Zeng Guofan said: "If you don't study, it's better not to know people." ”
Get along with others, know your face but not your heart, and don't be deceived by appearances.
Too many people can always disguise themselves, and they will not reveal the truth until the critical moment.
Therefore, it is necessary to grasp the following three points in order to accurately identify people.
When you fall, you're a**.
As the saying goes: "Relatives help relatives, but no one helps." ”
In our imagination, when we are in trouble, there are countless hands reaching out to us, giving us the strength to get back on our feet.
This is what we are looking forward to the most.
I'm sorry, there are a lot of people throwing stones, and a lot of people have the mentality that more is better than less.
In "Dream of Red Mansions", there is a small character named "Liu Wuer", who is the daughter of Liu's sister-in-law, a kitchen maid in Jiafu.
The mother and daughter are usually conscientious in their duties, for fear of offending others and losing their jobs.
Liu Er is still a child, he is very naïve in everything he does, and he is friendly to people everywhere. She was very friendly with Fang Guan of Yihong Garden.
Fang Guan saw that Liu Er's body was emaciated, so he went to Mrs. Wang to ask for rose dew and let it drink.
One day, Liu Er'er learned from her uncle that she had obtained cocos oil, and quickly thought of Fang Guan and planned to send some over.
At dusk, as soon as Yihong arrived in Yuan Yuan, he met the housekeeper Lin Zhixiao and was interrogated a few words. The child, I couldn't help but ask, looking panicked. The butler thinks he might be a thief.
At this time, several maids came out at odds with Sister-in-law Liu, saying that "Liu Er stole the rose dew".
As events unfolded, Liu's sister-in-law and her daughter were detained. The kitchen and Sister-in-law Liu went to Pingzi on vacation, and through the way of gifts, they demanded that the "case" be dealt with strictly, and Sister-in-law Liu's mother and daughter must be driven out.
Well, Pingzi finds out the truth, everything is a misunderstanding. Sister-in-law Liu returned to the kitchen, but she no longer trusted the people around her.
You are weak, but also in difficult situations, and you will find that the people who really step on you are often not the ones who are on top, but the ones who are just as weak as you. People at the same level always look down on you and hope to crush you so that they can mix better.
While having power, trampling on the weak, such behavior is hated by everyone, but human nature is like this. There are always people who laugh at you, and there are always people who suddenly become hateful.
When you are rich, your feelings are false.
Because when you are poor, don't go to crowded places so as not to be looked down upon. So, if you're rich, you should be able to go to the group and be watched by everyone.
In fact, if you have money, you will mix in the group, and you will not go to the group. Remember another proverb: "Look at your clothes in front of people." ”
It's not you that they like, it's your money. All kinds of likes, not just likes, but what to covet.
Yan Po in "Water Margin" had no money to bury her father, so she said to Song Jiang that she was okay and agreed.
But after Yan Xi married Song Jiang, his life suddenly changed for the better, but he was very restless, and then secretly went to love another person, and also took the letters of Song Jiang and Liangshan people to blackmail Song Jiang and ask for gold.
In the TV series "Abundance", Shen Wansan is very rich, and Emperor Zhu Yuanzhang is very respectful to him. Shen Wansan spent money to build the city wall, and he was ready to give some money to make the soldiers live better.
Zhu Yuanzhang felt that Shen Wansan was too arrogant, so he found a reason to send him to the border. Among them, whether there is a little jealousy, there should be.
The richer you are, the more people you will have around you, and some relatives you haven't seen in years will suddenly appear and always want to shine.
If you go to a party, there will be a lot of people drinking with you.
But you really don't believe that those who praise you are the ones who truly love you.
Those who come for profit will betray you because of profit;When the benefits dissipate, so does the shadow.
The worst part is that you spend money to help someone else, but they don't appreciate it, they think you're giving too little. If you don't give money, people will think you're a**.
The person you drink with, once you have drunk what you want, puts down the cup and becomes a stranger.
When you borrow money, people speak coldly.
You borrow money to pay it back. It's easy to borrow again. This is the opinion of many people.
When you do ask for money, you find it hard.
I went to secondary school in the 90s. Before school started, my mother went to her parents' house to borrow tuition.
The little uncle said, "I can't even afford to read, so why do I have to borrow money?"”
The fourth uncle said: "Money is there, but it is regular, if you take it out, do you want the interest of **?."”
Feeling that the Chinese New Year is over, several uncles said generously: "If you have any difficulties, come to me." "Why did you change your mind?
Yes, usually speaking, you can speak freely, but if you really want to borrow money, people's words, will be especially stingy. After all, real money can gag a person's mouth and buy some real words.
After the cold words, if one or two people readily agree to borrow money, it is really helping others. They may be poor, but they are rich.