At 10 a.m. on February 2, 2023, the uproarious disappearance of Hu Xinyu finally came to an end, and it was finally determined that Hu Xinyu died by hanging. and provided two audio materials from the voice recorder found at the scene, which clearly expressed Hu Xinyu's intention to commit suicide: "There is no point anymore, it's almost zero, just wait a little longer, go straight to death, it's okay, because I'm a little unclear today, and now I really want to die, I feel meaningless." ”
Looking at the text on the web page, I didn't care that the public security organs did not find the missing person within 400 meters after 106 days of carpet search, and even using high-tech means such as thermal imaging drones
A 16-year-old child has no feeling for the colorfulness of the world, no feeling for the colorful world, but because of poor academic performance and interpersonal pressure, resulting in feelings of guilt and self-blame, pain and powerlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, and meaninglessness, and finally goes to the point of no returnWho's to blame?
It can be said that the sense of meaninglessness has become an important problem in education at present.
A friend of mine's son, who is in the fifth grade of primary school, has a particularly bad relationship with his parents because he likes to play video games. If his parents want to confiscate his mobile phone, he will jump off the building, which means that in his eyes, life is meaningless if he is not allowed to play with his mobile phone.
I teach students the class "Growth and Happiness", and dozens of college students, the so-called pride of the sky, when asked what kind of dreams they have to go to collegeWhat kind of person do you want to be in the future?What do they think is the meaning of life?There is basically no relatively clear answer.
Even a significant number of adults do not know the meaning of their lives at all.
What is the meaning of life?How can I have a meaningful life?This seems to be a philosophical question. Probably, no one wants to discuss this either. But in my opinion, it is terrible not to be able to understand the meaning of my life and how I should live!
Recently, a few students who were in their third year of junior high school came to talk to me, and I had the courage to describe to them what I thought was the meaning of life.
From the perspective of the macro world, our lives do not have any meaning.
According to the current theory, the universe comes from a singularity**, everything in the world comes from the void, and according to Einstein's mass-energy equation e=mc2, all matter comes from the transformation of huge energy. And, by the neutron collision experiment and the xx theory, it has been proven that in a vacuum, huge amounts of energy can produce matter, which is really terrifying.
The universe has been born for 13.8 billion years. The solar system has been around for 5 billion years. The Earth has been around for 4.6 billion years. Living things have survived on Earth for 3.8 billion years. The first apes were born about 6 million years ago. Our current Homo sapiens is also about 200,000 years old. However, each of us has a short life span of a few decades. In other words, in terms of time, each of us is insignificant in relation to the course of this world, the relatively long history of mankind.
We do not have the ability to change the universe, and we should not have the ability to change the earth, and it is difficult to change the course of human history. There is not much of us in this world, there is no more of us, and if we die today, no one will remember it soon. Even if it is the head of a country, the ashes are scattered into the sea after death, and they are quickly forgotten by hundreds of millions of people. Today we die, the world still exists, the sun rises as usual, the earth still has the four seasons of the year, Ukraine is still at war, the United States is still stirring up trouble around the world. So, relative to this universe, relative to this earth, relative to the whole human race, we are insignificant and meaningless.
However, for each of us, life is of great significance. In other words, from a micro point of view, each of our lives should be absolutely valued.
First of all, it is extremely difficult for us to come into this world. Each of us comes from a mating act of our parents, in this mating act, although there is only one egg, but there are as many as 20 million sperm, only one or two (twins) are fortunate enough to get the opportunity to combine with the egg, thus giving birth to us, that is to say, in this act we have a chance of being born at least 1 in 20 million. What's more, there are countless times in our parents' lives that have not worked**. That is, the chances of our parents giving birth to us are at least 1 in 1000000000000000000000000000 We were not born easily.
Next, think about how many times we have to go through illness in our lives, how many possible accidents, how many people occasionally want to kill you because of inexplicable hatred, and how many times we ourselves have inexplicably wanted to commit suicide, and how lucky we are to still be alive and healthy under so many trials that may cause us to lose our lives!
Think about it again, how fortunate we are to be born in China, a prosperous, strong and stable country!If we were accidentally born in Ukraine, an adult man like me, who is nearly 50 years old, could fight people on the battlefield and die in the next second. It is said that there are basically no men in Ukraine around the age of 20. If we were born in Syria and we were eating, the next second a bomb could blow up the house and we would be crushed under the broken walls. If we were accidentally born in Africa, we should all be very grateful to our parents for giving birth to China!
Think about the love of our parents, the care of our teachers, the dependence of our siblings, and the trust of our relatives and friends. In the morning, we woke up from a warm and clean bed, there was milk and eggs for breakfast, there were a few clear windows in the classroom, there were a lot of books available on the desk, and dozens of classmates played freely with us every day.
