Some netizens shared that when they met with their blind date partners, they felt that it was not good to go empty-handed, so they made a few small cakes and brought them to the boys.
During the meeting, netizens felt that "the boy was very satisfied with himself and the cake he made".
Because they have added WeChat to each other before, the boy has seen the circle of friends of netizens, and most of them are making food!
So, the boy said to netizens: ".As soon as I saw you and your circle of friends, I knew that you were a girl with a good wife and mother, and if I married you, I would definitely have a good mouth in the future", the implication is that netizens are suitable for being wives.
At the same time, the boy also said that he was not very good at cooking, and he didn't make it delicious, and he felt that being with netizens was very complementary and compatible!
But netizens don't think that the boy is praising himself, but feels offended, and has a feeling of being squeezed by the landlord, which is very disgusting!
The feeling of netizens is not wrong, the boy said that girls are "suitable to be wives", which is an offense to girls!
Everyone must know,The true meaning of praise is "self-interest" rather than "altruism", otherwise it is offending you in the name of praise!
For example, praising a girl for being a singer is praising her for her good singing voice; To praise a girl for being a writer is to praise her for her good writing; Praising a girl for being a dancer is to praise her for her good physical flexibility, which are her own advantages, which can bring advantages to herself in career development or life, and are self-interested.
And praise a girl for being a wife, what exactly is she praised?
Praise her for her dexterity, carefulness, strong hands-on ability, etc., these are all convenient for others, all of which are altruistic, which is not self-interested and meaningless for girls.
If you want to praise a girl, praise her for who she is, not as if her merits are for you.
When a person's praise of another person is based on lust that is beneficial to oneself, it is offense.
It's like the boss praising a migrant worker for "you can endure hardships and work at a glance".
I believe that no worker who will be happy to hear this sentence only feels offended and PUA.
The worker will only think that the boss wants to take the least amount of money and let him do the most work, so he can squeeze me hard!
Therefore, on the premise of respecting others, we should avoid using this expression and switch to a "high emotional intelligence" expression.
For example, when a boy wants to praise a girl for being able to cook, he can say something like this, "Wow, your cooking is delicious, you can open your own shop."
Not only will this not make the girl feel offended, but it will also feel praised and respected!
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