At that time, women's social status was not high, and there were often not many options for them.
When you step into the mansion of a wealthy family, in addition to the role of a few female envoys in the inner and outer courts, you will also face a less dishonest job - that is, a room.
Tongfang, to put it more euphemistically, is the sexual enlightenment mentor of the brother in the house;If you don't say it well, it refers to those little ladies who are not controlled by their parents. To put it more bluntly, they are nothing more than an aid to the younger generation in their adolescence. In my impression, the function of the room is nothing more than for the ladies to study at home and for the sons to play outside. Despite this, there is also a great deal of variation in the rank of tongyu, and some people are even promoted to aunts.
Even though she is a standing and ministering"Concubines", but after giving birth to a child, there may be more to rely on in the future life;It's not good, I haven't even grown a head, let alone have a baby!The slightly worse person, who has been a little-known roommate for many years, finally survived to the twilight of his life and could not return to his hometown to find a suitable spouse;There are more, it is a nameless and surnameless room, and can only stay at home. The most basic situation is that there is no clear boundary between the concubines, and they want to rely on their beauty to climb, but in the end they encounter the fate of being betrayed.
What I want to discuss today is precisely this group of women who are "neither up nor down" and "really have no other choice".
Those "Tongfang" who do not know how to measure and do not respect their masters eventually go to the road of self-destruction.
The name Kerr.
Ke'er is a very caring person in the room of the third brother of the Sheng family, and in order to ensure that Changfeng can concentrate on Xi, Lin Xiaoniang specially arranged for two of the most beautiful people to go to the twilight of the six girls to serve as "eyeliner."
Ke'er was Xi to showing her coquettishness next to Changfeng, but when she came to Twilight, she still maintained the demeanor of a literary young lady, just hiding in the maid's room every day, immersed in the sad autumn mood and chanting poems;Her clothes were washed white, and she didn't bother to change them, so she wore an old military uniform. Although there was work to be done in the yard, she was reluctant, and even if she reluctantly picked up a needle and thread and sewed it a few times, she had to sigh a few times. She likes to look up at the sky in a daze during her evening walks. Whenever she saw a falling leaf or a flying geese, she would affectionately chant sad verses. She didn't know why she was crying like that, because she didn't understand why she was so sad. Whenever she stepped onto the stage, she was either in tears or on the path of crying.
In the TV series, this scene is perfectly presented: Changfeng quietly came to Dusk Cangzhai and peeked at his lover Ke'er, she was like a weak willow tree swaying in the wind, lying weakly in the arms of the third brother, and whispered: Third master, I will never see you again in my life, I didn't listen to the voices of the people around me, and cried loudly.
She used to be a young lady in a convicted eunuch's house, but when she came to the Sheng family and was spoiled by Changfeng, she always remembered herself"Miss"Identity.
In the end, her weak and willow-like posture and beautiful appearance were changed by the Wang family, and she was demoted to a third-class girl, and was sent back to her original place.
Ke'er initially thought that she would be accompanied by Changfeng when she returned to the same place, so she didn't care about the specific order. But contrary to her expectations, when she returned, she was hit hard by Aunt Lin. What's worse is that her third brother is an irresponsible person who usually says a lot of affectionate toothache curses to her. However, when her"Caring people"When he was snubbed by his mother, he didn't have the courage to protect her.
Ke'er, a person who relied on the Third Young Master wholeheartedly, was eventually sold, her husband's family was a rough man, and he beat her to death in just two months.
Frankly, Kerr is like this"Through-room"'s fate is really self-reaping. The door of his inner house was always open, and no one dared to touch it. In fact, in the inner house, the biggest lie is to "attach" to a man's life, and these two words produce beautiful dreams, stifling the foundation of struggle, and ultimately attaching to others, and life cannot be controlled by oneself.
Gong Hongxuan. Gong Hongxuan is regarded as Gu's"Through-room", Although she has the title of aunt, Gu Tingye rarely enters her room, especially after Minglan enters the mansion, he doesn't know anything about Gong Hongxuan's identity, and every time he sees her, his face is full of deep disgust.
