What is the main difference between love and liking?It is possible for two people to enter the palace of marriage, not only because of the existence of love, but also because people who love each other deeply will not necessarily enter the palace of marriage.
People often think of love as the cornerstone of marriage, but not many people really understand the difference between the twoActually, loving and not loving are two different things. In my opinion, true love may attract many people, but true love may belong to only one person.
In the work "Do You Know", Sheng Minglan lost her encounter with her little grandfather, missed her encounter with He Hongwen, and married Gu Tingye, who was feared by everyone.
This man did not take a concubine, but doted on her like a doted little princess, but is there really love between them?
In my opinion, the lack of love is nothing more than a sign of the fans' excessive egotistication.
Gu Tingye, the son of a descendant from Houmen, and also the daughter of the Sheng family, has paid countless efforts and efforts in order to marry Sheng Minglan.
Even when talking to her grandmother, Sheng Minglan shyly said that she never expected that there would be a man who would go around in such a big circle, constantly calculating, just to be able to marry her.
In their love journey, many people think that Gu Tingye's love seems immature, but it is deep and sincere. In the face of such sincere feelings, anyone may feel shaken, but He Minglan did not show other emotions except being happy
Minglan is a very rational person, she thinks that the misfortune of her childhood is only part of the reason, in addition, her feelings for Gu Tingye may only stay at a level where she has never really experienced love.
Minglan developed a strong interest in "infighting" from a young age, and the death of her mother allowed her to thrive overnight. Her father was a "little cop".She learned how to behave and do things under her father's teaching since she was a child, and she also knew a lot of legal knowledge and principles. Hatred nourished her childhood, and it made her cunning but not harmful.
From the perspective of marriage, Gu Tingye experienced a fate similar to Minglan . She is a very good woman, but she also has a shortcoming, that is, she is too sensitive and cannot solve problems in time, which eventually leads to the suicide of both herself and her husband. Between these two people, there is no need to dislike each other, there is a deep resonance and cherishment between each other.
He has gone through all kinds of hardships and betrayals, but the nurse has no trust in anyone. Her mother was a landlady. Minglan has experienced many hardships since she was a child, her mother's love was often ignored by her father, and her grandmother was the center of her life.
These two people's personalities and backgrounds are highly similar, and they both deeply feel each other's inner pain.
Is Gu Tingye a black-bellied person?Gu Tingye is a thoughtful person, he is always careful to guard against others, always maintains a self-protective mentality, and has a keen insight into the surrounding environment.
Minglan is no exceptionHe always showed great "coldness" to himself.
A combination of factors, such as the environment and family atmosphere, causes the two protagonists to mature psychologically prematurely. The influence of parents, teachers, classmates, and friends is indispensable in their upbringing. From a specific point of view, Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan are not the kind of people who are easy to let down their guards.
Their biggest obstacle is a lack of security, which is a direct consequence of the unfortunate events of their family of origin. After going through too many ordeals, the distance between them grows. People with such similar personalities are closer to a confidant, but it is difficult for them to be loving partners.
He chose Minglan really because of his deep loveEssentially, it's more of an appreciation of the alter ego.
In that particular era, love between women was seen as a luxury. Men's marriages tend to take place at home. Before entering the palace of marriage, decision-making power was basically concentrated in the hands of the father and his brother.
Minglan is more like a miracle in her feelings for Gu Tingye, she controls Gu Tingye steadily, and her ability is definitely not to be underestimated.
Gu Tingye had doubts about everyone around him, and no matter what the situation was, he had to weigh the pros and cons. In his opinion, "my career is my own, not that of someone else." Since he didn't have enough money to take the risk, there was no one on this path to support him.
Under the protection of the Sheng family, Minglan lived a life of walking on thin ice, and although she was taken care of by her grandmother, she still could not escape the troubles of human sophistication. She has spent her life running for a living. Under such environmental conditions, you can still feel at ease and at ease, and anyone is eager to be able to hug the person you love.
During the Sheng family's Xi journey, Gu Tingye gradually developed a deep affection for Minglan. He thinks she's a very nice person. However, at that time, the goddess's entire mind was focused on the little grandfather, and Gu Tingye behaved quite passively, and chose to remain silent under the impetus of low self-esteem.
Gu Tingye's purpose in entering the Sheng family was not just to pursue fame, what he really wanted was a young woman like Minglan . It's not just worth trying, it's also in the quality of Cyblido.
Why didn't Gu Tingye marry Manniang?
As the orthodox heir of the Hou family, Gu Tingye always remembered his true identity. In a family full of all kinds of contradictions and conflicts, he was always the child who was not understood. Although he was plotted by his stepmother and turned against the entire family, the noble qualities of his heart never affected his daily life.
On a deeper level, Manniang has never been on the same level as him, and her humble birth is the basic sin that this woman bears. In her opinion, a man's love for a woman is what a person's love for his beloved. Gu Tingye didn't have a good impression of her, he just used Manniang to exacerbate the tension with the Gu family.
Gu Tingye knew that after marrying Manniang, his social status might be affected. So he divorced her shortly after the marriage and gave him the children. Although she brought him two children, he never had the idea of marrying her.
Gu Tingye's identity matches the daughter of a big family. After that, his attention turned to Yanran, because she, like him, had lost her mother's care since she was a child.
Although the background color remained the same, Gu Tingye still thought that her beauty and conduct were very good, he didn't mind associating with the people of Goolan Vashe, and had a tolerant attitude towards Manniang.
