Title My mother-in-law came to my house to care for the elderly, but I was reluctant
I am 43 years old and a university student from a rural area.
He is currently working as a financial controller in a large company.
Recently, my wife, Li Xue, always complained to me that my mother-in-law was not happy at her two eldest brothers' house.
Li Xue expressed her innocence to her mother-in-law, but portrayed her two sisters-in-law as extremely bad people, while expressing her two brothers' defense and describing them as in a difficult situation.
To sum up, in her eyes, the problem lies mainly with her sisters-in-law.
I briefly expressed my opinion once, but was beaten down by Li Xueshu.
She is very subjective and only agrees with her own opinions, and everyone else is wrong.
After that lesson, I stopped expressing any common opinions, and when I heard them, I immediately forgot them.
That Saturday, I made an appointment with my friend to play badminton.
After fighting for more than half a day, we went home.
When I returned home, I found Li Xue cleaning in the guest room.
Li Xue and I live in the master bedroom, and the children each have a room.
Very few people come to my house to stay overnight, so the guest rooms are always used to store clutter.
I would like to ask Li Xue why she cleans the guest room.
She was the first to speak, "You just came back, and I'm going to tell you something."
Are you still going to play badminton with someone else tomorrow?If you plan to, call them and tell them not to go. ”
I put down the cup in my hand and asked, "Why?"What do you have to say?Li Xue did not stop the work in her hand, and said angrily while wiping the dust: "Today, my mother called me **, she said that she was a vegetarian almost every day at the second brother's house, and only ate vegetarian food for more than ten consecutive days.
Last night, she wanted to eat braised pork, and when she mentioned it, her second sister-in-law said that she was difficult to serve. ”
At noon today, my mother thought that the second sister-in-law had made braised pork, but it turned out that there was only corn fried ham sausage, isn't that what children love to eat?"My mother asked my sister-in-law why she didn't make braised pork, and she said angrily that she had high cholesterol and would be hungry if she didn't want to eat.
Hmph, I think she did it on purpose. ”
My mother was so angry that she didn't even eat lunch, and she went to the square to sit for a long time, and couldn't help but cry to me.
Tell me, when my dad was still alive before, she suffered this kind of grievance?Li Xue said a lot in one go, for her mother's grievances, everyone understands her mother-in-law's temper, what a strong person she is, who can bully her?I listened quietly, as always, and it was no surprise that such a small thing happened so often.
However, watching the way she tidied up the guest room, I had a bad premonition in my heart.
Sure enough, Li Xue told me: "So, you can take time out tomorrow to drive back with me and pick up my mother."
In the future, let her spend her old age in our family, and she will no longer be angry with her sister-in-law and sister-in-law. ”
Hearing about her plan, I felt very uncomfortable and said firmly: "No, I'm against it." ”
I am the fourth of four siblings in my family, with an older brother and two older sisters.
I was a surviving child in my mother's womb, and I was only five months old when my father died.
At that time, the eldest brother was only seven years old, the eldest sister was five years old, and the second sister was four years old.
The absence of the pillar of the family is a disaster for a family.
My grandmother thought I was a hoodoo and asked my mother to beat me off, but my mother insisted on giving birth to me.
Soon after I was born, my grandmother wanted to send me away, but fortunately, my mother did her best to keep me.
For as long as I can remember, my grandmother often scolded me: "It's all your fault for being an unlucky child, killing your father, how did you ...... in the first place.""Mom was out almost all day and came home at night, so she was always busy.
Sometimes, the eldest brother and eldest sister will also go out with her.
When my grandmother went out to work, she always scolded me with vicious words, and sometimes poked my forehead with her fingernails, which hurt terribly.
I said it hurt, but she got more and more violent.
The second sister was timid, she was scared and avoided from afar.
In the beginning, I was very scared of my grandmother.
Later, I became a self-indulgent child who was disobedient and troublesome.
After a long time, as long as there were children in the village, parents would warn their children: "Don't play with that Rayong, he is an unlucky child, he learned to do sneaky things at a young age, and cause trouble." ”
I do get into trouble, sometimes I pull girls' braids when my hands are itchy, and beat children younger than me.
