One sentence from Master Hongyi cured my depression
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Master Hongyi: "You have to get through, you have to, when you get through it, you will lose interest in anything in this world, including your beloved, because no one knows how helpless and broken you are when you go through that difficult period alone, and when you get through it, you will become fearless." ”
Yes, there are always all kinds of worries in the world, some people are worried about illness, some people are worried about accidents, some people are worried about lack of money, some people are worried about loneliness, and some people are worried about the death ...... of their loved ones. But as long as you persist and endure it, everything will pass, and there is no pain that cannot be let go. Herbs, not boiled, can not cure diseases;Iron, if not beaten, cannot be made into steel;Jade, not grinding, not becoming a tool, what is life?I guess that's life.
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A few days ago, a student with depression reported to me, "Teacher, it's not strange for you to say, I've already done what you say." And I've fully embraced the symptoms of depression. But why do I still feel depressed?”
I asked him, "You said you've fully embraced it?"”
He said, "yes." I've come to terms with the symptoms. Ignore it. Strangely, my symptoms still seem to come and go. ”
I smiled and said, "Why are you asking me this question since you don't bother with it?"”
I stopped asking about the degree.
I laughed and said, "Accidentally, the 'fox tail' leaked out!".”
Actually, we don't have to laugh at the student above. Because this problem is very common among the students we come into contact with. There are often students who say acceptance, but from time to time they will ask: "Teacher, I am uncomfortable, what do you say?" Or they might say, "There's no better way?"”
In fact, the root of these problems is just knowing the concept. Just like Mr. Li Hongfu said in the book "Overcoming Depression": "I knew, but I didn't do it;."Or if you do it, but you still don't really understand it, it's easy to accidentally fall into the entanglement of symptoms again!”
Speaking of which, I am reminded of a story:
In a forest, there lived an old gentleman. One day the old gentleman said to his friend Parrot, "Be careful, little parrot. There's a hunter who's been coming to the forest a lot lately. He will sow corn kernels and set traps. If you eat corn kernels, you'll fall into a trap and get caught. You have to remember. "The little parrot said, I remembered. Then he repeated, "There is a hunter who has been coming to this forest a lot lately. He will sow corn kernels and set traps. If I go to eat corn kernels, I'll fall into a trap and get caught. The old gentleman saw that the parrot had remembered it, and was glad to go back to his room.
One day the hunter really came, and, as the old gentleman had said, set a trap in the forest and spread corn kernels. And the little parrot was quickly caught by the hunters.
When the little parrot was taken away, the old man kept repeating what the old man had taught him, "There is a hunter who has been coming to this forest a lot lately." He will sow corn kernels and set traps. If I go to eat corn kernels, I'll fall into a trap and get caught.
Unfortunately, the little parrot wrote down the old man's words, but did not understand the meaning of the old man's words, so that he was still captured by the hunters.
Are you the talking parrot?
Actually, in a way, each of us is that parrot. Because as long as it is a language, then there will inevitably be misunderstandings in the process of communication. So, it's hard to fully understand without bias.
So how can we avoid this misunderstanding?
It's actually quite simple. That is, in the beginning, learn to ask a lot of questions. Ask a few more "whys". This ensures that we are getting the correct information to a certain extent. Of course, I think the best learning should be what Confucius said: "Take one corner and reverse three corners." "If you can draw inferences, it means that you really understand it thoroughly.
Therefore, if you want to avoid detours, the best way is to think more and ask more questions in the early stage. With the help of the teacher, draw inferences and grasp the essence of the problem, so that you can get twice the result with half the effort in the process of practice.
Finally, I recommend depressed friends to read two books "Overcoming Depression" and "Emotional Self-Help", if you want to seek specific ways to overcome depression, then the "Anapana" and "Vows" in the book will definitely bring you good help.