Once upon a time, when we had a happy event, we always couldn't wait to share it with those close to us. These people may be relatives, friends, classmates, or colleagues. However, after experiencing some setbacks, we will understand that the people around us do not always want us to do well.
We were naïve enough to think that by passing on happiness, we could also make others happy with us. However, we ignore the fact that our joy does not bring any benefit to others. In that case, why should they rejoice in our success and happiness?
When we happily announce to others that we have been promoted, raised, or found our true destiny, they are not thinking about our success and getting what we want. Instead, they compare their situation and find that we surpass them, making them feel ashamed and unhappy.
You see, our joy mirrors the pain and frustration of others, how can they cheer us on?Therefore, a wise person will not easily share his happy events with others unless he can bring benefits to others. Otherwise, you will only touch the dust of others.
So why do smart people choose to share happy events carefully?First, they understand the complexities of human nature. Relationships between people are complex, and everyone has their own interests and motivations. If our happy event does not have a direct interest in others, they may develop jealousy, resentment, and even hostility. Therefore, smart people will avoid unnecessary contradictions and conflicts for themselves and others.
Second, smart people know how to protect their own interests. They know that some people may use our happy events for their own benefit. For example, if we announce that we have been promoted and raised, some people may try to get a better job opportunity by settling us downIf we win the jackpot, some people may take the opportunity to borrow money from us or ask for help. Smart people will be vigilant and avoid being taken advantage of by others.
Finally, smart people know how to weigh the pros and cons. They understand that sharing happy events may bring them short-term satisfaction and recognition, but that satisfaction and recognition will not bring substantial benefits in the long run. On the contrary, if we can turn our happy events into help and support for others, then we can reap more long-term benefits and rewards.
To sum up, smart people do not easily share their happy events with others because they understand the complexities of human nature, protect their own interests, and weigh the pros and cons. They understand that they can only be truly supported and recognized when their happy events can bring benefits to others. Therefore, we should learn to choose carefully who and when to share, so as not to bring unnecessary trouble and distress to ourselves and others.
In interpersonal interactions, we should deal wisely with our happy events. Don't share it with others easily, but learn to observe and analyze the motives and interests of others. Only when we ensure that we and others can benefit from it can we truly enjoy the joy and satisfaction of sharing happy events.