On the way home with our children every day, it is the best time for us parents to understand their children and get closer to their parents. This time not only promotes emotional communication, but also helps to develop children's self-confidence and sense of responsibility.
However, in conversations with children, we parents often use some negative questions, which not only affects the effectiveness of communication, but also may weaken children's motivation. Now, let's take a look at how to interact with your child in a more positive way.
First, let's review some of the common negative questions, is there a violation of discipline?This sentence is essentially a negative question, and the subtext is that the parent is telling the child that "you always break discipline". This is actually a kind of prejudice and distrust of parents towards their children, which can easily cause children's rejection, and the atmosphere of parent-child conversation will naturally not be too pleasant. There are many more similar questions, and here are a few of them:
Did you bully someone today?”
Did you ever disobey at school?”
Did you get penalized today?”
Have you ever cursed?”
On the way home from school, if parents communicate with their children according to the above listed words, it is likely to be an ineffective communication, which will not only not enhance the relationship between parents and children, but will weaken the child's self-confidence and sense of responsibility.
There are several reasons for this.
1.The above parental questioning does not put the child in an equal position with the parents, it is a condescending and unequal one-way communication of the parents, which can easily make the child impatient and rebellious.
2.The above parents' questions all point to the child's negative and negative behavioral qualities, and parents can easily hit their child's self-confidence.
3.It is easy for children to think that parents want to blame themselves, so they choose to hide or lie to their parents, which is not conducive to cultivating children's sense of responsibility.
4.Children need positive encouragement and support as they grow up, and when communicating, we should pay attention to guiding children with a positive attitude and paying attention to children's strengths and achievements.
In fact, on the way home from school, it is not appropriate for parents to talk to their children about negative and negative behaviors. The disadvantages are as follows:
On the one hand, the communication effect is not good, and it is not beneficial to the correction of the child's negative and negative behavior;
On the other hand, it will cause children to have disgust and be unwilling to continue to communicate with their parents, which will affect the parent-child relationship.
Parents should talk to their children about positive, light-hearted, and happy topics, such as the following.
What did you eat at school today?”
What fun games did you play between classes?”
What interesting things did you do today?”
If you were given a score of 10 out of 10, how would you rate yourself?”
What good friends did you make today?”
Therefore, we should avoid negative questions on the way home with our children, and adopt more positive, relaxed, cheerful, and happy topics to make it easier for parents to put down their shelves and communicate with their children on an equal footing, and it is also easier to open children's hearts and enhance children's desire to express, which is beneficial to enhance the relationship between parents and children. For example, ask your child what they ate at school, what fun games they played, or give them a chance to evaluate their performance today. Such inquiries are easier to break the silence, bring the parent-child relationship closer, and contribute to the overall development of the child. Follow me, learn a little parenting knowledge every day, be a better parent, and help your children become talents.