Aunt Dong, a "post-60s" woman who has experienced the ups and downs of life, once married in Guangzhou and spent happy time with her husband. However, the good times did not last long, her husband died early, her parents-in-law were sick and bedridden, and she shouldered the heavy housework alone, not only to take care of her young children, but also to accompany the sick elders, and life was difficult.
Under the careful care of Aunt Dong, the parents-in-law and mother-in-law**, in order not to cause trouble to their daughter-in-law, they took the initiative to return to their hometown and left their home to Aunt Dong. Accompanied by his mother, the son had excellent grades and was admitted to a key university in Nanjing. For the sake of his family's livelihood, he gave up his love of astronomy and chose to major in finance.
After graduating, his son found a high-paying job at a local bank and lived happily ever after. The couple are filial to Aunt Dong, often visiting relatives and friends, and each time they bring rich gifts, showing their deep feelings for their mother. At this time, Aunt Dong was retired, alone at home, and bored.
Day after day, Aunt Dong lives a simple life, selling vegetables, walking, reading, and communicating with her son, but there is a loneliness in her heart. Although the outside world thinks that she lives an envious life without pressure and complicated interpersonal relationships, Aunt Dong is well aware of the inner distress.
She occasionally chats with her son and confides in her heart, but she is lonely and indescribable. Although she had thought about letting her son take her to spend her old age together, she was worried that her son's busy life would not have time to take care of her, so she never dared to mention it.
During the Spring Festival of 2020, my son made a special trip to Guangzhou to visit Aunt Dong and offered to take her to Nanjing for retirement. At first, Aunt Dong was hesitant because she knew that her son's family was busy, especially when a young grandson was in school, and the family of three lived a happy life, and it was difficult to spare time to take care of her. At the same time, she is also worried about her daughter-in-law's attitude.
However, the son said that this was exactly what his daughter-in-law wanted. At present, Aunt Dong can still take care of herself, so they don't need to worry, and in the future, when she is old, her little grandson will also be an adult, and they will take care of Aunt Dong wholeheartedly. These words made Aunt Dong excited, and she felt that her life was worth it.
However, as Aunt Dong leaves with her son, she falls into a new nightmare.
The son's house in Nanjing only had a down payment, and there was still a huge mortgage to be repaid. In contrast, Aunt Dong's house was bought by her parents-in-law, her and her husband after decades of hard work. Before leaving, Aunt Dong rented out her house, which, together with her savings and monthly pension, was enough to meet her needs.
After arriving at her son's house, Aunt Dong's life became busy. She took the initiative to take on the housework, saying that it would exercise her body, but her son and daughter-in-law repeatedly dissuaded her to no avail. From grocery shopping and cooking to laundry and mopping the floor, all the housework is handled by Aunt Dong.
Even if she picks up her little grandson to school, Aunt Dong is also riding a small tram. Although it was a bit hard, Aunt Dong felt that the family of four sat around the dining table and enjoyed the warm time, which was a picture she had only imagined in her dreams in the past.
At the beginning, the daughter-in-law led the decision-making, and the couple provided Aunt Dong with 3,000 yuan of pocket money every month for her to use freely. Although Aunt Dong did not refuse, she saved most of the money for emergencies.
However, the good times did not last long, and the unexpected struck.
The business of the company where the son and daughter-in-law work is sluggish, especially the private company where the daughter-in-law has been working is on the verge of bankruptcy. Layoffs and pay cuts followed, and the family began to feel the pressure of life.
Faced with the predicament, the daughter-in-law had to discuss with her mother-in-law whether she could reduce Aunt Dong's pocket money. The mother-in-law immediately expressed her understanding, saying that she no longer needed pocket money, that she had enough money, and returned the thousands of yuan she had received before.
As time passed, the daughter-in-law eventually lost her job and stayed at home to take care of the housework with Aunt Dong, looking for job opportunities by the way, and waiting for the day when she would return to work.
During this difficult period, Aunt Dong felt sorry for her son who was busy alone, so she took the initiative to take out her savings and provide 4,000 yuan per month for family expenses.
Squeezed out his savings and sold his property to help his son pay off his debts. However, this decision has triggered subtle psychological changes in the family. Aunt Dong sees herself as part of the family, and despite losing her job, she is willing to use her other funds to support the family.
Over time, Aunt Dong's son gradually went from being independent to being dependent on his mother. The 4,000 yuan that Aunt Dong took out every month reduced his burden, but his work attitude was no longer as serious as before. The daughter-in-law no longer wants to look for a job, but lives a relaxed and happy life at home every day.
Originally, Aunt Dong planned to support them in the short term, but she didn't expect this support to last for more than half a year. In addition to the 4,000 yuan per month for her son, she also has to pay out of her own pocket to buy groceries, buy daily necessities, and occasionally give her little grandson living expenses, which is quite a big expenditure.
As time passed, Aunt Dong gradually lost much money left. At this time, she can only discuss with her son to see if she can reduce some of the funding. The son agreed at first, letting Aunt Dong only get 2,000 yuan a month.
