Continuing from the previous article, we know that there is a difference between talking about topics that the other party likes and talking about topics that the other party is interested in, because you know your ex, and you will naturally pay attention to the differences, so that you can accurately grasp the chat.
Let's move on to the second topic that we can talk about with our ex:
The second point is the topic that is good for the ex;
This topic is obvious, we are all mortals, and we are not so desireless about everything, to put it mildly, some people fall in love with their exIn fact, it is also drawing something, whether light or dark, it is all drawing something.
I don't think there's anything shameful about this kind of behavior, on the contrary, I think it's normal, because if a person has nothing, then he won't be attracted to you, and you won't be with him.
In the same way, your chat should be interesting to the other party, you can talk about things that are good for them, work, life, and the attention here is not to be too enthusiastic, and don't feel that you have to help the other personThis belongs to friendship help, not kneeling and flattering.
I'll give you a very simple example, let's say your ex is in debt, and then you happen to have an opportunity to help him solve the current problem, you can say, you just have this opportunity, and there is still a lack of personal participation, you see if you need it.
But you can't say: I specially won it for you, I can definitely help you, how hard I worked, how hard I worked, don't mention these thingsBecause this kind of talk will make the other party stressed,The other party will feel that he was originally going to break up with you, and now he wants to accept your goodness, what has become of this.
When the other party cares like this, it is not conducive to the advancement of your relationship.
The third point that can be talked about is your changeBut the change here is not to put you in the mouth, but to inadvertently reveal it to the other person.
I've been emphasizing that value is implanted, not spoken.
Let's take a very simple example, let's say the other party broke up with you because you were playing games at home all day, you don't say that I have a job now, don't you say that I don't want to make progress, now that I have changed, you can come back quickly. These words are said before the breakup, and the effect will definitely be good, and after the breakup, you must learn to implant.
For example, when you are chatting, you suddenly don't reply, and you say later, I'm sorry, my boss just asked me to arrange a job.
You only need to say this simple sentence, and the other party will know that you have found a job, and they will weigh in their hearts whether you are worth turning back now.
Or if you want to show something exaggerated, you can do this, for example, you still have something at their house, and then you drive a car to get your things back, and they may wonder where your car came from, and you say: I just bought a second-hand car, I just joined a company to work, and sometimes I use it at work, so it is not expensive.
Describe it this way, let the other party know that you have a job, and let the other party know that you are in good shape.
The two examples I have given, you have found notIt's all about the things you changed from the sideThe same goes for you breaking up for other reasons, don't rush to show yourself, don't be too deliberate to let the other person know, let them know your changes in silence, and you can naturally feel the changes they have made to you.
One final point to emphasizeIf the time is really not ripe, you should not deliberately talk about too many daysNo matter how much I share with you what you can and can't talk about, it doesn't matter, what matters is whether the other party's rejection of you has eased, and you can do what I say after you have eased.
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