After getting married, people who show off these things in front of people are really stupid
My name is Li Yue, an ordinary city girl, I grew up under the care of my parents, and after graduating from university, I worked in a well-known company, with a stable income and a good social circle. A year ago, my boyfriend and I, who have been in love for many years, entered the palace of marriage, thinking that we would live happily ever after. However, life after marriage was not as I wished, and some seemingly trivial things gradually exposed the rift between us.
When I first got married, my husband and I both liked to show affection, travel, and food in the circle of friends. Whenever we receive likes and blessings from our friends, we are always full of joy. But as time went on, I began to find that this ostentatious seemed to be a burden between us.
Once, we posted a photo of a high-end restaurant in our circle of friends. **, food, wine, candlelight reflect our happy smiles. However, the truth behind it is that we are arguing over this meal. My husband thinks this kind of consumption is a demonstration of our quality of life, but I feel that it is a waste. In the end, the meal was not pleasant, and that ** became the beginning of our conflict.
As time went on, there were more and more similar things. Our husbands always show off our material life in front of others, but neglect our spiritual communication. I feel that our marriage is becoming more and more impetuous, and the glamour on the surface cannot hide the emptiness and loneliness in the heart.
One night, my husband posted a picture of our newly purchased luxury car ** in the circle of friends. The moment I saw this news, I suddenly felt an inexplicable boredom. The car was purchased with a loan to satisfy his vanity, and the pressure of monthly repayments took my breath away. And he doesn't seem to care about this, just indulges in the envy and praise of others.
Don't you think it's stupid to do that?I couldn't resist saying to him, "We're under a lot of pressure for the superficial stuff and ignore the really important stuff." ”
My husband was stunned, obviously not expecting me to say that. He was silent for a moment, then silently deleted the post. At that moment, I saw a trace of remorse and guilt in his eyes.
Since then, we have started to re-examine our marriage and life. We have reduced the ostentatious behavior on social ** and paid more attention to each other's inner needs and spiritual communication. We cook, walk, chat, learn Xi new things ...... togetherGradually, we regained the feeling of being in love with each other.
Looking back on those days, I realize that showing off doesn't bring true happiness and satisfaction. On the contrary, it will only plunge us into a never-ending vortex of comparison and vanity. True happiness should be peace of mind and contentment, mutual respect and understanding between husband and wife, and a process of growing together.
Today, my husband and I have learned how to be happy in the midst of ordinary and how to grow together with each other's support. We no longer need to prove anything to the outside world, and we no longer care about what others think and say. Because we know that true happiness is not exposed to the sun, but managed with heart.