Adolescence is a critical stage in a child's life development, and if puberty is excessive, the child will grow up smoothly;If you don't have a good education, you will start to learn badly from this time: start smoking, drinking, early love, start dyeing your hair, and start coming into contact with some gangsters in society.
In this critical period, the correct guidance of parents is crucial!
Therefore, parents need to understand the characteristics of their children's adolescence first, which will help them better understand and accept their children.
First, they begin to think independently and have their own opinions and judgments about things.
Parents may feel that their children suddenly seem to have grown up and become more assertive, and they are starting to become less obedient to their parents' words and instructions as they used to be. Of course, while you may feel relieved, you may also feel lost and out of control.
Secondly, their mood swings are large, they are easily influenced by the outside world, and they show the characteristics of sensitivity and irritability. Because of adolescent children, their bodies are close to adults, but the development of the brain has not caught up with the development of the body, coupled with the changes in hormone levels in the body, so that their emotions become more prone to fluctuations, these are normal physiological phenomena.
It's like a woman becomes sensitive, irritable, and prone to insomnia every week before her periodThere are also types of conditions during pregnancy and lactation, including menopause, which is actually a principle, that is, changes in the body's hormones are easy to cause. Therefore, as adolescent parents, they need to understand the characteristics of their children at this time.
In addition, they also desire independence, want to be free from the shackles of their parents, and pursue freedom and autonomy. At this stage, parents need to give their children more understanding and support to help them get through this stage and become more mature and confident people.
Therefore, parents of adolescent children need to do three things: understanding, respect, and tolerance!
Understand their physical changes, emotional changes;Respect their assertiveness and independent ideas;Be tolerant of what you do wrong, accept and love your children unconditionally, mistakes are the best time to grow!
Of course, it is not to let parents follow their children in everything, but to grasp the degree of parent-child education, grasp the big and let go of the small, and the principle of the issue must stick to the bottom line, such as safety issues, you can't ride a bicycle alone before the age of 12;Try to let the child have the final say on small things, such as what he is wearing today, write this homework or that homework first.
In addition, parents should pay special attention to the mental health of adolescent children, because at this time, children are affected by hormone levels, are easily impulsive, unable to control their emotions, and thus make some radical behaviors.
After understanding the characteristics of this stage of adolescence, parents need to tell their children some important things to help them better cope with the challenges and difficulties of adolescence.
Here are five things parents should definitely tell their children:
1. Sex education
Adolescence is a time of great physical and psychological changes in children, and sex education is a very important part of it. Parents need to tell their children about sexuality, including sexual organs, sexuality, contraception, and more. At the same time, parents also need to tell their children how to protect themselves from being abused and sexually harassed.
For sex education, many parents may feel that it is too early to educate at pubertySome parents may feel embarrassed and embarrassed!
In fact, when it comes to sex education, the sooner the better!From the age of 3, children begin to semi-detach themselves from the family environment and enter the school society, and they should begin to popularize sexual knowledge.
If parents feel embarrassed, they can also be more tactful, such as choosing a book suitable for their children, letting them know that they are from **, and letting their children know why they have acne, menstruation, beard, voice change, and so on.
I believe that many parents know more or less about sex education.
I would like to add here that regarding the health of girls, the focus is on the maintenance of the ovaries, which is the basis for making girls young and beautiful, and the key to whether the physical foundation is good in the future, and abortion is very harmful to the body, and there are many people who cannot have children in the future because of miscarriage, so it is very important to protect yourself.
Parents of boys should also tell their children to respect girls and not to do things that hurt girls, because some behaviors may affect her for the rest of her life.
2. Mental health
Adolescence is one of the most dramatic periods for children's psychological changes, and they may face many psychological pressures and challenges. Parents need to tell their children how to maintain mental health, including how to deal with stress, how to build good relationships, how to manage emotions, and more. At the same time, parents also need to encourage their children to express their emotions and feelings to help them build self-confidence and self-esteem.
At this age of puberty, parents should not put too much pressure on their children, because children have to work hard to adapt to their physical changes at this time, and they are also under relatively large pressure Xi school.
Taking children outdoors to play and exercise more often is also a good way to decompress, which requires a combination of work and rest.
Pay close attention to your child's mood and changes, and give timely guidance if there are any problems.
Of course, it is possible that many children are unwilling to communicate with their parents at this stage of adolescence, so parents can't help their children if they want toThe key is to establish a parent-child relationship first, and when the relationship is in place, the child is naturally willing to share it with you.
3. Social skills
Adolescence is a critical time for the development of children's social skills. Parents need to tell their children how to interact with people, how to build good interpersonal relationships, how to deal with contradictions and conflicts in interpersonal relationships, and so on. At the same time, parents also need to encourage their children to participate in various social activities to improve their social skills and self-confidence.
Some children grow up to be self-centered and don't care about other people's feelingsI don't want to do housework, and I don't want to help my classmates at school, so I often don't like itTherefore, some students will have low self-esteem, and will use some of their own ways to please their classmates, and they are not happy at school.
Good interpersonal relationships help to improve children's happiness and happiness!
Parents observe their children more and communicate more with their children to help them develop good social skills, and the children will be useful for life.
Fourth, learn Xi skills
Adolescence is a critical time for children to learn Xi skills. Parents need to tell their children how to learn Xi, how to improve Xi efficiency, how to master various Xi skills, and so on. At the same time, parents also need to encourage their children to read more, learn more Xi, explore new fields and knowledge, and improve their knowledge level and comprehensive quality.
At this time, the number of Xi subjects gradually increases, and the task is also heavier, if in the lower grades of primary school, there is no good XiXi learning habits, and there is no way to find out a set of suitable for children's own efficient Xi learning methods and skills, then in the next long Xi career, the more tired they learn, the more difficult they learn. Tell the child that sharpening the knife is not wrong to chop firewood!
It takes time to improve learning Xi skills, and it takes time to summarize the Xi learning methods that suit you, and the investment of these times is worth it, and the effect may not be obvious in a short period of time, and it also makes children feel that it has taken a lot of extra Xi time to learn, but in the future, learning Xi will be easier and easier, greatly saving their own time, improving their Xi learning efficiency, and having more time to do what they like.
5. Life planning
Adolescence is an important period for children's life planning. Parents need to tell their children how to plan their lives, how to set their own goals and plans, how to achieve their dreams, and so on. At the same time, parents also need to help their children understand their own interests and strengths, and guide them to choose a career and development direction that suits them. Long-term goals, what kind of career to do, what kind of life to live, may be too far for children;But in fact, it is not far away, and it is too late for college to start career planning.
In junior high school, I began to make academic planning, which high school I want to take the exam, what interests and hobbies I have, what specialties I have, and what major I choose in the first year of high school......The goal is like a lighthouse, stimulating the child's internal drive, so that the child can change from passive learning Xi to active learning Xi and parents can also be much easier.
In conclusion, adolescence is an important stage in children's development, and parents need to give their children adequate attention and support during this period. By telling children the above five things, it can help them better cope with the challenges and difficulties of adolescence and improve their overall quality and life planning ability.
Pay attention to Teacher Xie, children don't get lost in adolescent education!
Mr. Xie focused:Adolescent education, family education, spiritual growth, college entrance examination voluntary filling, high school subject selection, major selection, talent assessment case, psychological test, assessment.