Take care of yourself again, don't rely on others, don't complain about others, believe in yourself, improve your abilities, and take care of yourself again. The twilight of the year is cold, and the new year is coming as scheduled. Time flies, we are urged to grow up, we are chased forward, but we rarely have the opportunity to stop and see if we are doing well. Teacher Luo Xiang said: ".Please be sure to save yourself from the fire and water in this world again and again, three times and thousands of times, without hesitation。"At the beginning of 2024, you might as well take care of yourself again. Pull yourself out of the swamp of life and don't let yourself stay where you are. Brush the dust off your body and heal the wounds on your body. Let yourself be seen and loved deeply, and only then can you have the courage to embark on a new journey.
Most of us are "wounded". On the surface, we are glamorous adults, but only we know that our inner child is burdened with all kinds of past wounds and has not yet healed itself. Some people have not been pampered and respected since childhood, and when they grow up, they have been trapped in a sense of low deity, and they don't know how to love themselves and others;Some people have been denied and suppressed, never daring to express their needs and ideas, and dare not say "no". The inner child has never felt unconditionally loved, and this sense of lack will always be struck by a certain detail in life, and confrontation, quarrel or conflict will erupt. My classmate Xiaoyang grew up in a family where her parents quarreled and fought, and she always longed for a perfect love to make up for the shortcomings of her original family. But almost all of the boyfriends she has dated are copies of her father. She has worked hard to please and please every relationship, but she has never been cared for or treated kindly. Every time it ends in a quarrel. She didn't know why she gave so much, but she couldn't get love. Xiaoyang collapsed, found all kinds of consultations, and sought all kinds of help, and finally she had to face the fact that the injured inner child could only heal by herself, and could not rely on others to save her. Fortunately, we have grown up now, and we have the ability to turn back and protect that weak self, give him support, and let him grow up well. Xiaoyang began to learn to listen to his own needs. She learned to buy flowers for herself, and gave herself a full sense of ritual every festival, no longer waiting for others to give. She learned to spend money for herself, buy clothes she likes, learn yoga and dance, and make up for the pain that she was neglected since childhood. She learns to give herself affirmation, accepts her imperfect body, and enjoys food and sports. As she learns to accept herself, she feels the cracks in her inner child slowly repair. People will always be trapped in their lives by things that are unattainable when they are young. But we now have the ability to respond to our own desires, to take responsibility for our own needs, and to grow up with our inner child. No more complaints about the past;No more blaming for others。It's nice that I can take responsibility for my own well-being. 
Jiang Xunqian is the first female heir of the Iron Flower in the past thousand years. Hitting the iron flower, the ultimate romance of 1600 °C, the molten iron is hit by a flower stick, and it turns into a bright sky and falls. Jiang Xunqian is a self-** blogger, she hopes to let more people know about this intangible cultural heritage, so she wants to learn from a teacher, but at first she was always rejected because of her identity as a girl. Because it is too dangerous, the slightest mistake can be disfigured and injured, and few girls have studied for thousands of years. But she didn't believe in this tacit concept, and she impressed ** with sincerity and persistence. More than a month of thousands of exercises, beating stones, sand, water, iron flowers. Fight again and again, and overcome the fear of facing the flames. Finally, she succeeded in beating the iron flowers into the sky and the fire trees and silver flowers in the silence. She interprets the power of women with her actions, and the thousands of silver flowers that men have passed down for thousands of years bloom in her hands, shining for it, which is the glory of breaking through the shackles, telling us: don't set limits for yourself, nothing is impossible. The world in which we live will always imperceptibly build high walls for thinking, internalize various thinking patterns, and artificially set up various restrictions and obstacles. When we have the courage to dismantle these restrictions, the process is difficult and painful, but we will find that the world suddenly becomes clearer. If you don't believe in girls anymore, you can't play iron flowers, and more people in this world will see the courage of women and strive for more possibilities for women. Stop asking for security from the world, and when you try to give something to the world, you will find that your heart becomes full. No longer cling to the so-called accurate answers, it's okay for you to have worldly success at the age of 30, and it's okay for you to be married at the age of 35. Life is not a single track, it is a wilderness, try more, don't be limited. Break the limits and let everything you experience in life to raise your awareness, and you will receive more hidden easter eggs in life. 
Our fear of the unknown stems from negative imagination of the future, and our worries are beyond our ability to bear. So they will let themselves stay in their comfort zone and dare not break through. Amplifying fear will make people choose the next best thing, choose stability, and give up the infinite possibilities of the upper limit. Therefore, in the face of difficulties in the workplace, difficulties in life, and emotional dilemmas, many times it is because of the fear of the future that sways, and finally forces myself to choose forbearance, wronged myself, and barely survives. However, this is too embarrassing for myself. Dong Yuhui said: ".A person's concentration ultimately determines how far he goes. The right original intention is your blessing, which will one day become your armor and lighthouse. When Zhou Shen was unknown, he could only record his favorite songs in a rental house and spread them on the Internet. **This road, Zhou Shen walked very bumpy. Because of improper training methods, he almost couldn't sing with a small nodule on his vocal cords, and sought medical treatment everywhere. participated in "The Voice of China", he was a singer who was selected and eliminated by his mentor. Because of his unique voice, he has been subjected to all kinds of cynicism and denial. Every time he was at a low point, he insisted on gritting his teeth and choosing, because he loved ** deeply and never chose to give up. He did not miss every opportunity, sang "Big Fish" and became popular all over the country, participated in various ** programs, and made the world amazed by his ** again and again. Zhou Shen's ** dream came true step by step, and he finally became a hot singer. The well-known blogger Fang Qi once said: "There will be a dark tunnel in everyone's life, long or short, but don't be afraid, persevere, there will always be light ahead." "In this life, the only way to resolve the fear of unknown risks is the firmness and courage in one's own heart. The road to success is not crowded, but there are many people who choose to give up. Those who can persevere to the end are people with determination. Only by facing oneself sincerely, improving one's ability, cultivating one's mind, and shaping one's own concentration can one live up to one's original intention. When you are at a low point, tell yourself to grit your teeth and persevere, maybe with just one more chance, you will see the light in the distance. So, as you embark on the journey of life, anchor yourself in your direction and move forward with determination.
Take care of yourself again, don't rely on others, don't complain about others, believe in yourself, improve your abilities, and take care of yourself again. Nurture your heart, give yourself the love and tenderness you want, and live the way you want. Cultivate cognition, no longer set limits for yourself, and embrace infinite possibilities and freedom. Cultivate concentration, be loyal to your heart, and accompany yourself to the distance you want to go. May you give yourself enough support and love yourself well in the new year so that you can be full of kindness to the world.
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