Fifty years old, half a life, known fate.
Many lamented: "Fate cannot be disobeyed." ”
It seems that after the age of 50, we will continue to lower ourselves and start the retirement mode. Don't mind the children;For society, we should also be indifferent.
The ancestors left a piece of advice: "Life is like a backward journey, if you don't advance, you will retreat." ”
If you want to live the second half of your life, you can only "attack and defend", with a new look, to deal with everything, and never leave everything to fate.
Zhu Maichen of the Western Han Dynasty became a monk at the age of 50. Jiang Ziya, the founding father of the Western Zhou Dynasty, did not begin to make his career until he was seventy years old. In the Qing Dynasty, Pu Songling began to turn to literature. For the rest of your life, you can't believe it.
Now, let's take Dr. Yu from "The Outer History of Confucianism" as an example to talk about how to start a new life.
At the age of 50, good karma begins.
Dr. Yu, formerly known as Yu Yude, is a native of Changshu County, Suzhou. His parents died young. He lived in the house of the wealthy Taigong Qi and taught him in a private school.
In order to live a better life, Dr. Yu studied fortune telling and Feng Shui.
One day, while looking at the cemetery, he met a young man who had just lost his father.
The young man was so poor that he couldn't even raise the money needed to bury his father.
Dr. Yu did not hesitate and gave the young man four taels of silver. There wasn't much money, but it was the beginning of a good thing, and the whole village followed his example.
By the time he was in his 40s, Dr. Yu was already well-known and participated in scientific investigations.
He failed the first exam, but Kang Guan respected his virtues and actively encouraged and recommended him.
At the age of 50, Dr. Yu made the list.
For a kind person, after doing a lot of good deeds in the first half of his life, he will slowly return to himself in the second half of his life.
Good retribution comes one after another, and if you continue to do good, there will be a positive situation in life, and this is where the world welcomes virtuous old people.
It's fifty years old and it's quiet.
Dr. Yu was proud of his scientific achievements, but the emperor thought he was too old and arranged for him to go to Nanjing to become a doctor for the imperial eunuch.
To outsiders, this is an idle job with no way out, but he enjoys it.
He said: "Well, Nanjing has beautiful mountains and rivers, not far from my hometown, and my family can live together. "It's a hundred times better than being with a king like a tiger. ”
After the age of 50, we need to work, but also adapt to the "ups and downs of life". Being able to take a step forward and a step back is the best mentality.
Figure out your relationship with the outside world.
Something foreign is a fulfillment of life, not a burden of life.
Maintain an indifferent attitude, life will be happy, and the good mood will be out of control from now on.
Fifty years old, skinny circle.
Dr. Yu is famous all over the world, and there is an endless stream of people who pursue him, but he did not try his best to absorb network resources, but chose to associate with the generous Du Shaoqing, the filial piety of his parents Wu Shu, and the leisurely Zhuang Zhengjun.
Seeing too much hypocrisy, seeing too many faces, being calculated and treated kindly, one will know how to "socialize selectively".
The best relationships between people are not time-filled friends, but personal friendships.
Even if it's a WeChat chat, it's best to chat privately and don't make noise in the group.
Before the age of 50, we cannot choose to socialize, but force ourselves to socialize. For example, you'll want to meet customers, say hello, and foster collaborations.
With people who are in a good mood and people with a positive mentality, a lot of empty feelings are gone, the circle is smaller, the heart is closer, and the possibility of help is greater.
At the age of fifty, the time is ripe for learning.
Many people think that there is no future at the age of fifty, and their cognition cannot keep up with the times.
In fact, after the age of 50, people's wisdom has matured, and they are also very stable and reliable people.
As the saying goes, "Old ginger is still spicy." ”
After Dr. Yu became an official, he had his own routines for solving cases, being a person, helping people, etc., not imitating others and not looking at people from below.
For example, Ying Tianfu sent prisoners to commit gambling and bad karma.
Instead of beating and scolding the students, Dr. Yu asked the students to live with him, then communicated with his friends to understand the real situation, and then put the students back.
In the great sacrifice of Taibo Temple, Dr. Yu was put on the throne by everyone because he knew etiquette best.
We've learned a lot, but how to apply it is a matter of practice. After two or three years of practice, our ability to apply what we have learned has reached its peak.
Knowledge can become an achievement in the workplace, a hobby, and an insight into the world.
50 years, family tradition.
Under normal circumstances, until the age of 50, we are the breadwinners of the family, but not real parents. After all, the parents are alive and not aging.
At the age of 50, we begin to enter the role of grandparents, whose parents may have passed away and whose parents are still in charge of the extended family. The role of parents falls on us.
Dr. Yu arranged the marriage of his children and helped the housekeeper marry a daughter-in-law. The character of the son is formed in discipline.
When the housekeeper was leaving, many people thought that the housekeeper should give the money for the wife, but Dr. Yu smiled, didn't care, and gave the housekeeper a few silver coins.
The best family tradition is "repay grievances with virtue", which is the word "forgiveness".
Families can live in harmony if they forgive each other;Forgive outsiders, there will be no foreign aggression, and the environment around the family will be better.
After the age of fifty, life is your own - understand life, live transparently.
For the rest of your life, while your physical strength is declining and the years are not merciful, your spirit continues to rise.
The power of experiencing wind and rain, the precipitation of the years, and what is left behind are all valuable wealth.
Don't always give in, learn to "attack", don't set limits on life, don't let life template.
With some comfort, moving forward with determination will be more and more exciting.