But I never stole anything, it was just my grandmother who framed me.
Grandma always framed me for stealing her money, rice, lychees, and yellow peel fruits. There were many rumors in the village, and they were often distorted, and I became a sneaky person.
The neighbor came, and she slapped me twice.
My mother seriously asked me if I had stolen her sweet potatoes, and I stubbornly said no with tears in my eyes.
The neighbor laughed sarcastically and said, "Didn't you steal?".Then why did the sweet potatoes in my field suddenly disappear?If you steal it, admit it, or I'll go to the village chief and make you lose not only the sweet potatoes, but also the money. ”
Mom frowned and said, "Sixth aunt, Luo Yong said that if he didn't steal, he didn't steal, he is only in the first grade, how can he steal your sweet potatoes."
There must be evidence in what you say and do, don't talk nonsense. ”
The neighbor said angrily: "Am I talking nonsense?".Rayong was so young, he did something sneaky, who in the village didn't know?The thing is missing, and he must have stolen it. ”
My mother, who usually doesn't like to quarrel with others, blushed for the first time and said angrily: "The more you talk about it, the more you go too far, and if you talk nonsense, I will tear your mouth apart." ”
Neighbor: "I'm not talking nonsense, you go and ask your mother-in-law."
Rayong stole her money, rice, lychees and potatoes. ”
Rayong even stole his grandmother's things, which shows how bad his character is, and he won't stop stealing other people's things, right?Last time he stole two of my eggs, I chose to put up with it.
This time he stole my sweet potatoes, and this matter can't be counted. ”
Later, the matter touched the village chief, and he dealt with it fairly.
The second uncle said that when he went to the field to fish at night, he saw the family at the end of the village carrying a few bags of things on the road, and he didn't know if it was sweet potatoes.
The neighbor wanted to leave, but my mother asked her to apologize to me in front of everyone, those two slaps could not be in vain, and I could not be framed at will.
That's when my mom found out how my grandmother usually treated me.
She scolded my grandmother very angrily, hugged me and cried, and apologized to me one by one.
Mom knew that grandma wouldn't change her nature and was worried that I would be bullied without her knowledge.
So, after asking for the permission of my uncle and aunt, I was sent to live with my grandmother.
I lived there until I graduated from elementary school.
At that time, I had become a person of excellent character and learning, thanks to my uncle's education as a primary school teacher.
I want you to act as a senior editor.
Under the influence of my grandmother, at that critical moment in me, if it wasn't for my mom making this decision, I might have embarked on a point of no return.
The eldest brother and sister dropped out of school before graduating from elementary school and helped the family work to earn food.
After graduating from junior high school, the second sister also stayed at home to work.
When I was in the third year of junior high school, my mother was seriously ill, and her family was already poor, and she became poor after she got sick.
I thought I would have to give up my studies, but my mother, second aunt and uncle borrowed money to keep me studying.
My mother told me that as long as I focused on my studies, she would do her best to keep me Xi.
During that difficult time, I would like to thank my mother for her support and my brothers and sisters for their selfless dedication.
It is because of their dedication that I am where I am today.
After graduating from college, I started working, earned money, bought things for my family, and gave my salary to my mother.
She also gave me the money, and she said, "It's not easy for you to be out there alone, mom can't help you, you can keep the money for yourself."
I'm not short of money at home because your brother and sisters are very good to me and you don't have to worry. ”
After I got married, my mother came twice.
She came for the birth of her child and helped Li Xue with confinement.
After I bought the house, I thought that my mother was getting older day by day, and I had not fulfilled my filial piety, and it had been my brothers and sisters who had taken care of her for so many years, so I also had to do my part for her.
I wanted to bring my mother to live there, but she refused, saying that she was not used to Xi city life, and she felt dizzy when she saw the high-rise buildings on TV, and she felt that her home was more comfortable than anything else.
I know she said this because she didn't want to trouble me.
