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In recent years, the topic of inner strength has become more and more widely discussed.

At ten o'clock today, I want to talk to youWhat does it mean to be strong inside?How to do it to be truly strong inside?

Psychologists have an explanation: the strength of the heart is not how strong the person is, but how he walks out, copes with adversity, and thus gains the ability to grow

This is especially important for women.

Women with strong hearts have a kind of confidence in them, they don't have to bow down to everything, but they learn not to listen, not to speak, and not to be afraid at the right time.

Many times, after learning these "three regardless", your life will become smoother and smoother.

When you are young, many people will fall into a dilemma: they always feel that they are not as good as others, and they are always worried that others will not look down on them.

There is an explanation in psychology that such behavior belongs to a sense of psychological deprivation.

Mainly because of the lack of self-supply in the heart, so when talking and doing things, I will think too much about the eyes of others.

My friend Lili is like this, I accompanied her shopping a while ago, and she was in good shape.

But when trying on clothes, she obviously had her favorite style and color, but she still listened to the eyes of the salesperson and the people around her, and bought the clothes that looked more flattering to others.

When we went home together, I asked her why she couldn't follow her heart and choose what she liked

She saidAren't all clothes worn for others to see, so if everyone likes them.

For a moment, I was a little speechless.

In fact, not only buying clothes, but also in her daily life, she also values what others think of her.

When she was busy at work, her colleagues around her asked her to help order coffee, and she never refused.

When chatting about gossip in the pantry together, she occasionally wears a sentence or two to talk about her, and she is also very sensitive.

In this way, in the discussion of others, she often sways from side to side, falling into anxiety, sensitivity, and self-doubt.

But in fact, in this life, people come and go, and most people will eventually become passers-by.

Think about it, those who missed, who will remember you in the days to come, and who will you remember?

Therefore, really strong women have learned to ignore the eyes of others.

Wu Yue once shared his own experience.

She said that having a teacher had a big impact on her.

The teacher told her: What is your world, your world, actually comes from your cognition, from your perception.

Different positions naturally lead to different views.

Instead of being left and right in the eyes of others, it is better to be chic and relaxed.

Don't be burdened with the problem of being burdened, and don't let yourself feel pain.

When you no longer live in the eyes of others and live a bright spring by yourself, you will be full of birds and flowers.

Over the years, there has been a lot of talk online, especially against women.

If a woman is not married after 30, she is of little value. ”

25-29 years old is the best age for women to have children, and it is too late if you don't have a baby. ”

Every time I see this kind of remarks, Ten O'clock Jun will feel very uncomfortable.

Aging is a natural trend, and it is too biased to define a woman's life as a whole.

The blogger @bb the king's words, and he was very impressed.

I found that the world is a game, and my elders liked to use the word delay, and after I studied abroad, they always regretted that it would not be delayed for several years.

What the hell am I delaying?

It seems that in their eyes, if they fail to complete the task of giving birth at the age of 30, they will be notified by the system of chatter.

And once it's done, the system will inexplicably give birth to other tasks and continue to chatter and urge you to complete them.

It seems that age has become a threshold, and if you don't do some things, you will violate the rules.

But life is never a one-way street, and it is not necessary to accomplish certain things at a certain age.

As the popular saying is the best age to have children.

But for women, 25-29 years old, just graduated from college, financial ability is acceptable, personal cognition is gradually improving, what is not the best age?

Wu Xin once told a story on the show.

said that he bought a health supplement two days ago, and the instructions read, "Take one pill a day for those under 40 years old, and two pills a day for people over 40 years old." ”

She looked at the health care products and felt that she had reached the stage of life where even health care products cost twice as much as others, and she would feel a little anxious.

But when I think about it, it's actually okay, the actual age of my body is at this stage.

On the contrary, when it comes to this stage, I feel that many things are relieved at once.

Of course, I will envy those who are young and energetic.

I also fantasize about "if I am now."

Two. Ten. If you're two or three years old, that's great. ”

But life is like this, instead of fantasizing, it is better to enjoy what you should enjoy at this stage.

Romain Rolland wrote a passage:

A lot of people die when they're 20 or 30 years old.

Once they have passed this age, they have become nothing more than a shadow of themselves, and the rest of their lives have been spent imitating themselves.

So what is immortal?

It's a heart that feels like it's not too late to start no matter what time it is.

If there are regrets, then go for it, if you want to learn something, you can learn it, there is only one life, instead of worrying about the inconvenience that aging will bring, it is better to transform this worry into a strength, a fearless, fearless power.

After all, in this life, we will live only for ourselves.

Kazuo Inamori once said:

Life is not a material feast, but a spiritual cultivation.

You can't predict what's going to happen around you in the next second, and you can't know what lies ahead.

The only thing we can do is to keep a peaceful and unbalanced heart to face the ups and downs of life.

I have a friend who has had a hard time working and living in recent years.

She is a standard career-oriented woman, and after marriage, her husband couldn't accept her disregard for her family, and the two separated early.

But after she put most of her experience into her work and achieved good results, she had to face the embarrassing situation of finding a new job at the age of 36 because the entire business line was axed.

Looking back, she felt like she had nothing.

But when there is nothing, it is often the time to go forward.

In the past few years, she has delivered takeaways, photographed **, studied macroeconomics, and also done a small business when she was financially strained.

Try to try and make mistakes with the minimum cost, and life can be passable.

The last time we met, she still had a light in her eyes.

When asked about her current situation, she just smiled and said: Maybe sometimes, when you can't persevere, the difficulties are about to be unbearable.

Yes, over the years, although she has encountered a lot of difficulties, she has passed them with this attitude.

If you look closely, you will find that no one's life is smooth, and in this life, all disasters and eight disasters are the norm.

Women with strong hearts know that many of life's big difficulties, as long as they live, nothing cannot be solved.

walked forward with his head held high, and when he turned around, he found that the light boat had passed the Ten Thousand Mountains.

Yang Jiang once said:

A woman's best state should be, her eyes are full of stories, but her face is not frosty, she paints light makeup every day, does not laugh at anyone, does not rely on anyone, quietly works hard, and lives as she wants.

In this life, no matter who you look up to or who you rely on, it is better to let yourself live as your own backer.

And if you want to be your own backer, the most important thing is to cultivate a strong heart, care about what you should care about, and ignore those discussions that will hinder your life issues.

The rest of our lives are long, may we all become stronger and stronger in the years of suffering, and may the wind and snow in this time become the carving knife that casts us.

Encourage it.