As the saying goes;Courage is cowardly, wisdom is foolishness. ”
Really smart people seem to be very good at "pretending to be stupid".
When it comes to getting along with people, they are willing to suffer;When it comes to dealing with things, they are a little confused.
They are wise, but they don't show itThey are wise, but they are shrewd from time to time.
Because they understand that only forgetting the opportunity can eliminate the opportunity, and only ignorance can dispel the ominous.
If you can pretend to be stupid, you are really smart.
Knowing without saying is a form of wisdom
Xiao A and Xiao B, because their professional skills are very good, admire each other and are familiar with each other, but as time goes by, Xiao A can't stand Xiao B more and more.
The reason is that Xiao A is very obsessed with a certain sneaker, but he has not been able to have enough money and is reluctant to buy it.
Later, he saw on the Internet that his long-favorite shoes were on sale, **It was really tempting, although there was some ambiguity about whether it was **, he still placed an order.
Friday was the company's casual dress day, and he deliberately wore them to work.
Xiao B saw it but said, "You got these shoes on the Internet, right?"This is a high imitation. ”
Although the voice was not loud, it also attracted the attention of several colleagues, which made Xiao A feel quite embarrassed.
Another time, Xiao A's father had a sudden cerebral infarction, he was tired of taking care of him, and he made a mistake at work, and the leader criticized him in public.
Knowing that he was wrong, Xiao A could accept criticism, but he felt panicked in his heart, and his father's illness came to his heart again, he ran to the bathroom and couldn't help crying.
Compared with being criticized, Xiao A was more afraid that his colleagues would be his glass heart, so he tried his best to hide that he had cried, bowed his head deeply, and shrank in his workstation.
But Xiao B came over: "Why did you make such a stupid mistake, eh, this is a crying ......."”
Xiao A suddenly felt very embarrassed, and immediately pulled out his legs and fled the office.
Afterwards, Xiao A said:
I don't think he had any ill intentions, but why did he have to say it?Don't I want to lose face?”
Often there is no shortage of such people around us.
When they are working, they see that others have flaws, and they always point out in public with a sense of superiority, which often makes the person feel crushed and difficult to accept with their self-esteem
Circle of friends, once they see show-off sharing, they are willing to expose exaggerations that do not match reality, so that friends can't wait to block them;
Even when they see a small mistake such as a passer-by wearing the wrong pants, they have to remind them loudly, attracting onlookers, and as a result, they will incur angry backlash from the parties.
Huang Zhizhong said: Life is not a detective**, all suspects must be arrested and brought to justice, and finding out all the truth will not make life better. ”
Once you pull the trigger of "debunking", you are quick to speak, but the harmonious interpersonal relationship will be broken down.
When a person feels that his popularity is poor, he might as well introspect himself on whether he lacks consideration in human affection, and always regards debunking others as smart and straightforward.
Conduct yourself in the world, don't be smart but be mistaken by cleverness, and fall into the black hole of "demanting hands".
Dealing with confusion is a kind of free and easy
Writer Su Qin said:
I used to think that I lived very clearly, but later I found out that a person who really lived and understood would not bear to let himself live too clearly. ”
When people reach a certain age, they will find that living too clearly is a burden, and they are thinking about everything, which will only add to their troubles.
Between Lu Xun and Lin Yutang, an embarrassing thing happened.
At the beginning, the two lived in the same yard, were good friends with similar interests, and often studied together.
One day after dinner, the two sat together drinking tea and smoking cigarettes while talking.
During this period, Lu Xun casually threw away the cigarette butts, but he didn't expect the cigarette butts to fall on Lin Yutang's mosquito net, burning a hole in the mosquito net.
Lin Yutang was very angry about this and reprimanded Lu Xun mercilessly.
Lu Xun felt that he was an unintentional mistake, but the other party made such a fuss, which was too disregarding friendship.
So he retorted unceremoniously: "Even if it burns completely, it's only 5 yuan in total!."”
Lin Yutang became even more angry when he heard this, and the two quarreled and never corresponded again.
Once like-minded friends, but because of a trivial trivial matter, they were greatly hurt and angry, and they have since broken up, which is deeply regrettable.
In fact, many contradictions and entanglements in life lie in being too serious, wanting to win or lose everything and make it clear.