Think again, if we die at this moment, will our parents be heartbroken?Do siblings be sad and sad?Will teachers and classmates be reluctant?Will friends and family lament?For them, we are so important, we live so meaningfully, and many times we forget!
Isn't all this worth cherishing?Shouldn't we cherish the opportunity to come to this world once?Shouldn't we cherish our rich, secure, caring lives?Shouldn't we cherish the opportunity for us to grow healthily, learn freely, and see the world happily?
So,We must cherish and cherish the opportunity we have to live in China, the opportunity we have to be born as human beings, and the opportunity to open our eyes to the world!
So, what is the meaning of our lives?The meaning of our life is actually that we live a rare life, we are lucky to have this life, it is very important for us to live a healthy and happy life, we are not insignificant, we live a meaningful life.
So, how can we live meaningfully?
Nietzsche thought deeply about this question, and also said a sentence full of philosophical flavor such as "life is meaningless, and finding meaning in a meaningless life is itself the greatest meaning of life". There are also many sages who have also made long-standing assertions about the meaning of life. I'm very vulgar and don't want to interpret these philosophical famous sentences, and I also think that ordinary people may not be able to understand these sentences that require a certain degree of philosophical skills to understand. I think that for us ordinary people, if we want to live a meaningful life, we must first be kind to ourselves, that is, to be worthy of our own life. This perception is also taughtThe number one talent in Taiwan's press circlesJin Weichun, he said that there is only one thing in life, that is, to live well.
The basis of my understanding of being kind to oneself is that everyone does not want to be poor or failing, and everyone wants to live a life of abundant food, family harmony, career success, and respect, because people are born with a natural desire for beauty!In order to live a good life, at least the following basic goals must be achieved:
First of all, you have to be in good health. Many people have said that good health is "1", and then add "0" to the end, the more the better. If your physical health is gone, your whole life becomes a bunch of "zeros" and there is nothing. Everyone understands this truth, but we usually don't care, because when we are healthy, we usually feel that unhealth is far away from us, and everything is still in time. Actually, I'm such a fool too. Now, I hope to work with you to make my life healthy. So how to do it?There are too many people who have given advice and methods in this regard, and I think the most basic aspects are several aspects, one is to eat enough nutrition but not overeating to cause excessive obesity, the second is to get enough sleep, the third is to exercise properly, and the fourth is not to have obvious vices that harm the body.
Second, you want to be mentally healthy. Few people may feel that they are mentally unhealthy, but countless researchers have emphasized that mental unhealth is far more serious than it seems. There are so many things I say about mental health that I can't list them in a short language, so I suggest you take the time to look at relevant mental health materials or books and compare them yourself.
Third, have relatively normal social relationships. Harvard University's 75-year study "What kind of people are the happiest?".The results show that good relationships make us happier and healthier, and that good intimacy, in particular, has the greatest impact on our lives. So, more than a hundred years ago, when Mark Twain looked back on his life, he wrote: "Life is so short that we have no time to quarrel, apologize, and be sad." We only have time to love!”
Fourth, normal professional experience. Every responsible person should have a normal professional experience, at least you must be able to earn enough to support yourself, so that you can be independent, autonomous, and maintain physical and mental health and good social relations. In other words, you have to have basic vocational skills and cultural knowledge to be of value to the society, because your professional income is actually a paid use of the value that the society has for you. So,You have to learn about science and culture, because what distinguishes man from animals and becomes the master of the earth's biosphere is that he has more knowledge. The less knowledge a person has, the less distance he has from the attributes of animals. We obviously want to be a little bit farther away from animal attributes, and I think so.
The above is only the basic conditions that a person who wants to live a good life should achieve, if you have a bigger idea, then you can find a dream to achieve. For example, if you want to be a disseminator of knowledge, a doctor who saves lives, a successful entrepreneur or politician, or you are just a comedian who delivers happiness to more people, if you want to change the world from technology, philosophy, economy, etc., then congratulations, God has chosen you, and your life will be full of meaning!
I am very pleased that my above statements were accepted by these junior high school students, and they immediately changed their attitudes towards study and family, and at the same time strengthened my interpretation of the meaning of life, that is, first of all, you should be kind to yourself, so that you can be physically and mentally healthy, have relatively good social relations, and have the vocational skills to support yourself and your relatives;Then, you try to save humanity, save the planet, and change the world!
I don't know your understanding of the meaning of life, and I don't know if you accept my point of view, maybe you will scoff at it, and even want to teach me a lesson, that's good, we can discuss it, after all, I will grow in the process of discussion, and you should too. More and more people are thinking about this, and the world should be a better place.