Health for All says
Nowadays, depression is a well-known disease, but there are still some parents who look at their sick children with prejudiced eyes, and even use hurtful words to treat their children's requests for help, making their children more painful.
Last week, Xiao Liu, an 18-year-old female college student, came to the outpatient clinic. Xiao Liu just felt uncomfortable at first, his body was also tired and weak, he always felt helpless and inexplicably sad, and often cried in the middle of the night, after telling his parents, he didn't expect that his family not only didn't understand, but also felt that Xiao Liu was "pretending", so let her stop being so brainless and just want to open a little.
Xiao Liu wanted to say something again, so her mother said impatiently: "What are you pretending?".Don't make a fuss!”
hit Xiao Liu in one fell swoop.
Before this, Xiao Liu was only mildly depressed, and he could be cured by seeking medical treatment in time and cooperating with the doctor, and insisting on a few courses of treatment, but after hearing his mother's words, in Xiao Liu's words, "the sky has fallen, I don't know what I live for, and even my closest parents don't understand me."
As a result, Xiao Liu began to have severe physical symptoms, often bloating and diarrhea for unknown reasons, and at the same time, his energy and physical strength also decreased rapidly. I can't concentrate in class, and I usually feel that my memory is declining and I can't remember things;And there are also sleep problems, the most uncomfortable is insomnia, two or three weeks in a row until two or three o'clock in the middle of the night to fall asleep, and then the point will be woken up again.
The family's incomprehension and verbal injuries made Xiao Liu's already uncomfortable heart even more painful and made her psychological pressure even more serious. By the time Xiao Liu came to the hospital by himself, he had reached the level of severe depression and needed to be intervened with medication and hospitalized**.
During the consultation, Xiao Liu especially hoped that our doctor could give his family a **, so that the family could believe that he was indeed sick, instead of pretending. But when we called, Xiao Liu's parents were still skeptical, and they didn't want to believe that their child would have mental illness. In the end, it was only after saying that my parents rushed to the hospital.
In fact**Xiao Liu's depression is not difficult, through drugs**assisted psychology**, coupled with industrial and entertainment adjustment, the symptoms can be basically controlled in one month, and follow-up consolidation and maintenance**, Xiao Liu can get rid of depression.
But the difficulty is that Xiao Liu's ** is not in herself, but in her parents. If the parents do not change and are still skeptical about Xiao Liu's illness, thinking that the child is deliberately pretending to attract attention, and even heartache for the child's treatment money, then even if Xiao Liu is discharged from the hospital, in the future, in such a living environment, he will still be hurt by his parents' words and cause depression.
Therefore, in the follow-up process, we are also forming a family alliance, striving to change the concept of parents and coordinate the parent-child relationship.
In fact, many times, children's depression, anxiety and other mental illnesses are often the best in the family, and now the pace of social life is accelerating, children have heavy studies, parents have busy work, and everyone has difficulties. However, compared with adults, children are immature, have insufficient social experience, and lack the ability to deal with emotions, so they are more likely to be affected by negative emotions, especially those from their original families.
It is not enough to give the child only material support and be stingy with moral support. Without the care and love from both parents, the child's heart is always unfulfilling. For those sick children, when they take the initiative to ask for help but do not get an effective response and effective support from their parents, it is tantamount to adding fuel to the fire.
If the child has a problem, it should be solved, and if it can't be solved, seek more professional help, which is what a qualified parent should do.