Text|High baby.
In the past 365 days, we have tears and joys, regrets and gains, great disappointments, and wishes.
But for better or for worse, they have faded away with the ringing of the New Year's bell and are gone forever.
Today is the first day of 2024, and it is very significant. So, let's talk about some important topics in life.
1. About family style
As the old saying goes:
Moral heirlooms, more than ten generations, followed by farming and reading heirlooms, poetry and book heirlooms, rich heirlooms, but three generations.This passage can be explained in this way: good quality as a family style can be passed down for more than ten generations, reading and working as a family style is the second, reading is the third family style, and the transmission of money will not exceed three generations.
What this passage is trying to tell us is that good character is the foundation of a family's prosperity at all times.
If a family wants to prosper for a long time, the most important thing to pay attention to is moral inheritance. And the inheritance of money is the shortest-lasting, "rich for no more than three generations".
As Lin Zexu wrote in "Family Motto":
If my children and grandchildren are like me, what will I do with the money?If you are virtuous and rich, you will lose your ambition;Children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what do you do with the money?Foolishness and abundance of wealth increase their faults.
What determines a good family style?
The wife and husband are prosperous, the mother and children are filial, and the family and people are happy", this sentence in "Zengguang Xianwen" gives us the answer.
The hostess is the thriving core of a family, and a family, as long as there is an upright, hard-working, kind, and optimistic mother, even if it is a family with four walls, can become a safe haven for men, and a temple and source for children's spiritual growth.
Zhu Zi's Family Motto" has a cloud: The family is harmonious, although the food is not good, there is also residual joy. Family harmony and good fortune last.
What are the manifestations of improper family style?
, the young and the old are disordered
The most obvious manifestation of a family with improper family style is the disorder of the elderly, especially the lack of respect and fear of the elders by the juniors.
Freedom without rules can easily put a person in danger, and it will also lead a family to decline and decay.
, love takes advantage
Some people think that "it is a fool not to take advantage of the cheap", so as soon as you see that there is a cheap to take advantage of, you will definitely rush to the front.
Parents who love to take advantage of them can't raise generous children. And "there is no free lunch in the world", and those who are accustomed to being greedy for small and cheap will eventually suffer a big loss.
, blindly asking
Some people are accustomed to taking other people's contributions for granted, so they never cherish them, let alone know how to be grateful and reciprocate.
Children who grow up in such families will not be able to move an inch when they leave the house.
, do not seek to improve
Parents are the best teachers for their children, and the best education for their children is not to teach them a lot of big truths, but to show them.
Your continuous learning will make your child think that learning is as natural as eating and dressing. And every bit of effort you make will make your child understand the value of hard work.
This world will punish those parents who are not motivated.
Full of negative energy
There are people who are pessimistic by nature and are dissatisfied with everything around them. They are used to complaining and blaming, their emotions are unstable, they cannot take responsibility for their actions, and they do not see hope for the future.
This kind of character, both for them and for those who have to deal with them, is a disaster.
, shirking responsibility
Everyone has done something wrong, and after some people do something wrong, the first thing they think of is not to find the reason from themselves, nor what kind of responsibility they should bear, but to try their best to find excuses and reasons to clear themselves.
They don't know, and having the courage to admit their mistakes and take responsibility is the best way to solve the problem.
Second, about children
In my 20 years of teaching career, I have met many outstanding children. I've found that they basically have these traits and abilities:
, will sleepNo matter what happened during the day, they were able to sleep soundly until dawn.
、Will eatWhether the food is to taste or not, they can eat happily.
Good physical strengthThey don't fall behind in the 800-meter run in physical education class, and it's easy to get through minor illnesses and pains.
, emotional stabilityThey rarely overjoyed or grieved, and most of the time they were able to control their emotions.
Follow the rulesThey seldom cause unnecessary trouble to others and themselves by acting recklessly.
、Do not blindly followThey have their own principles and judgments and never blindly follow the herd.
, love to exploreThey are curious about new things, so they are always able to learn something new.
EmpathyThey are accustomed to thinking from the other party's point of view, and they do not do to others what they do not want.
, focusThey do things with one heart and no distractions.
PersistenceThe reason why many people are not successful is often not because they don't work hard, but because they are not persistent enough.
Cherish thingsSave, temper, cherish, even if they have more resources to waste.
HelpfulChildren who love to give and love to help others tend to get more help.
3. On education
Please don't put your hopes for educating your children on others, including schools, teachers, and experts.
Why can't we pin our hopes for educating children on schools and teachers?I've already written about it in my previous article, and today I'm going to talk about the experts.
Some parents, when their children have problems, the first thing they think of is that they hope that there is such an expert who can immediately give them a good prescription, so that the problems in the children's body can be "cured".
I can tell you for sure: it's impossible.
Children's growth is not overnight, and the formation of children's bad habits is not overnight. Changing children's bad habits is also not something that can be done overnight.
Let's not talk about whether you can raise excellent children, just say that if you want to be a pair of competent parents, from the birth of the baby, even before the baby is born, you must read two types of books: one is physiological feeding and care, and the other is psychological raising and education.
Parents need to learn, and the growth of parents must be ahead of the growth of their children, and do not think of going to the doctor when there is a problem.
Prevention is always better than **, that's the truth.
Fourth, about reluctance
Once upon a time there was a king, and he had seven beautiful princesses, each of whom had long black and bright hair. On their 18th birthday, the king gave each of them 100 beautiful hairpins.
One morning, the eldest princess found that her hairpin was missing one, and there were only 99 left. She thought, "This is not going to work, I have to make it up quickly." So, she quietly took one in the second princess's drawer.
When the second princess found that her hairpin was missing, she quietly went to the third princess to get one. Later, the third princess found that her hairpin was missing, so she quietly went to the fourth princess to get a ......
In the end, when the seventh princess found out that her hairpin was missing, she didn't care, and she didn't take someone else's like her six sisters.
A few days later, a handsome prince from a neighboring country suddenly came to visit. The seven princesses were all deeply attracted to him. Everyone thought to themselves: it would be nice to marry him!
It was at this moment that the prince spoke:
My lark brought back a particularly beautiful hairpin, and when I saw the pattern on it, I knew that the hairpin must be yours. It's really a wonderful fate, but I don't know which princess is missing a hairpin?At this time, every princess was eager to say that the hairpin that the lark brought back was her own. But in the end, only the seventh princess calmly said to the prince that her hairpin was one less.
The seventh princess thus became the prince's happy bride.
Fifth, about life
Is there any meaning in life?
Perhaps, life is meaningless. But the search for the meaning of life has made the meaningless life meaningful.
Taste every bite of food with your heart, listen to every flower with your heart, treat everyone you meet with your heart, complete every responsibility with your heart, and feel every joy and gratitude at the moment with your heart.
That's what life is all about.
In 2024, may I and my readers and friends overcome obstacles and make our dreams come true!
Your ** is the greatest support.
About the Author:At the age of 15, he was admitted to the Graduate School of Chinese University of Hong Kong, and has 20 years of experience in Chinese education.
She single-handedly trained her daughter to become a first-class honours degree from the University of Hong Kong
Master of Education, School of Education, University of London, ranked number one in the world.
Only one year after graduation, the little girl's annual salary has reached 500,000.
Sister Baobao's parent-child education article is warm and powerful, helping you to suddenly open up on the road of parenting and avoid detours.