However, it didn't take long for an unexpected incident to happen to Aunt Dong.
One night, my son came home from work and complained that the current car was too old, and he was criticized by the boss for going out to socialize today, with high fuel consumption and high noise. The wife also felt helpless, but said that she could not replace the new car.
The son thought about it in his heart, and it was true that there was no money to change the car, but the old car was really unbearable. So, he set his sights on his mother, hoping to get money from her to buy a car.
He went directly to Aunt Dong without concealment, hoping that she would pay for him to buy a new car. Aunt Dong did not object after hearing this, after all, she was just buying a car, and even if she needed help, tens of thousands of yuan would be the most.
However, unexpectedly, the son took a fancy to a luxury car worth nearly 400,000 yuan. Aunt Dong persuaded her son that the family was under so much pressure that there was no need to forcibly buy such an expensive car, and such a luxury was unnecessary.
The son didn't think so, he just thought that buying a new car was to save his face. If you can't buy a brand-name car, then it's better not to buy it!In order to maintain an image in the company, it is completely worth buying such a car.
Aunt Dong asked her son, how much money do you have on hand?
The son stretched out a hand, only 50,000 yuan. Coupled with the money from the sale of the old car, at most you can only make up ** million yuan.
At first, Aunt Dong hoped that her son would choose to buy the new car in installments, but he preferred to pay the full amount in one lump sum because it would allow him to pay less.
Although Aunt Dong persuaded her son not to move, she knew that she still had to live in this home, so she had to sigh and go back to the house and take out her passbook. This passbook is her life savings, the total amount is only four or five hundred thousand, and now she has to come up with 300,000 yuan at one time for her son's new car.
Aunt Dong comforted herself, thinking that earning money is not for the sake of her children?She herself is old and can't spend much money, and these savings will be left to her son in the future, so she simply spent them at this time.
Despite this thought, Aunt Dong still felt very sad. She couldn't understand why her son, who had always been dutiful, needed so much money just to save face.
Soon, the new car was delivered. The son drove home with a spring breeze on his face, got on the license plate, took his wife, son and Aunt Dong out for a ride, and took a lot of photos.
That night, when Aunt Dong swiped her mobile phone, she saw her son post a news on his social account: The new car is in hand, buy it in full, and pay tribute to poetry and the distant tomorrow!
Many people praised their son in the comments for having the ability to buy such a luxury car at such a young age. However, Aunt Dong felt sad because she bought the car for her son almost in full, and now her son only said that he bought it himself, and he had no gratitude to his mother at all.
Turning off her phone, Aunt Dong couldn't sleep for a long time. She recalls when her son was in middle school, and she bought him a pair of affordable sneakers. Although he didn't spend a lot of money, the son was very happy and often praised his mother at home and at school for how good she was.
Why did my son become the way he is?Aunt Dong couldn't understand it, and she didn't want to dig deeper, she just hoped that her family could continue to live in harmony.
At the beginning of 2022, the son returned to his hometown in Guangzhou with Aunt Dong. This is Aunt Dong and her husband's house, although the location is not ideal, and the community looks a little old, but after all, it is a real property and worth a lot of money.
Originally, the house had been rented out, but no suitable replacement tenant had been found due to the tenant moving out a few years ago.
As soon as he got home, his son immediately began to rummage through things, and he didn't care about arranging it for Aunt Dong. Aunt Dong asked puzzledly, "Child, what are you looking for?"”
The son didn't look up, and said coldly: "Real estate certificate!."”
Aunt Dong smiled: "Silly boy, this house has been rented out before, of course I took the real estate certificate with me!."”
The son suddenly patted his head and realized that he had forgotten an important matter. In a hurry, he quickly took out his mobile phone and dialed his wife's number, and at the same time quickly asked Aunt Dong about the whereabouts of the real estate certificate. Aunt Dong felt a little strange at this time.
Aunt Dong, who felt bad, quickly asked her son why he needed a real estate certificate.
The son explained: "I still have a large amount of mortgage to pay, and my hometown has been uninhabited, so I plan to sell the house there to pay off part of the loan. ”
Of course, Aunt Dong disagreed, she couldn't agree with her son to sell the property that two generations had worked so hard to accumulate.
However, the son thinks that his mother lives with him now and will not return to his hometown in the future, so he proposes that everyone live together, and the property can greatly reduce the burden on the family.
Aunt Dong was so anxious that she sat on the ground and began to cry, while her son stood aside and smoked a cigarette without emotion.
Suddenly, the neighbor on the opposite side came home and rushed in to understand the situation after hearing the cry. The neighbor, Uncle Lu, is a friend of Aunt Dong's husband, and when he watched Aunt Dong's son grow up, he quickly inquired about the situation when he saw Aunt Dong sitting on the ground crying.
Aunt Dong was about to say it, but her son scolded loudly: "What's the matter with you!."Get out of here!”
After that, he drove Uncle Lu out, and then dragged Aunt Dong out of the house and downstairs.
