Looking at the gender column on the ID card with "male" written on it, Geng Zi couldn't help but cry with joy on his face. The gender issue that has plagued him for so many years is now finally recognized by society and protected by the law.
He finally changed from a woman to a man, a real man, a man from the inside out, both psychologically and physically.
In 1974, in a hospital in a small county town in Ningxia, a cry shattered the silence. **Carrying a little girl out of the delivery room, a middle-aged man hurriedly stepped forward and took the baby, and the smile on his face could not be concealed at all.
He also gave the little girl a nice name "Geng Lanjun." ”
In the blink of an eye, Geng Lanjun has grown from a babbling little girl to a cute little girl. It's strange to say, she hasn't been like other little girls since she was a child, she likes to jump rubber bands and like to play house.
Instead, like boys, they like to play with glass balls and play games like wars. Geng Lanjun is the same in terms of dress, something elseThe little girl wears braids and dresses. She has short hair and wears short-sleeved shorts.
Sometimes even Geng Lanjun's parents will call her as a boy, and Geng Lanjun is not only not disgusted by this, but also enjoys this feeling very much.
Not only that, Geng Lanjun was often regarded as a boy when she was in school, and sometimes when she went to the toilet, she would be kicked out by everyone as a **.
Geng Lanjun has long been Xi to such a situation, and when she is a little older, she thinks why she is not a man, and she will often go home and complain to her parents:"".
Every time Geng Lanjun's parents heard such words, they would laugh, and then Geng Lanjun would say: ".You guys are still laughing, I will definitely become a boy when I have a chance. ”
What Geng Lanjun's parents didn't expect was that such a seemingly joking sentence would come true.
In 1992, Geng Lanjun happened to see it in the newspaper".Female to maleAfter the sex reassignment surgery, it was as if a new door had opened in her heart.
Geng Lanjun began to look for information about these, and she hoped that one day she could also completely become a man through this kind of surgery.
But after she understood,It was found that the technique was still immature and the surgery was very risky, basically no hospital dares to do it, and the most important point is that the cost of this operation is very large, and Geng Lanjun does not have so much money.
In desperation, Geng Lanjun could only wait for the opportunity, and after she graduated from high school, she wanted to make a little money for herself. So, she came to Xiamen, she was very smooth in finding a job, with some unique ideas, Geng Lanjun quickly established a foothold in the company.
After several years of hard work, Geng Lanjun finally saved enough money for the operation. She came home and said to her parentsParents. I want to have sex reassignment surgery, I want to be a man, I don't want to be a woman. ”
Geng Lanjun's parents thought she was joking when they heard her words, but when they saw the serious expression on her face, they couldn't help but be silent.
Geng Lanjun spoke again at this time"I know it's wrong for me to do this, but I really don't want to be a woman, and besides, didn't you treat me like a boy all the time when I was a kid?”
I raised you as a boy, not really to make you a man. If you become a man, what will you do in the future?You wouldn't really think that anyone in this world would accept a transgender woman, would you?Geng Lanjun's father roared angrily, and the water glasses on the table trembled.
And her mother also opened her mouth to persuade:"Girl, how can you have such an idea?If you think we're not good, can't I change it with your dad?”
Geng Lanjun didn't expect her parents' reaction to be so big, and the words she had prepared didn't know how to speak for a while.
Geng Lanjun's parents looked at their daughter with such a determined expression, and knew that if the attitude continued to be tough, the result would be counterproductive. After discussion, Geng Lanjun's father asked his wife to have a good talk with his daughter.
And Geng Lanjun also wanted to have a good talk with his parents, and after understanding his daughter's true thoughts, they were silent. They couldn't have imagined that their daughter who had grown up with so many thoughts in her heart.
Geng Lanjun's parents felt that the risk was too great after learning about this sex reassignment surgery. persuaded her bitterly, hoping that Geng Lanjun would give up such an idea.
But Geng Lanjun was determined to do this operation, and in the end, his parents had no choice but to agree.
In 2005, Geng Lanjun, accompanied by his parents, underwent surgery in Xiamen Zhongshan Hospital.
This kind of surgery is not simple. Because what Geng Lanjun wants is a complete change from the inside out, the pain she has to experience is not a star.
In the following year, Geng Lanjun underwent four separate surgeries, and after each operation, her body was very weak, and her mother washed her face with tears almost every day.
Geng Lanjun comforted:"Mom, I'll be fine, don't worry, I'll be fine. ”
For the first time, Geng Lanjun first put a unique organ that belonged to womenUterus, ovaries, **Total excision. The intensity of this operation is quite complicated, so that the surgeon has no way to do it, and if she makes a mistake, it will hurt her body.
Fortunately, the first operation was very successful, and after a period of recovery, Geng Lanjun couldn't wait to start the second operationRemoval of the breast.
This operation lasted nearly two hours, and Geng Lanjun went through these two operationsShe finally went from being a woman to being a sexless person.
