Hello everyone, I'm Huang Xiaomeow.
Recently, "Love's Study Trip" has been on the air, and many people are laughing at the sugar of the couple Mengyao and He Youjun.
Many netizens were not optimistic about them at all before, because they had the filters of wealthy sons and supermodels in the entertainment industry, and felt that they had no love at all.
also said that Xi Mengyao was clinging to the wealthy family, waiting to see the jokes of the wealthy daughter-in-law.
However, in the show, I saw their good interaction and communication.
The show has more or less traces of performance, but the feeling they reveal can be seen that there is indeed not only a relationship of interest, but a flow of love, which really doesn't look like acting.
The most impressive thing is that everyone chats together.
He Youjun said:There are many people in my family, there are many voices, whether it is opposition or agreement, everything has to be brought out, and the debate has been debated for three days and three nights. When I grew up, I had the ability and responsibility and space to choose and run my own family, and I didn't listen to other people's opinions.
On the day I got engaged, we said that our small family will always be higher than the big family.
can say such things, at least it shows that He Youjun has a clear attitude towards marriage.
What's more, in the big family of the gambling king, there is a complex family environment and a strong mother.
But he is not loyal to his family, not what his family says.
It's a commitment"A small family takes precedence over everyone", "I love her more than my son and daughter".
With this kind of understanding, it is better than many people.
In fact, they are also trying to manage their own small family.
It is said that Xi Mengyao returned to work not long after giving birth.
They did not live with their families, but lived with their children in a large mansion in Shanghai.
It can be seen that they have fought for a great deal of independence.
In fact, living separately is really a good way to reduce family conflicts.
After all, living together, the three views and life Xi are different, and family members are more likely to have friction.
No matter how small things are, they will be infinitely magnified, and no matter how good the relationship is, it needs a sense of distance.
The life of ordinary people is like this, not to mention the wealthy families whose situation is more complicated.
After Guo Jingjing got married and became pregnant, she moved out of the Huo family with her husband Huo Qigang and lived their own lives.
Their choice is to protect their small family from the influence of the large family environment, and to provide a relaxed and happy environment for themselves and their children.
A small family is better than everyone else, so that you can truly live your own life.
With such a choice, in the family, the man must show toughness and attitude.
Otherwise, it is not easy to achieve.
In fact, among wealthy families, economic interests are bound to come first, but He Youjun can say that "small families take precedence over everyone", which is a resolute attitude.
Don't be die-hard about your family, but take responsibility for yourself.
In fact, many people have a lot of problems in marriage, because of their loyalty to their original family.
A friend of mine and her husband often quarrel and divorce.
Because every time she had a conflict with her husband's family, her husband accused her of not.
said that she was ignorant and inconsiderate.
In the eyes of her husband, whether it is her parents or siblings, they are more important than her wife.
My friend was devastated and felt like he was always an outsider.
In fact, many mom bao men are like this.
After having his own family, he was indiscriminate and listened to his mother for everything.
Said my mom told me to do this, my mom told me to say that.
This is also a phenomenon of family loyalty.
Because you can't get rid of the cage of the original family, the bad Xi in the original family will be inherited to yourself.
The essence is that men do not grow up at all, like children, and are incapable of taking on family responsibilities.
If you leave everything to your mother, you will never grow up, and you will not be able to manage your own small family.
There are also people who do anything, and the only indicator is the requirements of the family.
For example: for the object that you don't like, but still decide to be together.
It's because: my parents think he is very good and want me to marry him.
For the civil service examination, some people actually don't like it but squeeze their heads into it.
It's because: my family said that civil servants were good and wanted me to take the civil service exam.
For Voldemort, I don't want to help but I have to.
It's because: my parents said that I want to be sensible and obedient, and they want me to help.
The essence of this devotion to the family is that they don't know themselves at all, and they don't know what they want.
Being influenced by the original family or PUA is too deep to know it.
We are all more or less influenced by our family of origin, but when we have a sense of independence, we should keep our distance from our family of origin.
Every adult needs to show courage and wisdom to take responsibility for what they do and what they do.
He Youjun commented on Xi Mengyao and said: She is very prosperous, and with her, I am becoming more and more lucky.
It can also be seen from this that their union makes each other better and better.
Such a marriage is undoubtedly the right person.
People who are loyal to their original family do not have a complete and independent personality, let alone find happiness.
Only by not being loyal to the original family can you get out of your own way.
(Refer to Mr. Fan Deng's interpretation of "Intimate Relationship").
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