When the child was young, he stuck to himself all day long, following behind his ass and shouting "Mommy, Mommy......"The little mouth can talk all day long. But slowly, the child no longer clings to himself, and he doesn't talk about anything on his mind, and the relationship between mother and son becomes more and more anxious, even to the point of incompatibility. Some mothers will askIs it true that when children enter puberty, they will definitely rebel?
We say, adolescent kid, he's just thinking seriously about his life. Of course, in the process of thinking, there will inevitably be times when you will drill the horns and even take detours, and at this time, the role of the mother is very importantA wise mother knows how to care and guide, and a stupid mother will fight and deny.
Therefore, whether the child has a rebellious period or not, the mother is very important. So, what does mom do?I think these three points are very important:
Keep your mouth shut
The last thing an adolescent child wants to hear is what his parents say, no matter what you say, anything that makes him feel uncomfortable and restricts his freedom, the child will not want to listen to it. Some children will pretend to be deaf and dumb to deal with you, and some will talk back directly, the children can't listen, and we are half angry ourselves, and we still say so much, does it make sense?Therefore, keep your mouth shut as much as possible, listen less and more, don't say anything if you can, and listen to what your child has to say as much as possible if it doesn't involve principles.
Stay away
When we focus all our attention on children, we can easily become blind, blind to the advantages of children, and infinitely magnify the shortcomings of children. This is also why, when we look at other people's children, all of them are advantages, and then we look at our own children, but everything is a problem. The point is that you pay too much attention to your child. So, first take care of your own work and life, and love your husband well. Adolescent children, themselves yearn for freedom, just like the horses on the grassland, you have to restrict him in the horse pen, you have to put the reins on him, can he not find a way to break free from the shackles, can he not rebel against it?
Look at the opening point
Let's take a long-term view and think about our children's lives. If you just stare at the little things in front of your child and care about your child's temporary gains and losses, then you really "see the end of the day, but not see the salary". Let's remember one sentence, as a child's mother, the most important thing is to accompany the child to grow up, not to force the child to become a talent. The matter of becoming a talent itself depends on three points of strength, six points of luck, and one point of noble support, which is not as simple as you think. On the contrary, the more you set high standards and strict requirements, and the more you persecute your child, the more rebellious your child will be.
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