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I believe everyone has heard of the term "gnawing the old", in the traditional sense, adults do not make money to support themselves when they mature, but still rely on their parents to survive.
I have to say that this kind of gnawing behavior is indeed despicable, and the most important thing is to harm others and oneself, because of this, in recent years, people have been criticizing young people's gnawing behavior.
Although now under the influence of a good social atmosphere, more and more people have begun to break away from their parents, try to be self-reliant, and rely on themselves to base themselves on society, but what people did not expect is that the traditional gnawing of the old has been replaced by the spread of a new type of gnawing of the old.
So what is a new type of gnawing old?What are its manifestations and harms?
Compared with the traditional gnawing of the elderly, the new way and performance of gnawing the old are more hidden, and many parents are not aware of it at all, or even if they do, they are willing to let their children rely on themselves.
First of all, the first manifestation is that when their children have completed their studies and just entered the society, they are not willing to find a stable job, but want to reach out to their parents for money to start their own business.
I believe that many college graduates have come up with such an idea, after all, no one wants to work for others, and only by being their own boss can they have the ability to decide and control.
However, it is important to know that the vast majority of graduates do not have any savings in their hands after completing their studies, but in order to achieve entrepreneurship, they must have a certain amount of entrepreneurial capital, otherwise all ideas are just empty talk.
On the other hand, it is difficult for relatives and friends around me to support themselves to start their own businesses, or even if they do, they cannot provide enough funds for themselves, and in the end, they can only rely on their parents to realize the idea of starting their own business.
The current economic environment is not very good, and it is still in a downward trend of the economy, and the development of all walks of life as a whole is not very prosperous.
For some fledgling graduates, they do not have a very clear and comprehensive understanding of the industry or field they are about to start a business, and even lack relevant experience and professional knowledge.
If you impulsively invest money in an unfamiliar industry, you will only end up in a wasted end.
In addition, many business tycoons now have rich resources and connections and dare not easily invest or open up a new field, so you can imagine how deep the water of self-employment is.
Once the business fails, most self-employed people will face huge economic losses, and at the same time, they will lose most of the savings accumulated by their parents in their lives.
This practice undoubtedly makes parents pay for their impulsiveness, ignorance and obstinence, and in the final analysis, it is still spending their parents' money to pursue unrealistic goals or ideas that are difficult to achieve.
The second manifestation is to continue to let parents support themselves in the name of pursuing further studies or obtaining various professional titles, such as taking the postgraduate entrance examination and public entrance examination.
It is true that passing these exams can complete the promotion of academic qualifications or get a stable job, but it is important to know that these exams have a certain pass rate, and not everyone can pass the exam successfully.
Every year, most of the candidates will fail the list, and some of these candidates who fail the list are more rational and directly choose to give up their studies and enter the society to participate in work.
There are also some candidates who do not want to accept such a reality or do not want to work, so they continue to take the next exam in the name of studying or further study.
Although such a spirit and ideas are worth advocating, whether it is a graduate school entrance examination or a public entrance examination, you must seriously consider your own and your family's economic situation, and you can't blindly follow your own ideas.
If you fail the exam many times, you will not only waste your time and energy, but also continue to rely on your parents to support you, and even need to pay high tuition fees, which is a lot of money for most ordinary families.
So in general, if your financial situation does not support you to complete your studies for a long time, then you must give up decisively, rather than relying too much on your parents, otherwise you may not complete your studies in the end, and drag down the family.
The above two are the new types of gnawing at the present that are more deeply hidden, in addition to some other manifestations, such as children asking their parents to arrange easy and stable jobs for themselves, or asking their parents to help them buy a house, a car, and household appliances when they get married.
Objectively speaking, parents are not obliged to take on these responsibilities, but based on traditional concepts and parents' excessive doting on their children, they will eventually choose to do their best to help their children start a family.
But as everyone knows, this kind of doting and indulgence of parents will only make young people in the new era more dependent on their elders, and now the trend of new gnawing on the old is becoming more and more obvious, and at the same time, it is also very harmful to the family.
It is not conducive to the future development and personal growth of children, and it will bring huge financial losses to the family and parents, and it is even possible to tear the whole family apart.
Therefore, parents should also change their thinking in time, do not spoil their children too much, and at the same time guide their children to establish a correct outlook on life and values.
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