Everyone knows what "doing" is in love, right?It's those who are willful, petty-tempered, and deliberately find fault. When cute, it's like a condiment, adding a little spice to the relationship;If it goes too far, it will turn into poison and disturb the two of them. Recently, several couples around me have broken up because of "work", which makes me want to talk more about this topic.
What should I do if there is a problem with "doing"?
First of all, stop and stop "doing". Most of the time, post-breakup entanglements (text bombardment, constant calling) only exacerbate the problem. In fact, everyone knows what they are doing when they are "doing". This is a gambler's mentality: if the other person endures his or her "doing", it proves that they love us. But in reality, it will only make the other person further away from you.
Why do we "do"?
Many times, "doing" stems from our lack of security and high expectations of relationships. You want to gain a sense of stability by controlling your partner, but that's not the case with love. We have to learn to control our emotions instead of expecting the other person to adapt.
How to adjust yourself?
The first is self-reflection. Is it that we are asking too much, or is the other party giving too little?If it's the former, we need to learn to converge. If it's the latter, then consider whether we can accept such a relationship. For our own "work", we must have an in-depth understanding from the original family, growth experience, etc.
How do I keep in touch with my ex?
It is important to maintain a weak connection with your ex. For example, like their social feed, but don't send unsolicited messages. They may not want to fall into an emotional vortex in the early stage. So, don't rush to define your relationship, but slowly build a new connection.
How do I reconnect?
When reconnecting, reduce your "availability". Don't let the other person feel like you're easy to get. At the same time, maintain a steady mood and don't let your ex feel any pressure. When the relationship is close, appropriately distance yourself and give each other some space.
Finally, how do you express your understanding?
Late at night, people's hearts are particularly fragile. At this time, proper empathy and understanding are very important. Remember, don't send too long messages to avoid putting too much pressure on the other person. According to the reaction of the predecessor, the ties were gradually strengthened.
In short, "work" is a double-edged sword in love. The key is to grasp a degree. When you notice signs of impatience, it's time to stop. Let's work together to move towards a mature and stable love!If you have any questions, or want more advice, feel free to talk to me!Let's say goodbye to "made" love and embrace a more mature and healthy love relationship!