I once lent my nephew 3,000 yuan, but he didn't ask me for it until he was critically ill. It was a big life choice for me. Over the years, I have kept my nephew's affairs in mind, but I have not taken the initiative to mention it.
I'm not a calculating person, and I don't like to show myself in front of my loved ones. That 3,000 yuan is not a lot for me, but it is a lot of money for my nephew who has just worked.
I hope he can put this money to good use and live a better life.
However, when his career was in full swing, replacing his luxury car and buying a new house, I still chose to remain silent. I don't want to affect the family relationship because of these trivial matters, and I don't want to emphasize the loan in front of my nephew.
Every time I see his luxurious life, I always feel a little bitter in my heart, but I still force a smile. It wasn't until he was terminally ill that he gave me a **. His hoarse voice came from the other end, and it made me feel a little sad.
He talked about his experience over the years, and also mentioned the 3,000 yuan. He said he had never forgotten the incident and was ready to give me the money back, whether or not he survived.
When I heard these words, I felt both moved and guilty. I didn't expect him to pay him back, I just wanted him to be safe. But he made such a decision, and I was impressed with him.
Perhaps, this illness can make him understand some things, and let me understand some things.
I comforted him, don't rush to repay the money first, the most important thing is to take care of your body. I could feel the gratitude and reluctance in his voice. We talked for a while, and at the end he told me to take care of myself and hung up.
This ** made me think deeply, should I insist that I pay back the money, or just let it go?After all, the relationship between relatives is not just something that can be measured by money.
But on the other hand, if I don't take action, will he misunderstand my good intentions?Faced with such a choice, I was torn apart. This ** made me ponder, should I insist that I pay the money, or just let it go?
After all, the relationship between relatives is not just something that can be measured by money. But on the other hand, if I don't take action, will he misunderstand my good intentions?Faced with such a choice, I was troubled.
When I was in a dilemma, a new one arose. I heard from a neighbor that my nephew was having some trouble with his business and was now in debt.
The news surprised me a little and reminded me of the fact that he used to borrow money from me. He borrowed money from me to start a business, but now it seems that his entrepreneurial journey is not smooth.
I wasn't sure if I should help him, or at least remind him of it, but I didn't know how to say it. I know I need to have a good talk with him, but I know it's not an easy conversation.
I decided to visit him, and when I walked into his home, I couldn't help but feel a little heartache when I saw his haggard face. We sat down, and he confessed his predicament to me, and he faced me with trembling, and it seemed that his heart was also full of anxiety.
Sir, I understand that I owe you a debt and I will definitely pay it back. There was a hint of nervousness in his voice, and I could feel his sincerity. "Sir, I know your current difficulties, and I did not come to you to urge you to repay the loan.
I took a deep breath, "I'm worried about you, I've heard that you're having some problems in your career. He was silent for a moment before telling me the truth.
It turned out that his partner betrayed him, which led to a huge loss of his career, and it was also for this reason that he had to borrow money from others. Hearing this, I couldn't help but feel sympathy for him.
This is also the first time he has confided in me in all these years, and maybe in his heart, I am not only a lender, but also a person who can be trusted.
We talked for a long time, and I shared some business tips. When it came time to say goodbye, he clasped my hand and thanked me. Looking at his back as he drifted away, my heart was full of heaviness.
This reunion has made me deeply aware of the transformation between us, and I don't know where to go in the face of such a change, and whether our relationship will still be as simple as before even if he pays back the arrears.
This thought has always haunted me. Does the dispute between my nephew and me reflect the legacy between me and my father?Perhaps, this is the unique connection between families, and it is also a puzzle that I have been unable to solve for a long time.
As I pondered, the bell rang again. This time it was my nephew's mother, my own sister, who called. She expressed concern about my nephew's condition, and also mentioned that my nephew constantly blamed himself during his illness and mentioned borrowing money.
My sister begged me to forgive my nephew and affectionately addressed me as "dear brother". My sister's plea made me feel even more entangled. I told my sister that I had never blamed my nephew and that I understood his current situation.