After carefully weighing various factors, he made this choice, but unexpectedly, Manniang made a mistake, causing Gu Tingye to make a mistake in strategy.
However, from Yan Ran's character, we can clearly feel that this man's expectations for his partner, such as the right match and character, are all aspects that Gu Tingye has thought about.
Minglan 's metaphorical reminder also sounded the alarm for Gu Tingye. Manniang's personality and the crisis she feels in her life with another person begins to unfold gradually.
In this incident, Gu Tingye had deep respect for Minglan . Although Minglan had only met Manniang once, she had already sensitively sensed the subtleties.
For Gu Tingye, can he find this kind of "right-hand man" in **?
He is not looking for a virtuous wife, but a trustworthy "partner".
From a young son to a young general, Gu Tingye had contact with Minglan many times, and in the process, he deeply realized the value of peace in the backyard.
The connection between marriage and reality is eternal, and whether it is indifference or despair, they are gradually maturing in a continuous process.
Minglan is a "ruthless" person, she shows tolerance to everyone, but she is particularly ruthless to herself, and her calmness makes people feel very annoyed.
Attentive people may notice that Minglan does not have any obvious "shortcomings" in her, and this type of woman is often the most feared.
Gu Tingye is a respected figure in the eyes of the emperor, if he lacks experience, how can he add glory to the family?
Despite this, he always showed a calm attitude, never mentioning the harm he had suffered, and never showing his vulnerability to others. His temperament and personality are very gentle, and so is his attitude towards others, he never tries to please people, and he does not even want to be known, because he thinks that there is only such a person in the world who can satisfy him. Minglan 's character is the same, which is also the reason why Gu Tingye has a good impression of her, mainly because of her ruthlessness."
Fortunately, Gu Tingye has a deep understanding of Minglan and he has always healed her through his own practical actions. Show kindness with all your might, and use it as a way to express sincere feelings.
However, does Minglan really love?It can be said that the relationship between the two has deepened over time, and this relationship is because of Gu Tingye's "loyalty", but in fact there is not much love.
Even though the man had used all his savings on the day he got married, if he didn't love, he really didn't. It takes everything to love someone, but it's not unacceptable that he doesn't love you. Just like running a business, both sides just show each other their hole cards.
If that's not the case, why do you respect each other like guests when you get married?Gu Tingye showed extreme anger again and again because Minglan decided to take a concubine for him without authorization
For Minglan , it is her daily duty to properly manage the affairs of the Hou Mansion.
How is this model of marriage fundamentally different from simple living together?
In addition to these, Gu Tingye's dedication to this concubine daughter is also inseparable from the fact that Sheng Minglan was raised by her grandmother.
By looking at Mo Lan's marital status, we can clearly feel the ability of this grandmother. Not only does she have a deep cultural knowledge, but she also has a knack for growing tens of thousands of orchids in her famous "orchid garden". In order to ensure that her daughter can get ahead, Lin Xiaoniang did not hesitate to sacrifice the reputation of the entire Sheng family's daughters as gambling money.
In the end, Mrs. Sheng personally intervened and successfully solved the problem. It must be understood that the Liang family is one of the best in Shengjing's wealth ranking, and it is simply a world of difference compared to the Sheng family.
However, it only took half a day for Minglan grandmother to successfully complete this task.
Although the dialogue between Mrs. Sheng and the Liang family is not clearly expressed in the play, if you think about it carefully, you will find what kind of strong support and strength Minglan has behind it.
Minglan 's grandmother was the only daughter of the Marquis of Yongyi, and her social status was comparable to that of the upper echelons of the pyramids. Through the interaction with the palace grandmother, we can clearly feel the strength of her social network.
The Liang family is just an earl, and if they want to develop in Shengjing, they are very limited in their wealth alone.
However, if you can establish a deep relationship with the Sheng family, whether it is Minglan's father or his brother, this is a transaction that will definitely not lose money.
Gu Tingye knows that the people of the time are junjie, and he knows the interests of them well. Even though Minglan looks light on the surface, she is actually perfect for being her own wife.
However, Mrs. Sheng is not the kind of person who communicates easily with people. Gu Tingye stood on his wife's side again and again, and didn't care about anyone, which was undoubtedly Minglan Grandmother's favorite.
In addition to these, the cherishing of Minglan reputation before marriage also created a positive image for her.
Therefore, considering various factors, Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan are undoubtedly a naturally formed pair.
Minglan is not suitable for the little grandfather, only by marrying a man like Gu Tingye can she live a peaceful life.
But if you go deeper, is there love between the couple?In my opinion, this does not exist.
After getting married, Gu Tingye never gave any gifts to his wife, but the moment he proposed to the queen, he approached the queen and asked for a gift. The queen agreed, so she gave him the money, but asked him to give him a gift at the wedding. On the day of the wedding, he went out to buy food for Minglan .
However, these tiny details are only meant to avoid uneasiness and commotion from the outside world. Unabashedly preferred, from a different perspective, this is only beneficial rather than harmful to Gu Tingye.
Therefore, in my opinion, there is a relationship of mutual dependence, mutual appreciation and liking between Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan, but this does not represent true love.
It is a marriage in which each takes what he wants, and even if feelings arise over time, it is affection, and these two people love themselves more than they love each other.
On the basis of insecurity, such a marital relationship is inevitable, and in such an environment, the relationship between love and non-love loses its importance.