At a good age, many people live comfortably and lazily. They complain every day that fate is unfair, but they don't think about itThe meaning of life, and will not work hardRead a book。Such an attitude towards life makes them more and more unlucky the more they complain. However, if we can adjust our direction, turn missed opportunities into new beginnings, and turn adversity into good times, we can open up new horizons.
There is a hospice in the United States**BraunNeigh Meyer wrote a book called "25 Things You'll Regret Before You Die." Among them, the first regret she mentioned was wishing that she had the courage to live what she really wantedlife。This also reveals that many people fail to pursue what they really want when they are young, and when they are old and regret, the things they want to pursue are no longer the original effect.
After all, the elderlyRead a bookIt is often for self-cultivation, and young peopleRead a bookare often more utilitarian. Therefore, we should realize the importance of earning and saving at a young age and not throw everything away and leave nothing behind. When you reach the age of 30, you should have a family and a business, and you will deeply realize the importance of family chores. However, if we work hard but don't have the cost and wisdom to achieve nothing by the age of 40, then our lives are likely to start to become stereotyped. So, we can't ignore the consequences of being lazy at a young age, otherwise sooner or later we will pay the price.
As the saying goes, a person's unhappiness is only temporary, but many people are unhappy in every possible way, thinking about the worst in everything, causing their emotions to lose control and make extreme behaviors. This mindset allows us to create our own sufferinglifeThere is no freedom and no happiness. Smart people know how to say happy things to themselves when they are in a bad mood and don't care about other people's jokes. We can take a break from work and enjoy dinner with our families, instead of going to a party and ending up drunk all night. I went out to look at the scenery, but I saw the garbage heap and smelled the sweat of others. We have to understand that life is our own, why bother to be jealous and give it to others?We should not be influenced by criticism, but rather see it as an opportunity to improve our own shortcomings. If we dwell on other people's criticism, we will only make ourselves feel bad and become hostile to others.
We often hear the old people say, "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, don't be cattle and horses for your children and grandchildren". When we get older,lifeWhen it gets tough, it may have something to do with the performance of the children. We keep complaining about why our own children are so uselessbut we forget that we are interfering too much with our childrenlife, trying to guide their choice. All we do is just a foolish act – to take it for others, to fight for it. We should teach them to fish instead of giving them a fish. It is only when we raise our children well and force them to be independent that elderly parents can truly enjoy the blessings. Our family's predicament is not because we can't live well, but because family members are too closely connected. When we should let our children fight, we choose to control them, but it backfires. Our love and concern should have a measure and timeliness.
Zeng Guofanwrote: "WhenRead a book, thenRead a book, the heart is not attached to the guest;When you see a guest, you see a guest, and your heart is not focusedRead a bookAlso. "If you pick up a book, you concentrate on itRead a book, don't make small talk with guests;When you're talking to a guest, put the book down. Our minds should be focused on the present moment, not a hammer in the east and a mallet in the west. Let the things of the past pass, and let the things of the future wait for them to come. We have to do the things we are doing well in the present, so that we can enjoy happinesslife。However, we often dwell on the past or worry about the possibilities of the future, which prevents us from truly experiencing the happiness of the present.
5. Accept fate: Don't complain, to grasp your life is always full of uncertainties and challenges. Some people are overly concerned with fate, complaining about others, believing that their misfortune is due to external reasons. However, fate is not entirely in our hands, but we can control our attitudes and actions. Accepting one's destiny means not holding grudges, but facing challenges positively and working hard to change one's destiny. Instead of seeing ourselves as victims, we should be masters of our own destiny and face it with a positive attitudelifeups and downs and twists and turns.
Modern society attaches great importance to material thingslifeThe pursuit of higher income and better materiallife。However, the excessive pursuit of material comforts often leads to spiritual emptiness and insatisfaction. We should learn to balancelife, pay attention to their own inner needs, and pursue their own spiritual satisfaction. Spiritual satisfaction can come from learning XiRead a book, travel, art, and other forms. True happiness and fulfillment can only be achieved when both the material and spiritual levels are satisfied.
To sum up, there are many things in life that we cannot control, but we can choose our attitudes and actions. We should strive to pursue our dreams, not to care too much about other people's opinions, and not to control our children too muchlifeDon't worry too much about the possibilities of the future, focus on the present, accept your destiny, and keep itlifeof balance. Only in this way can we live a life full of happiness and fulfillment.