine years. Now why are you embarrassed to come over and ask for money?Nothing for nothing, no care for me and only want money, that's impossible!The eldest brother came out of the bedroom angrily and said to his wife, "Sister, sit down and we will have a good talk." I'll take the deposit slip away first, and I'll divide the money later!"The eldest brother seemed very confident, and seemed to think that we would agree to give him the deposit slip for safekeeping.
The wife calmly responded: "Brother, sister-in-law, you saw it with your own eyes." My dad has lived in our house for nine years, and my son has never had a place to sleep, so he has been crammed into a small bed on the balcony. If it were you, how would you feel in your heart?Our dad felt that our family really couldn't live in it, so he asked us to buy a house. Take care of our dad, you are tired and refuse to take care of it. We've worked hard to take care of us all these years, and now you're coming here to ask for money, is it appropriate?”
The eldest brother still insisted on taking the deposit certificate.
I thought for a moment and decided to speak: "Brother, I didn't take care of my father out of money, these properties belong to my father. It is up to the father to decide what to do with the money, and we should follow the wishes of the elderly. ”
I carried my father-in-law into a wheelchair and walked into the living room.
The father-in-law said, "Children, my daughter and son-in-law have taken care of me all these years. As you can see, they have always cared for me. If I had hired a caregiver, I would have exhausted my savings over the years. You live in a big house of 160 square meters, and I live here in relatively crowded conditions. Isn't it feasible for my daughter to buy me a big house so that I can enjoy comfortably for a few years?”
The father-in-law's words left the eldest brother and sister-in-law speechless, and after a moment of silence, they left silently. Since then, there has been no mention of the property.
Soon after, we moved. My father-in-law stayed in a spacious and bright sunny bedroom and lived a satisfying life.
The father-in-law said with emotion: "I gave my property to those children who are filial to me, and this is right. ”
Truth be told, I don't take care of the elderly to claim property. Even if my father-in-law doesn't have the money, I care about him with all my heart.
The old man is like walking in a sea of people, and everyone will go through the stage of aging. The needs of the elderly today are our future needs, and to be kind to the elderly is to be kind to ourselves in the future. Treating parents with heart is the foundation of morality.