In the original work, Gu Tingye married Yan Hong before Ming Lan, and Gong Hongxuan was Yan Hong's close person. This made him feel that he should be a righteous gentleman, and he should be an upright scholar, instead of competing for favor and marrying her like other women. However, Yan Hong died suddenly due to illness not long after leaving home, and at the same time, Gu Tingye was wandering outside, and the relationship between them as husband and wife was also quite cold. Later, their relationship gradually developed to an almost undefended stage. Since he didn't know anything about the future of the second brother, everyone in Gu Tingye's previous room had dispersed, leaving only Gong Hongxuan and Qiu Niang, who expressed his willingness to wait for the return of the second brother wholeheartedly.
Witnessing all this, I seem to feel that Gong Hongxuan is full of affection and righteousness. However, she was actually a chess piece secretly arranged by Xiao Qin's family in the Gu Mansion: Yan Hong died inexplicably, and after having an improper relationship with others, her heart had a secret fetal bead knot. In order to save face, she had to take strong drugs to cause a miscarriage, and as a result, even her own life was gone. Gong Hongxuan kept this secret, waiting for Xiao Qin's clan to use her to bring a better life to Huncheng Garden.
Gong Hong Xuanyuan is an orphan girl living under the protection of others, she originally loved the least valued son of the Yu family's three rooms, but she didn't expect to be forcibly brought to her. Her husband was also a poor man, so she had to work as a child bride in Sanfang in order to make a living, and gave all the family property to Sanfang's concubine for him to live on. When she decided to return to the Yu family, she found that Sanfang Shuzi had become a member of the side branch and had married a wife, so she gave up all last thoughts and only hoped for money.
Therefore, she took the initiative to become a pawn of Xiao Qin's family, but the final result still backfired. Despite the countless sacrifices she had made for the Hou Mansion, Xiao Qin still hoped to be able to kill her to seal her mouth, and it was impossible for her to find a suitable path for her. Such was her fate. Luckily, out of sympathy, Minglan kicked her out of the house, but gave her some money, hoping that she would experience it again.
Not everyone has the opportunity to encounter good fortune again, know how to be flexible and resist bravely, no matter how unfair fate is, because there is always a way to go.
If you want to make a wedding dress for yourself, choose it yourself and carry it.
The charm of Meier.
Mei'er is also alone in Changfeng's room, and because of her arrogant personality, she is unwilling to compete for favor, so she is often snubbed by the third room. She has a very attractive appearance, sharp teeth, and a very sharp mouth.
She was also a member of a kind family, and understood that relying on others was not a wise choice, so it was better to work hard under Minglan's guidance. Therefore, after the Wang family inflicted severe corporal punishment on her, she sadly begged Minglan not to send her back to the third master's room. After that, even though her feelings for Minglan were not 100% sincere, she was still very capable. Her father was a well-known doctor, and her mother was also a famous doctor, and they were both kind-hearted and tireless, and they were quite famous in the local area. In order to remember the deceased family, Minglan renamed Mei'er Ruomei, which also means that the master-servant relationship between them continues.
As time passed, the loyal big girls beside Minglan were married to suitable partners and lived a good life. When it was Ruomei's turn, she only had a strong interest in Chengyuan's master, Gongsun Baishi. This kid is a showman, talented, and thoughtful. Mr. Gongsun is undoubtedly a capable person, and he has put in great effort and effort to Gu Hou and his wife without reservationI also have confidence in myself and can live my small life better than others. He was actually a very talented man, often drunk and naked, chanting and chanting in his own courtyard, appearing very uninhibited.
This is exactly what Ruomei loves, even if Gongsun Baishi already has a wife at home, she is willing to become his concubine.
