We often hear this advice:"The circles are different, and they don't have to be forced;If the three views do not coincide, there is no need to go together. ”This may be true for love and friendship, but family is an exception. Even if the three views of the two generations are inconsistent, the mother still has to get along day and night. Today, we find from the story of Fan Zhongyan and Mrs. Xie that when the children grow up, they don't excel and look at their mothers"Three views".That's it.
The mother's view of marriage gives her children a decent home
Home and everything prospers", this is a cliché. Fan Zhongyan's mother, Mrs. Xie, knows this well. Born in a family of strife, but in the midst of family changes, he maintained his attachment to a decent family.
When Fan Zhongyan was a child, the family fell into many twists and turns, his father had many wives and concubines, while his mother decided to remarry to create a better environment for her children. This sense of responsibility to the family has a significant impact on the children when they grow up.
Mother's concept of learning Xi empowers her children
Mothers are not only the life coaches of their children, but also the leaders of knowledge. In Fan Zhongyan's story, we see the wisdom of mothers who encourage their children to read.
Despite the poverty of the family, his mother still unremittingly supported Fan Zhongyan's path to study. Fan Zhongyan once divided a bowl of porridge several times to avoid starving himself. This thirst for knowledge and persistence in his studies undoubtedly planted Fan Zhongyan's future glory.
A mother's moral outlook is the confidence of her children
Morality is the bottom line of life, and the mother's morality is the confidence for the growth of children.
Under the guidance of Mrs. Xie, Fan Zhongyan has paid attention to virtue since he was a child. He rejected a pile of gold and silver, showing noble character. This kind of selfless and desireless behavior comes from the subtle influence of the mother's moral outlook.
Revelation and reflection
A mother's "three views" affect her children's life. As children, we need to deeply reflect on our mother's teachings and transform them into wisdom in life.
On the journey of life, the circle may be chosen, but the three views do not coincide, but they cannot be escaped. When we see Fan Zhongyan's success, we must see his mother's hard work. Because of his mother's three views, he can be so brilliant.
When children grow up, if they want to see their future clearly, they may really only need to look at their mother's "three views". Mother's view of marriage, Xi, and morality construct the coordinates of our lives. They are the greatest teachers and our compass on our way. Therefore, don't get lost in the highlight moments of the circle of friends, look at the ordinary light of the mother in the family, and maybe you can find the way for your children to shine when they grow up.
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