Hi, I'm Ai Hee.
"When you know that face is the least important thing, you really grow up," Guevara said. ”
Many times, the reason we are reluctant to try something is usually because we are afraid of not performing well, becoming a laughing stock, or feeling embarrassed by the fear of rejection.
In fact, the core problem behind this is that we care too much about what others think, too much about saving face.
Ai Xi was recently laid off, and this time it is a large-scale layoff in the company. The leader kept giving me **, wanting me to feel that it was not easy for the company, the company was sorry for me, and wanted me to automatically give up the compensation.
If it had been before, I would have been very aggrieved. Thin-skinned people tend to have strong self-esteem, and even if I suffered a loss, I couldn't pull my face down to argue for myself.
But I'm not the little girl I used to be anymore, and in the face of my own interests, I have to learn to be cheeky and know when to fight and when to back down.
Seeing that I had a tough attitude, the leaders implemented a delaying tactic. But I knew that this was not a long-term solution, so I talked to the boss across the levels, and I got everything I deserved that afternoon. (Girls with the same troubles can find Ai Xi in private to learn from him).
When you take that step, you'll realize that losing some face isn't a big deal. In fact, you've successfully accomplished something that was previously difficult to achieve, which in itself is quite remarkable.
Don't put too much emphasis on face, know that those who are not afraid of losing face usually live better, because dignity is earned by themselves. Therefore, sometimes the more you are not afraid of losing face, the more you can keep your dignity.
Ai Xi also hereby admonishes all girls in the workplace with three suggestions:
01.Don't give up because you don't have much personal power
Don't think that your personal strength is insignificant, and give up the fight for profit. Once you lose your power, you give others a chance to start taking control of you.
Don't be afraid to take some risks, sometimes you have to let it go, the real thing is not waiting for someone to serve you, you have to fight for it, if you don't do it, you will become a game-changer.
02.Don't be afraid to offend people
Psychologist: Never be afraid to offend people, 90% of the people around you can afford to offend.
A friend borrowed your money, and you were embarrassed to urge itA colleague asks you for help, and you're embarrassed to refuse;The distribution of leadership work is unfair, and you dare not speak out. Your embarrassment, fear to express, timidity and shyness will only make you accept a lot of reluctant things against your will.
Afraid of offending others, the last grievance can only be oneself, overcoming one's own concerns and weaknesses is the best way to solve the problem.
03.Dare to speak up for yourself
Most people tend to appreciate strong personalities, and if you show others a strong side, they will look down on you, on the contrary, if you show others your weaknesses in the hope of arousing their sympathy, this will often not win you favor, but may cause them to dislike and dislike.
Learning to overcome your own vulnerabilities is the only way to face challenges effectively.