For so many years, I rarely went back to my hometown because I was busy with work.
Every time she gave her mother money, she only needed 500 or 1,000 yuan.
She smiled and said, "My old lady can't spend a lot of money at home and is basically self-sufficient.
You are different, although you earn a lot, but the cost of living in the provincial capital is also high, and you have to support your wife and children.
Keep the money for yourself, don't worry about me, I'm fine in my hometown. ”
In 2017, my mother had heart problems, and considering the high level of medical care in the provincial capital, I took her to the affiliated hospital for surgery.
At that time, Li Xue said that it cost a lot of money, and I was worried about my mother's emotions and did not discuss this issue with her.
My eldest brother and sister-in-law also came to the hospital to take care of my mother, and I also took a few days off.
Li Xue did not go to the hospital to see her mother under the pretext of taking care of her children to school.
I felt a little uncomfortable at the time, but I didn't say it.
On the National Day in 2018, driven by my nephew, my mother was finally willing to travel to the provincial capital.
Big brother and sister-in-law, nephew and mother, a total of four people, our family has four rooms, and the daughter is small, she can live in the same room as us, so it is enough.
But my nephew didn't want to trouble us, so he booked a room at the hotel at his own expense.
After the holidays, I insisted that my mother stay at my house for a few days and honor her.
It took me a lot of words before my mother agreed, and my eldest brother and sister-in-law and nephew went back early.
But two days after her mother moved in, Li Xue was unhappy, the cooked rice was raw, the braised pork ribs were not delicious, and she smashed pots and pans at every turn.
My mother was worried and embarrassed and asked me to send her back to her hometown.
I appeased her, and then went to Li Xue and asked her not to do this.
What's too much is that on the third day, Li Xue packed her luggage and went back to her parents' house angrily.
As soon as Li Xue left, my mother said to me, "Rayong, you can send me back to my hometown."
After I go back, you will go to your father-in-law's house to pick up Li Xue, the children can't live without their mother. ”
No matter how much I tried to keep it, my mother still resolutely returned to her hometown.
At that time, if it weren't for my son and daughter, I really wanted to quarrel with Li Xue, or even divorce.
She is a filial daughter, and often takes her father-in-law and mother-in-law to live at home, and she lives for ten days and half a month.
I have never been dissatisfied, every time two old people come, I will deliberately drive them around, buy this and buy that.
During the New Year's holiday, Li Xue gave her father-in-law and mother-in-law the festival fee and bought them things, and I never said anything.
But as soon as I gave my mother a holiday fee or bought something, she was full of displeasure.
These are all trivial things, I put up with Li Xue.
However, my mother was hospitalized for surgery, and she didn't go to the hospital.
I left my mother to stay at home, and she went back to her parents' house.
Her behavior really touched my bottom line.
After that, I didn't want to worry about my parents-in-law's house.
In 2019, after the father-in-law left, the mother-in-law took turns to care for the elderly at the homes of the two eldest brothers.
In the past few years, due to the mask, my mother-in-law has not come to live at our house again, and most of them are Li Xue who went back to visit her by herself.
Therefore, this time I heard that Li Xue was going to take her mother-in-law to the family for the elderly, I was resolutely opposed and could not agree.
She raised her eyebrows and asked, "Why, that's my mother." ”
I said calmly: "When my mother came to stay at home for a few days, you were not happy, and you went back to your parents' house in anger.
That's my mom, why can't you allow her to stay in our house for a few days?"You can't allow my mother to stay in our house for a few days, you say that your mother is here to support the elderly, is it appropriate?"I think it's very inappropriate. ”
Li Xue was stunned for a while, then made a lot of noise and threw things, and was so angry that she wanted to pack her luggage and go back to her parents' house.
I said calmly: "Whatever, you can go back, I will never stay, I can go back to my parents' house for as long as I want." ”
Then she said that she wanted to divorce me, and I said calmly: "Yes, I will definitely respect your wishes." ”
Anyway, I won't compromise on this matter, I won't get used to her anymore, and she won't think about double standards with me in the future.