In order to truly become a man, Geng Lanjun underwent *** official reconstruction and transplant surgery. For nearly a year, Geng Lanjun traveled back and forth between Xiamen and Guangzhou, just to truly become a man.
In 2006, Geng Lanjun got a male ID card that really belonged to him and officially changed his name to Geng Zi.
Although Geng Zi has become a male biologically, he has also lost a lot, such as not being able to have a child of his own in his life.
And emotionally, Geng Zi has always been very timid.
"Love".This word is a very easy thing for others, but it was an unattainable dream for Geng Zi at that time, he didn't dare to take the initiative to love, and could only wait quietly for the love that belonged to him.
Fate is always wonderful, Geng Zi met a girl on the Internet during the operation, and the two often confide in each other on the Internet, chatting for a long timeThe girl is very fond of Geng Zi, and has repeatedly proposed to come to Geng Zi, and hopes that their relationship can be one step closer.
But Geng Zi was undergoing surgery at the time, and he was not interested in online dating, so he rejected the girl.
The second relationship experience was introduced to Geng Zi by a friend when he was working outside. The girl was attracted by the temperament he had at the time, and felt that Geng Zi was very different.
asked him to have dinner a few times, but this time Geng Zi did not directly refuse, but was considering it. But the girl directly wanted to live with him, which frightened Geng Zi, he hurriedly said"We're not suitable, let's be friends." ”
This made my friend a little puzzled: "This girl is very good, why don't you accept her." Geng Zi didn't know how to explain to his friend, so he casually found a reason to send him away.
In this way, Geng Zi's two loves were strangled in the cradle before they sprouted. This made him feel very uncomfortable.
In the following 6 years, Geng Zi never fell in love once. Other friends around him asked him: ".You're about to turn 30, aren't you going to start a family?”
Geng Zi shook his head: "I don't want to fall in love yet." "A colleague who has a good relationship with him introduced his cousin to Geng Zi.
After Geng Zi saw his cousin, he had a heart-pounding feeling for the first time. But he was very hindered by his transsexual status and didn't dare to show his heart to the girl, but he didn't want to deceive the girl.
If you explain your identity to the girl, then it will be 100% useless, and he is not able to have children yet, even if the girl accepts it if she takes 10,000 steps back, can her parents accept it?
With all kinds of concerns, Geng Zi never confessed to the girl. He looked at the smile on the girl's face and finally decided to tell her about his situation.
When the girl learned about Gengzi's situation, the situation did not appear as he hoped, and she chose to leave. Geng Zi didn't have any resentment about thisBut he didn't regret his original decision, emotional matters can't be forced, since there is no so, let it be.
Geng Zi, who failed emotionally, went smoothly at work. After the sex reassignment operation, Geng Zi left the city where he had lived for 5 years, and he wanted to change his life that had remained the same.
After deliberation, Geng Zi took a ride to Shenzhen. He hopes to make a mark in this big city.
He was very confident at the beginning, but the reality was very cruel, his education was not very high, which made Geng Zi's journey to find a job very difficult, and he interviewed many companies before finding a job in graphic design.
During the interview, the boss asked Geng Zi to talk about his thoughts, and Geng Zi said his inner thoughts, at which time the boss pointed to the resume and asked: ".
Geng Zi hesitated for a while, and he finally decided to tell the story of the two years of sex change. After listening to Geng Zi's experience, the boss admired him very much, and he patted Geng Zi on the shoulder: ".Young man, you are very courageous, and our company doesn't care what your identity is, only whether you have the ability or not, as long as you have the ability, then no one will look down on you. ”
In this way, Geng Zi was admitted, and during the probationary period, Geng Zi fully revealed his talent, and he became a regular in less than half a month, and his idea was very unique, so that some other people in the company couldn't help but give him a thumbs up.
After working in this company for a while, Geng Zi felt that there was not much room for improvement. I decided to switch jobs to another company, and it went very well.
After working for this company for a while, I chose to change jobs again. This made the people around him very incomprehensible, obviously doing a good job, how to say that he would not do it.
Geng Zi explained:"It's not that I don't like the company, I just don't want to stop. ”
In this way, Geng Zi changed five or six companies one after another, from the original Shenzhen to the north.
Some people in the know asked him:"Wouldn't you care about other people's eyes like you?”
Geng Zi smiled: "After so many years, I have already looked down, and the strange vision will only make me work harder to improve myself." ”
Moreover, after the operation, the problems that occurred in other transsexuals did not appear here in Geng Zi. Moreover, in Geng Zi's diary, some changes in male organs were also recorded.
Geng Zi also knew that his parents had carried a lot of burdens over the years, and after the relationship failed, he took them out to play and travel, so that they could have a good distraction.
Geng Zi's courage is not something that everyone has, and he is also willing to make his identity public so that the whole society knows about his deeds.
By this year, Geng Zi has been transgender for 18 years, although he is still single, he is not discouraged, he still loves life very much, goes to work every day, takes his parents out on vacation, and never regrets what he did before.