Title: Pension 6,000!The 65-year-old man is always lost, and he drops 1,000 every month
I am a 65-year-old retiree who used to be an ordinary worker.
Now I can get 6,000 yuan a month from my pension, which is already very good for me.
However, life after retirement was not as easy as I imagined, and instead I was unable to save a penny every month, and I suffered three accidents.
The first one fell last spring, when my wife and I went to Beijing to see the Great Wall and the Forbidden City.
Because my wife has always dreamed of going to Beijing once, I spent a long time preparing money in the hope of surprise her.
We took the train to Beijing and visited the sights for a whole day.
On the way back to the hotel in the evening, I accidentally fell and broke my arm.
Despite my wife's concerns, she took care of me for a week until I was healed and was able to move.
The second fall occurred this summer, on the day of my son's wedding.
My son and his bride have been preparing for a long time and everything is well prepared.
On the day of the wedding, I put on my suit and prepared to celebrate with the other guests.
However, as I entered the door, I accidentally tripped and fell to the ground.
Not only did this break my glasses, but it also stained the bride's wedding dress.
It was very awkward, and I felt very embarrassed.
The third fall happened recently, and I fell at home.
My wife was cooking at the time, and I tried to help her with a knife and fork, but she stepped on a drop of water on the ground and fell.
The fall did not cause any injuries, but it hurt a lot.
My wife was very worried and kept rubbing me until I was slightly better.
Every time I fell, my wife was very worried, and she always said that I was getting more and more careless.
Every time I fall, I feel very regretful, why am I so unlucky?Every fall puts a toll on our lives, and medical bills and repair bills make my retirement even more strained.
Every time my wife saw me like this, she always scolded me for why I didn't pay more attention.
I knew she was out of concern for my safety, but I could only listen to her silently every time, and there was no way to change myself.
Even though wrestling has caused us a lot of trouble, it has also made me cherish my family even more.
Every time I fell, my wife would stand beside me and give me warmth and love.
My son is always there to take care of me, which makes me feel at ease.
I didn't want to cause too much trouble to my family, but I was a little overwhelmed by what happened.
One day, I stumbled upon an envelope at home with my name written on it.
I opened it and took a look at it, and saw that it was an anonymous letter about my son.
The letter said that recently, my son often went crazy after getting drunk, and even hit people and fights, which caused a lot of trouble.
The appearance of this anonymous letter upset me, and I don't know whether to believe it or not.
My son didn't look like that kind of violent person in the past, is there really something wrong with him?Family is the most intimate place, and I suddenly felt a little strange, as if a thin shadow was hanging over us.
I decided to find a chance to talk to my son and see if anything had happened.
That night, my son and his wife happened to come back for dinner.
At the dinner table, I took the opportunity to ask him if he had anything to worry about lately.
My son was silent for a moment, clearly aware of my concern.
He sighed softly and told me that something had really upset him lately.
It turned out that my son had some work problems at the company.
His colleagues often quarrel and quarrel over work matters.
As a gentle and tolerant person, he always actively reconciled disputes and tried to find justice and solutions to problems.
However, these efforts have only brought more pressure and blame.
After listening to this, I felt very conflicted.
I can understand the predicament and pressure he is facing, but I am also concerned that his alcohol abuse will bring more problems and risks.
I tried to tell him to be strong in the face of difficulties, but I felt that I was not convincing him, but rather like I was making a fool of myself.
The family atmosphere became tense and we were no longer as relaxed and happy as before.
Every night, my son always went out for a drink, and occasionally brought back some friends, which were so loud that my wife and I couldn't sleep.
My wife and I often argue because of this, she thinks my son is completely irresponsible, and I feel that he needs understanding and support.
This situation is painful for me, and I hope to find a solution to the problem.
Family is the most important thing to me, and I don't want to be broken up by these conflicts and quarrels.
Now, however, I feel powerless to change.
One day, I was watching TV at home when I suddenly noticed that the TV was broken.
I know it's a big problem for my wife because she likes to watch TV shows every night to relax.
I immediately checked the TV and found that it was a loose TV line.
When I got home, my wife was angrily staring at the broken TV, and she looked very upset.
I told her that I had bought a new TV line and was going to fix it, but she replied nonchalantly, "You know what, you're ruining my good mood again." ”
I was very confused and didn't understand why I had done a good deed and she would say that.
In order to ease the atmosphere, I tried to explain that I was buying a TV cable to fix the TV for her, but she didn't listen to my explanation and treated me coldly.
I felt very helpless and didn't know how to deal with this sudden dispute.
I thought maybe I should give her some time to calm down and talk to her about it.
A few days later, I took the initiative to talk to my wife and try to resolve the conflict between us.
I told her that I had always been thinking about her and hoped that she would understand me.
However, she replied indifferently: "Do you think you do everything for me?"You didn't notice my feelings and needs at all. ”
When I heard this, I felt like a knife in my heart, and I didn't know what I had done wrong.
I struggled to understand her words, and when I reflected on my life over the years, I realized that I didn't seem to pay much attention to her feelings.
I always thought I was doing my best to run the family, but maybe I ignored her inner needs and didn't listen to her.
This contradiction made me start to reflect on my own behavior, and I realized that I needed to pay more attention to my wife's feelings and create a more welcoming and understanding family environment for her.
My wife has always been a very good person, and she has her own plans for the family's finances.
She always calculates her monthly expenses carefully and tries to keep them within the limits of our pension.
Recently, however, she has given a different perspective on how my pension is being used.
One day, I came home and found my wife handing me a note that read: "Recently, the family has been spending a lot of money, and the pension is simply not enough, and I have decided to use your money to make up for it." ”
Can't I even use a penny of my monthly pension for myself?
I entered the living room and saw my wife sitting there.
I tried to communicate with her: "My dear, our pension is common property, and I would like to keep some for personal expenses. ”
However, her reaction was very indifferent: "You have failed many times, and each time it has brought extra costs to our family, so I have to use your money to make up for these losses." ”
It was as if my words had been swallowed, as if there was an obstacle between us.
However, now I find that my place in the family seems to be disappearing.
As the days passed, I watched my wife take control of all aspects of her life.
Passwords, wallets, household expenses, everything is under her control.
She seemed to be getting more and more stern, and no longer smiled at me like she used to.
I sat and pondered over the years.
After I retired, I thought I would be able to live a comfortable life, but I didn't expect such a change to happen.
I felt a lot of pressure, as if the motivation for the whole family stemmed from my monthly pension.
I began to think about my situation, does retirement mean that I have lost the freedom to dominate?Do I have to be at the mercy of my wife every month and let her dispose of my property?Shouldn't such family relationships be the result of our mutual consultation?I understand that this issue is not just about money, but also about trust and respect between us.
I need to communicate deeply with my wife to get our ideas exchanged.
It is only through communication and understanding that we can find a balance that is acceptable to everyone in the family.