Recently, on a cold night in Shijiazhuang, Hebei Province, a 10-year-old boy went missing.
It sounds like the opening scene of a movie, but it's a real thing. Imagine that the child should have come out of the studio with a heart full of joy, but wandered around the neighborhood until he walked out of the door and disappeared into the cold night.
Parents are anxious and post missing person notices, which can't help but remind people that this child is tired of the continuous extracurricular classes
It is understood that the suddenly missing child was arranged by his parents to be full of extracurricular classes - art, mathematics, piano ......I have to say that behind these seemingly glamorous courses is a heavy burden on children.
There is no doubt that parents have good intentions and they want their children to be successful, but they ignore their children's feelings.
This reminds me of an idiom: "Drawing a tiger is not an anti-dog", originally I wanted to make the child a unique "tiger", but I didn't expect that such a way of training would make the child feel suffocated.
On that cold night, the rescue team braved the cold wind to find the child in the low temperature of minus 16.
Does this scene make you feel sad?In the end, the child was found under the balcony of a residential area, thinly dressed and frozen all night.
Think about how traumatic such an experience would be for a 10-year-old!
Nowadays, parents have higher and higher expectations for their children's learning Xi, and they want to raise all-round children. But the question is, is this kind of education really suitable for every child?Every child is unique, they have their own interests and strengths, and we can't use the same ruler to measure every child.
A 10-year-old child who went missing in a community in Shijiazhuang, Hebei Province, is not just a family's anxiety.
You must know that this child was arranged by his parents with a full of extracurricular classes, from art to mathematics to piano, which occupied almost all of his time.
Obviously, the child's escape is not only a physical distance, but also a spiritual cry.
It is not difficult to see that modern parents are too anxious about their children's education, they want their children to excel in all aspects, thus ignoring their children's real interests and wishes. This kind of excessive expectation and arrangement often brings huge psychological pressure to children.
Children are forced to attend various tutoring classes, which not only loses the joy of childhood, but also may bury psychological problems.
We often say that education is slow work, and parents and children need to explore and experience together.
But in reality, many parents ignore the importance of their children's individualized development because of their panic about the future, anxiety about comparison and competition. They often believe that as long as their child attends more tutoring classes, they will be able to succeed in the future. This mode of thinking is actually a misunderstanding.
Children's growth should not only be a competition for grades, but more importantly, the growth of the soul and the cultivation of interests.
So, how should we balance that as parents?
First and foremost, it is important to understand and respect your child's interests and strengths. Every child has their own characteristics and interests, and imposing too much Xi content on children that they are not interested in will only backfire.
Secondly, parents should learn to let go and give their children enough space to explore and make mistakes. Excessive protection and arrangement will deprive children of the opportunity to think independently and solve problems. Finally, establish a good line of communication with your child. Parents need to be friends and guides for their children, not just commanders.
Therefore, children's education should not be just wishful thinking on the part of parents. It should be a two-way process, taking into account parents' expectations while respecting the child's choices and development.
As parents and guides, we need to listen to our children's voices and understand their needs and confusions.
In this story, we see a 10-year-old child who ends up getting lost in a cold night because his parents have too high expectations for him and enrolls him in too many extracurricular classes.
This is not only a tragedy, but also a warning.
First, we must recognize that education should not be an endless competition.
The kindness of parents often unconsciously turns into oppression of children. They want their children to be all-rounders, but they ignore their children's personalities and interests. This mentality of "hoping for a son to become a dragon" often leads to increased psychological pressure on children, and even goes to extremes.
Children's education should not be a tool for parents to realize their unfulfilled dreams, but should help them grow into independent and healthy individuals.
Second, we must rethink the true purpose of education.
Education is not only about learning Xi knowledge and skills, but also about cultivating children's independent thinking ability, problem-solving ability and sound personality. Parents should encourage their children to explore their own interests rather than blindly pursuing academic achievement.
Each child has their own characteristics and talents, and we should respect and nurture this uniqueness.
Furthermore, we should promote a healthy educational environment.
Society's education for children should be supportive and encouraging, not pressure and competition. Parents, schools and society should all work together to create an environment where children can grow up healthy. This includes reducing unnecessary academic stress, providing diverse Xi opportunities, and focusing on your child's mental health.
Finally, parents and educators need to keep Xi and improving.
Education is a profound discipline that requires parents and educators to continue to learn Xi and practice. We should constantly reflect on and improve our educational methods to ensure that they are adapted to the needs of children and the development of society.
In conclusion, the lessons of this story are profound.
We must revisit our educational philosophy and approach to ensure that our children can grow up in a healthy, supportive environment.
Only in this way can we raise a truly independent, healthy and capable next generation.