A truly wise man endures humiliation without arguing and does not argue.
Only by opening one eye and closing one eye appropriately, pretending to be deaf and dumb, can you live a relaxed life.
There was a time in "Dream of Red Mansions", Wang Xifeng deliberately teased Grandma Liu in public in order to please Jia's mother.
Let Grandma Liu use slippery chopsticks to clip pigeon eggs, and also put many colorful flowers on Grandma Liu's head.
dressed her up as a merry "old goblin", which made everyone laugh.
pretended to be ugly in public, and was ridiculed and teased by everyone, it stands to reason that anyone who is exposed to this kind of thing will be angry.
But Grandma Liu not only didn't care, but also took advantage of the situation to make fun of herself:
Although I'm old, I was also romantic when I was young, and I love a flower fan, so I'm just going to be an old merry now!”
In fact, Grandma Liu knew that Wang Xifeng and others deliberately teased her, an old lady in the countryside, to please Jia's mother.
just deliberately chose to pretend to be confused to amuse everyone.
See through it or not, see through it without saying it, this is Grandma Liu's wisdom.
Pretending to be confused with clarity not only fulfills others, but also does not embarrass yourself.
Ji Xianlin once said: "In life, sometimes you do need to be smart, but even less confused. ”
Confusion is not stupidity, not stupidity, but a kind of open-mindedness that does not care, a kind of wisdom that can be used to achieve change, and a kind of ability to bend and stretch.
When dealing with people, don't pretend to be confused when you should understand, and don't take it seriously when you should be confused, so that you can stay away from things and reduce right and wrong.
Willingness to suffer is a state of mind
Ma De said: It is easy for one person to win another person, and that is to learn to lose.
No one in this world likes people who love to take advantage, but everyone likes people who love to lose.
In reality, people who are careful about everything and like to take advantage will only lose more.
And those who know how to take the initiative to make profits, seem to have suffered losses, but in the end they can get more rewards in life.
Ma Weidu told a story.
Many years ago, there was a new vendor who wanted to sell a set of ancient porcelain for 80,000 yuan.
Many buyers know that he is inexperienced, so they find fault with all kinds of faults and try to lower the **.
After Ma Weidu saw it, he shouted 90,000 on the spot and took a picture of it directly.
His peers said that he was too stupid and was wronged, but Ma Weidu smiled and didn't explain.
But since then, whether it is a merchant or a hawker, as soon as he has a good collection, he will find Ma Weidu as soon as possible.
Because of this small loss, he collected more rare antiques.
There is a saying in Caigen Tan: "The world is a blessing." ”
Many times, the losses you suffer with a smile will be repaid in another way.
Writer Cheng Ran told an experience of his friend Jia Ping in the book.
After graduating, Jia Ping joined a publishing house as an editor.
At that time, the publishing house was editing a large book series, and there was a shortage of manpower.
Jia Ping, a group of new young people, became the handymen of the old employees, doing some work to pick up manuscripts and run the printing factory.
After doing it once, other newcomers find all kinds of excuses and don't want to do this kind of tiring work again.
Only Jia Ping still ran to help, worked hard, and never shirked.
If there is a newcomer, persuade him, it is not a matter of responsibility, you do all these chores in vain.
Jia Ping replied that they were all colleagues and didn't care so much.
After months of hard work, the book series was successfully published and won the grand prize.
And Jia Ping's dedication regardless of gains and losses was also seen by the leaders, and it didn't take long for him to be promoted to assistant editor-in-chief.
As the saying goes, it is a person of lofty ideals who can suffer, and it is not a fool to be willing to suffer.
Don't get entangled in small profits, know how to be humble, in order to gather people's hearts;Don't care about the immediate gains and losses, you will make trade-offs in order to seek the long-term.
A person who is willing to suffer will never be disadvantaged by life.
Rockefeller said
Those who think they are smart are fools, but those who know how to pretend to be stupid are really smart. ”
The most rare thing for people is not to have insight into the world, but to be confused.
Sometimes, pretending to be stupid will not only save you from disaster, but also get you what you want.
Know how to be clumsy, in order to be long-term;Learn to play stupid, and you will be thoughtful in the end.
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