Yu Hua said: "There is no path in the world that is repeated, and no life can be replaced." Everyone is experiencing their own life. ”In other words, in this big stage of life, everyone is desperately interpreting their own life script, whether it is wonderful or not, it is all up to them.
Some people follow their hearts and live their own style, while some people cling to others and lose themselves, and their lives are stormy.
A woman with real brains has 3 things in her life, and the more she doesn't care, the better her life
One, regardless of the idle things at home.
When my mother-in-law saw my husband coming to Hulai, she would invest in this and that for a while, but she couldn't control it, because my husband didn't listen to her obstruction at all.
So my mother-in-law pointed the finger at me, blaming me for not caring about anything and letting his son toss around, I smiled indifferently, you also care, he doesn't listen?Young people should let him toss trial and error, which successful person has not failed many times?
It's not that I don't care, but within the scope of what I can accept, he can do anything, lose and pull down, and learn from it.
It is impossible for a man to plant those few acres of land step by step, and earn thousands of dollars at work, which is not ambitious and want to do a career.
We can understand that the elderly are afraid of compensation, if the wife no longer supports it, what to do is opposed by the family, what to do is not done, and what you want to do can't be done, and you can't make a lot of money, how aggrieved you feel.
So I don't care about this idle matter, but let my husband be very grateful, his second sister-in-law is very good at managing his second brother, and the two often quarrel, and we get along harmoniously and have never blushed.
Because I don't care about his idle business, that is his goal, I just take care of myself, we have room for development with each other, and we can live in peace without interfering with each other.
Second, don't care about other people's family affairs.
As the saying goes, "It is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs." "There are conflicts in every family, and only by being in them can you understand the root causes of the conflicts.
And listening to a person's one-sided words is inconclusive, because she looks at the problem from her own point of view, she will feel that what she is doing is right, and how others are sorry for her.
If you act as a "peacemaker" in this situation and make suggestions, it may be bad.
Once, Aunt Zhang and Sister-in-law Wang were sitting and chatting at the door of my house, and the two of them talked about family affairs, and Aunt Zhang talked about her daughter-in-law's various wrongs.
When Sister-in-law Wang heard this, she didn't expect it, looking at this child like a sensible person, how could she be a person who is messing around?
And Sister-in-law Wang told others what she heard, and as a result, some good people found Aunt Zhang's daughter-in-law and persuaded her to be kind to the old man.
Because of the spread of the matter, the family made a fuss and almost divorced her husband.
Listen to other people's affairs, or don't listen to them at all, use other words to lead away, whose pot has no ashes, and solve their own affairs behind closed doors, if you participate in other people's homes, it will only expand the contradictions.
Three, regardless of other people's gossip.
After I got married, I may have become the talking point behind other people's backs, why?Because I have been married in the countryside for 15 years, and no one can see me in farm work.
So no matter who sees me, they will say, "You are the most blessed in our village." I can't hear whether this sentence praises me or envy me, I only hear another meaning, I don't do any work, I'm too lazy to do it.
When my husband was doing farm work alone, someone asked me directly what I was doing at home, and it was obvious that many people were not used to me not doing farm work.
I ignore these gossips, and I don't need to explain to them, I don't do farm work because I have my own work on the Internet, and no matter what, it's to make money.
I haven't rested, and I'm also paying for this family, so I'm not an idle eater. As long as my family knows what I'm doing every day, and it just needs my family to understand me, and I don't need to care about other people's opinions.
Instead of giving them time to explain, quietly improve your abilities. Use your own efforts to make your whole family's life better and better.
Stay independent, plan your own life, don't give up your hobbies and lifestyle, don't live for anyone, and aren't influenced by anyone.
A woman with real brains, regardless of the gossip at home, regardless of other people's family affairs, regardless of other people's gossip, the more she doesn't care, the better her life, and only dances a wonderful and beautiful melody in her own field.