Aunt Dong was almost stuffed into a taxi, and from getting on the plane to going home along the way, the mother and son did not say a word.
When he returned home, his son patiently persuaded Aunt Dong again, complaining about how stressful life was and how difficult it was to take care of the family. As long as Aunt Dong doesn't agree, this house can't be sold. Aunt Dong simply locked herself in her room and didn't go out anymore, not even eating or drinking.
In the evening, the son and daughter-in-law made a table of Aunt Dong's favorite dishes and apologized to her. Aunt Dong softened her mood and went out for a meal.
After finishing the meal, the son actually knelt on the ground and said to Aunt Dong, "Mom, you can't force us to death!."”
Aunt Dong thought that her son had changed, but she didn't expect him to still insist on doing so. Aunt Dong, who was like ashes, felt that the world was spinning, and she reluctantly went back to her room to sleep.
The next morning, she opened the door and found that her son had sat in the door all night, still asleep.
Aunt Dong sighed deeply and retreated to her room. She opened a small box, took out the title deed, and placed it in her son's hand. Along with the real estate deed, there was also a ** - the late husband's**.
Originally, Aunt Dong was hopeful, hoping that this ** could arouse her son's conscience and make him give up the idea of selling the house. However, the son didn't care and insisted on ** this old property.
A few months later, Aunt Dong's last place of refuge, the old house, was also sold. The sale was just enough to pay off the remaining mortgage on his son's house in Nanjing, and there was an extra sum of money to buy some new furniture.
Watching her son move the leather sofa and large-screen color TV into the new house with relish, Aunt Dong's heart became cold. Unable to care about anything else, she found her son and told him that this was the last time and that she would never give him a penny again.
However, the son said indifferently: "Mom, if you don't give your money to your children and grandchildren, who will you spend it?"”
03 Pension or gnawing at the old?Filial piety in time does not leave regrets.
Since then, the son has never asked Aunt Dong for money on the grounds of his own needs. On the contrary, his methods became more beyond"Clever enough"Finish. He began to play the emotional card and talk about Aunt Dong's little grandson.
Aunt Dong's grandson did not get good grades and failed to get into a high-quality public high school. She paid tens of thousands of yuan in advance for her grandson to attend a private high school, and spent an additional seven or eight thousand yuan each semester to enroll him in a cram Xi class.
Once, Aunt Dong's grandson was caught smoking at school, and the teacher asked the parents to come. However, what was unexpected was that Aunt Dong's son and daughter-in-law were reluctant to go. 65-year-old Aunt Dong had to go to school to take her grandson home.
However, the head teacher announced that Aunt Dong's grandson would have to pay a fine of 3,000 yuan for violating school rules, otherwise he would be suspended from class and punished for reflection. Aunt Dong nodded numbly, used her mobile phone to scan the code and paid 3,000 yuan, sighed, and then went home.
Today, she has almost no savings and lives on a meager pension every month. Aunt Dong has been at her son's house for several years, and the belongings that were once enough for her to spend her life comfortably are now only this thin bank card.
What made her even more desperate was that her son planned to use her pension on the grounds that Aunt Dong was old and easy to be deceived, and asked her to hand over the last bank card.
Aunt Dong is like a peanut, which was repeatedly squeezed by her son and sucked away the oil and water. At this time, she was discouraged, and even suffered from mild depression for a time, and had suicidal thoughts several times.
Later, Aunt Dong found ** and made the matter public. She has no scruples about the concept that "family ugliness should not be publicized", and wholeheartedly wants to correct this behavior. As soon as **, her son restrained his behavior and became more filial. However, behind this filial piety, there is indifference and alienation.
Aunt Dong is not alone, the "new type of gnawing the old" is spreading rapidly, whether it is in the relatively economically developed cities, or the slightly lagging rural areas, this phenomenon is widespread.
According to data released by the China Research Center on Aging, more than 65% of families in urban areas in China are "old and young", and nearly one-third of young people rely almost entirely on their parents' savings to make ends meet.
The sad phenomenon of gnawing at the old is a matter of course for many young people. Some are overly pampered, some have no common sense, and some are like Aunt Dong's son, although they were once independent, they are getting deeper and deeper.
Behind these young people, they all have equally pitiful and pathetic parents. The phenomenon of gnawing at old age is not a one-sided problem, and parents should instill the right values in their children when they are young, and encourage them to work hard to earn wealth.
Of course, it is more important for children to be grateful and not take for granted what their parents give. The law does not give parents the responsibility to raise their children for the rest of their lives, but children have an obligation to support their parents with filial piety for life.
Chinese culture has always been passed down to the generations through filial piety, and we are proud of it. Filial piety to one's parents is not only a traditional virtue in our country, but also a spirit that should be actively promoted in any era.
With parents, life has a solid foundation;After losing his parents, his life became unattainable. Express filial piety in a timely manner when their parents are alive, so that they have no regrets. Everyone will usher in aging, and the love for parents is also the care of their future self. 100 help plan