Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
Author: Cong Hui (parents intensive reading author).
Ever heard of it?It's easy to get depressed if you don't play enough.
The answer is unquestionable.
Dr. Stuart Brown, founder of the American Play Institute, mentioned in a speech that play is not just entertainment, but also helps prevent depression.
Experts have divided the rats into two groups, one group that can play freely, while the other group is restricted.
Subsequently, the experts placed a collar with a cat smell into the activity area of the two groups of mice.
As a result, all the rats, having smelled the scent, quickly fled and hid.
Soon after, it was found that the rats that were playing freely quickly came out to probe their brains, while the rats that were restricted from playing did not come out and ended up trapped in the activity area.
It can be seen that restricting play can lead to depression and mental health disorders.
Similarly, if a child's play is restricted, it is equivalent to depriving them of the opportunity to develop freely, which may lead to the child becoming introverted, lacking energy, and even affecting their physical and mental health.
In the Blue Book of China's National Mental Health Development Report (2019-2020), a group of data on the psychological status of adolescents and children found that:
In 2020, the detection rate of depression among adolescents in China was 246%, of which: mild 172% and 74%。
So,The best education for a family is not to instill knowledge in their children, but to teach them how to play.
It is in a child's nature to playThe famous educator Chen Heqin once said: "Children are naturally lively and active, and their lives are centered on play. For children, play is their life. ”
In other words, whether at home or in kindergarten, children can play normally and do not need to be stopped or restricted.
It is a child's nature to play, and the more playful a child is, the smarter he is.
A high school student named Rao Yike in Quzhou, Zhejiang Province, won the honorary title of the 18th "Tomorrow's Little Scientist".
In an interview with reporters, she revealed her naughty experience as a child. Whether it's the electric light at home or the broom, it's her toy.
However, it was this curiosity and desire to explore that led her to the path of science.
By chance, Rao Yike became interested in a smart home appliance product. She began to study how the product worked, trying to disassemble and assemble it herself.
Gradually, Rao Yike began to love disassembly and assembly, and she always actively participated in every school science and technology event.
The former Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky once said: "By doing manual activities regularly, children can transfer wisdom to the brain." ”
In the process of disassembly and assembly, Rao Yike not only learned a lot of knowledge, but also cultivated his hands-on ability and innovative thinking.
Parents teaching their children to play will be an asset for life.
On rainy days, small puddles on the ground are a playground for children aged 3-6.
They would step on it a few times, pluck it with their little hands, and even pick up a leaf to use as a boat.
Many mothers often see their children playing in the water and are busy trying to stop them.
But the wise mother, when she sees the child playing in the water, not only does not stop the child, but also immerses the child in the process of playing. Play is a child's nature and instinct, and through play, they can explore and experience the world while exercising their thinking and hands-on abilities to enjoy joy and confidence.
It can be seen that play is a common feature of children and an important part of children's lives. In home education, it is very necessary for parents to teach their children to play properly.
Following nature is the best education for children
Rousseau mentioned in his book "Emile": "Human nature is inherently good, and parents should conform to their children's nature, which is conducive to the healthy development of their children's physical and mental health." "Some time ago, I was shocked by the ** of several children playing with mud. A few children gather on a beach in the suburbs and play happily as they build a castle. The children built a hill with small shovels and buckets, and then used small shovels to dig a small ditch to divert water from the side to the small ditch.
Then, they began to build the castle out of mud, and the pieces of mud became vivid and vivid in their hands, and in a few moments, the magnificent and beautiful castle was displayed in front of the screen.
Several children jumped around the castle excitedly and proudly.
Netizens also swiped the screen and left messages, and shouted in surprise: "They are not playing with mud at all, this is simply engaging in artistic creation." ”
So,Parents who love their children should protect their children's nature and let them play and grow freely.
Not letting children play is undoubtedly erasing the child's nature.
I saw a mother on Weibo who posted her child's summer vacation schedule and caused heated discussions.
It turned out that her children were filled with tutorial classes except for 7 days of travel and vacation, and as for free play time, not to mention.
No matter how much knowledge is fed to the child, the child is forbidden to play freely, and the child grows up against the child's freedom, will the child be happy?
Let's not underestimate children who are restricted from playing in childhood.
Psychiatrist Stuart Brown has surveyed the childhood lives of several adult offenders and found that 75% of them had little or no normal gaming experience during their childhood formative years.
These people do not fully enjoy free play in childhood, and may grow up unhappy, unsociable, and even difficult to adapt to a new environment.
He called on parents to give their children plenty of play time and unfettered play experience in order to promote the healthy growth of their children.
Parents who love their children should allow their children to be happy in their own way, not restrict or confine.
Parents who love their children should allow their children to grow freely and unleash their talents and potential.
The best education for children is to let their nature be fully respected and exploredLet them grow freely and pursue their own interests and dreams. 
Let children learn to play as they grow
Jack Ma made a thought-provoking remark at the Big Data Summit:
If we continue to use the teaching methods of the past, and do not allow our children to have time to play, experience, and learn Xi piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, then I can predict that in 30 years, our children will face the dilemma of not being able to find a job. ”
Because children can't compete with machines, smart technology.
In the future, big data and intelligence will replace all things in the field of human knowledge, and the key to the competition between humans and machines lies in wisdom and experience.
While knowledge can be acquired through learning Xi, wisdom cannot be acquired directly through learning Xi, but can only be cultivated through experience.
Therefore,Children who can't play will suffer and will be held back.
Of course, emphasizing the need to play doesn't mean letting children play without limits.
We can help children with high-quality play to promote their better growth.
Here are a few tips for parents:
1. Parents play with their children
Child psychologist Dr. Lawrence Cohen says that play and play are a bond that builds a strong bond between parents and children, resulting in smooth communication and a deeper affection for each other.
Parents try to participate in their children's play, do not need to lead the whole game process, as long as they cooperate with their children to create a good, safe and comfortable play environment, and give help to children when necessary.
2. Encourage children to play with their peers
Russell said,After the child is three or four years old, the family should not be the only space for them to move, but let them spend part of their time socializing with children of the same age.
Therefore, encouraging children to play with other friends will not only make them more enjoyable, but also gain friendships and develop interpersonal skills.
3. Guide children to play with high quality
The ability to play is one of the main criteria for judging children's mental health. This is a quote from the American anthropologist Ashley Montagu.
We should not be utilitarian in play, and we don't have to expect children to make too much progress from it.
Instead, we can guide children to high-quality play, such as outdoor sports or games, to help them achieve better physical and mental health.
After all,Play is one of the essential lessons for children's growth.
Only by giving it back to the child and letting the child play to his heart's content can he finally have more gains, and even such children will become smarter and smarter the more they play.
Is there a better way to allow children to have joy and wisdom in their own way?
Dr. Marth, an American education expert, said: "Making children excel is not about recognizing words in advance, but about games, games, games." "Say important things three times.
Because play allows children to devote themselves to it, play stimulates the brain, and stimulates children's imagination and creativity.
Children's growth is inseparable from games, and the home is precisely the stage for children's games.
If you have a child who can play at home, whether it's doodling, dancing, or sweating with the neighborhood kids, congratulations: your kids are great!
Because, children who can play will be competitive in the future. Teaching children to play is the best home education that our parents must give them.
May every child grow up happily in learning to play. About the author: Smart, rich book columnist, always love the words in the pen, article: Evolution of parents, the copyright of this article belongs to Fushu, unauthorized, shall not be **, infringement must be investigated, Fushu launched a new book "Shielding Force".