Aggression makes many people afraid, suppressing or denying their aggression because of fear, and even feeling guilty and blaming themselves for their aggressive fantasies. As everyone knows, aggression is not only the innate nature of human beings, but also the driving force of struggle and achievement. 
Picture "Flowers".
Counsellor's aggressivenessBecause of the peculiarities of the profession, many people will think that psychological counselors are a group of gentle, enthusiastic, and not aggressive people. Not only will the general public have such established expectations of counselors, but even some counselors (who are not very professional and experienced, of course) will feel that they must be gentle, good-tempered, and not make waves like a Taoist priest or a monk. But in fact, professional psychological counselors are not as mass-produced puppets, all enthusiastic, gentle, and temperamentless, and on the contraryIn the long-term personal analysis, professional counselors are more familiar with their own deep-seated aggression drive and accept their own aggression than the general public。It can be said that as a professional counselor, it is necessary and necessary to face, acknowledge and accept one's aggression, because not being able to accept one's hatred, anger and aggression means that one cannot accept the hatred, anger and aggression of the client. 
How to deal with innate aggressionSome people may still wonder: why can't the counselor eliminate his aggression?
Can they help the client to get rid of aggression?
Can aggression be eliminated?Does it need to be eliminated?
Picture "House of Cards".First of all, classical psychoanalytic theory holds that aggression is an innate human drive, part of the instinct, that cannot be eliminated. The people you see in your life who are not aggressive are likely to suppress their aggressiveness. Second,Aggression is a very important motivation for a person's growth, correspondinglyIt's the power of one person. It is not difficult for us to find that many people who have achieved something exude more or less aggression. **'s famous quote "Fight with the sky, fight with the earth, fight with people, and have endless fun", which expresses the strong interest in attack in the heart to the fullest. The American drama "House of Cards", which presents the inner world of politicians, has attracted a lot of attention in recent years, and there are many classic lines in it, such as"There is only one rule, to be a hunter, or to be a prey", "For us who have climbed to the top of the food chain, we must not be merciful." There is only one rule in our world: the law of the jungle".and so on, profoundly showing the huge attack drive in the hearts of the most powerful characters. 
Picture: "House of Cards" In addition to the above examples, aggressive people are equally common at work and in life. Men who look completely unaggressive on the outside are less attractive and less powerful, and often have a hard time achieving in their careersWomen who appear to be completely non-aggressive on the outside are tolerant and gentle but uninteresting, and it is difficult for them to make their voices heard at home and at work. All in all, the goal of psychological counseling or psychological growth is not to eliminate aggression. Third, better development of one's aggression is one of the goals of psychological counseling. Allowing the deep offensive drive to be unleashed anytime and anywhere, or even controlled by it, is bound to add a lot of difficulties to our lives, destroy interpersonal relationships, and hinder career development ......Many people are enslaved by a great desire to attack, and it is important to explore, understand, and confront their hearts at this time. Only by understanding it can we not be controlled by it. In addition, developing expressions that can be accepted and recognized by social norms and human customs is the key to making them a driving force rather than a stumbling block for one's own growth and development. 
Unleash your aggressionMany successful people turn their inner aggressive drive into a drive for career development and achievement, and this is a way to be socially recognized. As a simple example, men experience competition in competitive sports, and competition is also a transformed way to unleash their attacking drive. 
Figure "The Road to Glory".In short, aggression is not terrible, what is terrible is denial, repression and rejection of it;Unleashing an attack is not dangerous, the danger is not finding the right path for it. Let's embrace the inner attack and allow it to be a healthy force. Copyright Notice: Part of the content, **article** on the Internet, the copyright belongs to the original author, only for sharing, if the shared content infringes your copyright or the mark** is not the first original, please send a private message, we will review and delete it in time