Although Ruomei seems to admire Gongsun Baishi's talent on the surface, she actually has her own plans: Gongsun Baishi and his original partner have not seen each other for many years, so the relationship between them may not be so deep, and she has plans to replace him;If it is a daughter, it is to find a good husband for herself. Gongsun Baishi did not have a child by his side, but when he gave birth to a child, her mother became noble because of her status as a son, and the child could also be taken care of by her side. Ruo Mei thought, what else can such a woman do?Compared with an ordinary person, this kind of collocation is more comfortable, giving people a sense of helplessness of "Gu Hou can't do it, Gu Hou Master can also do it".
It's a pity that she couldn't calculate the deep affection and righteousness between the Gongsun couple with all her might. After she tried her best to give birth to her son, the mistress decided to return to the capital, and she could not be responsible for raising the child. For the sake of this idea of "cutting off children and grandchildren", she chose to leave at the last moment. Although her original plan did not go as planned, her original intention was not simple and straightforward. So, she had no choice but to leave and become a pure woman, living a plain and happy life. This kind of decision is just a risky gamble, if you win, it is like a chicken and dog**, if you lose, only you understand the consequences, and you can't blame fate or blame others.
Qiu Niang was the one who had always been by Gu Hou's side when she was young, and she waited wholeheartedly for Gu Tingye's victorious return.
She was indeed waiting for Sister Rong'er to arrive, but she regarded Sister Rong as a means to get close to Gu Tingye.
Whenever Minglan had an argument with Gu Tingye or Minglan was pregnant, Qiu Niang always carefully handed her embroidery to Gu Hou, even though Gu Tingye had never actually seen her.
In the end, Sister Rong took into account Qiu Niang's care and care for her, and gave her two pieces of advice: Father is no longer the father of the past, although the eldest lady understands things, she is not a good partner, if you are good to me, I will take good care of you in the future, so don't think about it next to you.
In fact, Gu Tingye and his wife decided to entrust Sister Rong to Qiu Niang's care, mainly because they valued her qualities very much and hoped that she would be able to do her best;She is a good daughter-in-law, a good wife and mother, who can take care of her husband's daily life and the lives of her children. With the dignity of an aunt and the support of her daughter, her life may not be so difficult.
Indeed, Sister Rong is married very well, and she also has deep feelings and righteousness for Qiu Niang, which gives her a peaceful old age. However, in that era of material abundance and spiritual emptiness, women's happiness index is getting lower and lower. Although a woman's fate cannot be decided entirely by herself, the most important thing is to be clear about what is most important to her. Instead of pursuing what you can't reach, you should cherish and manage everything in front of you.
Carefully assess the situation, both seize the opportunity and let go, so as to ensure stability for a lifetime.
In this group of named supporting roles, Aunt Xiang had the best life, she endured silently all her life, although she was cowardly, but in the end she got the pride of her son and the filial piety of her daughter-in-law, and the whole family respected her. No one ever mentioned that she had ever been a roommate, and no girl dared to despise her.
You have to understand that she created this world completely because of her life's work.
If a woman does not come from a powerful family, does not have a striking appearance, and does not participate in all sorts of intrigues and tricks, then it is quite good for her to obtain such a result.
In fact, the lives of these women are not completely devoid of logic:
No matter what dynasty or era, even if it is just a common house, it cannot be completely dependent on others to live;
When you take your responsibilities seriously, discover your inner worth, and learn to adapt to change, fate may bring you unexpected surprises at some point;
Don't always have the expectation that you can't reach anything, because being too greedy often leads to not being able to grasp anything;
Patience is never easy, but as a human being, there is nothing that cannot be endured, because patience is both a wisdom and a back road.
Chicken soup talks too much, and finally I want to say a few simple words:
Did you know that this work actually depicts a group of female characters who are almost destined to spend their lives at home? In order to live a better life, they need to be like the "Fang mother" described by Minglan who was sold to the Sheng family when she was ten years old before she had enough to eat. However, they began to learn Xi skills, such as reading ledgers, learning to work Xi women, and learning Xi daily living skills. Although they spend half their lives at home, they don't need to worry about making ends meet when they get married outside.
These perspectives don't just apply to women, but what are the differences in their careers?