After hearing this, my sister said: "Dear brother, it is not easy for our two families, and my nephew has now repented and reformed, and this matter is over." We are a family, can we just let go of the past grievances and get along?
My sister's words touched my heart, and what she said also made me feel more entangled.
The strife of this family, like a rope that keeps pulling, plunged me into deep confusion. I was faced with a difficult choice: should I forgive my nephew, or should I insist that he pay his debts
It also seems to be a replay of the fate between me and my father. I don't know where this entanglement is going, I just know that the struggle is not over yet.
However, as I was immersed in my thoughts, something unexpected happened. Suddenly, I received a **, this time it was my nephew's mother, who was my sister.
Her voice was low and anxious, telling me that my nephew's condition had become serious and that the doctor said he needed an expensive and complicated operation immediately. I could tell my sister was really in need of my help this time.
I was shocked by this sudden request. I know I don't have a lot of savings on hand, and helping my nephew pay for his medical bills will undoubtedly put a certain amount of pressure on my own life.
But at the same time, I also understand that this is undoubtedly a very difficult time for my sister. I feel helpless in the face of this contradiction, what should I do right?
Deep down, I weighed the possible consequences back and forth. I can understand my nephew's struggle with this debt, and perhaps in his mind, paying this debt is a spiritual relief.
However, on the other hand, I was also touched by his decision because it showed a sense of responsibility and respect from him. However, just as I was lost in thought, I received an unexpected ** call from my son.
He said he had heard about his nephew's debt, but he was angry at me for not doing my job.
Dad, you see how capable your nephew is, and his business is booming, what about you, you are leisurely all day long, you have a house, a car and a deposit, and you don't travel yet. The 3,000 yuan will have to be repaid sooner or later, so why should it be left behind?
His words were full of reproach. I tried to explain, but he ignored it: "If you want to behave in a way, you still have to have some courage and principles, this is not a matter of weakness and timidity."
His words plunged me deeper into confusion. I had always hoped to be able to be tolerant of this, but my son's words sparked a deeper struggle within me.
Does he have a point?Am I really too weak?In the real world, do you really have to have a bit of courage to survive?
This ** makes me feel like the heavens and the earth are spinning. For a long time, I thought of myself as an open-minded and reasonable person, but now I'm starting to be confused and questioning the way I'm dealing with it.
Is tolerance not a virtue, but a manifestation of cowardice and incompetence?These questions lingered in my mind. The tension in this family conflict seems to be escalating.
My inner emotions began to become more tangled and anxious.
I was confused about my decision. The news of my nephew's critical illness made me start to re-examine this family relationship. I don't want to tarnish our relationship because of money, but I can't completely ignore the expectation of 3,000 dollars.
After all, every penny in life doesn't come easily. I'm not sure if I should let him pay it back or forgive him unconditionally. In the days that followed, I saw the full efforts of his family and hoped that I could forgive him and not take this incident to heart.
His parents apologized to me many times through ** and text messages, asking me for forgiveness and not bothering them about this matter. I understand their position, but deep down I still have concerns about the money my nephew owes me.
Gradually, however, the nephew ** and returned home. The news of his departure from the intensive care unit came as a relief to us. But when he mentioned that debt again, I was in a thoughtful situation.
Looking at his weak but determined eyes, I began to re-examine this relationship. Just then, he suddenly reached into my pocket and pulled out a stack of money.
He said:"Uncle, I always remember this debt, I have not forgotten. This hospitalization, I deeply reflected on a lot of things, and I don't want to owe anything to anyone. This is what I have saved, and I will give you back a penny.
He looked at me firmly and earnestly, his eyes revealing the determination and guilt. My mood was full of turmoil, and I wanted to refuse, but I felt that I couldn't let him down.
Eventually, I slowly took the money, but I told him that I would take it first, but it wouldn't be used, and I would slowly return it to him when he really recovered. He looked relieved, nodded slightly, and thanked me.
At this moment, my heart is intertwined with joy and sorrow. I gradually forgot my expectations for him, but the trauma of that family relationship is difficult to erase easily. Whether our bond will ever be restored has always been a source of concern for me.