In real life, the popularity of beautiful women may not be too good, and women who are keen on socializing may also have friction in their relationships, but there is a type of woman, whether it is the opposite sex or the same sex, most people like to get along with them very much.
Some people say that red faces are easy to age, and some people say that time never defeats beauty, in fact,When a woman reaches a certain age, "beauty" does not only refer to the delicacy of the facial features and the difference in figure, many times, "beauty" is a state, but also the embodiment of a person's character.
No matter how good-looking a woman is, without connotation and noble character, she will also be excluded from the social circle, especially those who only have beauty and no other strengths.
As the saying goes, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are blackIf you want to improve your personal charm, in addition to continuous efforts, you must also learn to distinguish which people should not be deeply involved and which people should stay away.
Generally speaking, most of the women who often say these three sentences with their mouths closed are flawed, so don't have deep friendships with them.
01.Likes to talk about others behind their backs
In daily life, hatred of the rich may not be the only topic that everyone complains about, but people who like to talk about others behind their backs will definitely become a thorn in the side of those around them.
Most women with very poor character have this trait, either talking about the emotional life of their bosses, or complaining about their colleagues' outfits.
It seems that in their eyes, only she is the best and most perfect in this world, and everyone else should "keep to themselves" as green leaves for her.
Generally speaking, this kind of woman who likes to talk about others, as long as she speaks, will expose their narrow-minded and bitter nature.
But in addition to talking about others,The most common thing on the lips of this kind of woman is the phrase "I'm just joking".
"Joking" is an excellent psychological defense mechanismThe logic behind this is that because it's a joke, others can't take it too seriously.
When faced with this kind of "joke", most people either have a bad seizure and endure the fire in their stomachs, or they are labeled as "cautious" and are in a dilemma.
02.Trust is often gained by swearing poison
In the relationship between the sexes, vows are also known as painting cakes.
Yu Hua once wrote in "Women's Victory": "He will beg you, he will even kneel, he will slap himself, you don't have a soft heart." He will swear again and again, men like to swear the most, their oaths are no different from a dog barking, you don't believe it. ”
In fact, for both men and women, "vows" can play a very small role, after all, in interpersonal relationships, the relationship of trust and commitment is already fragile.
The essence of swearing is a kind of constraint, and the premise of restraint is that a person can only be bound by something if he has a certain understanding, and if there is no such understanding, the so-called bondage is nothing more than empty talk.
In other words, swearing is meaningless, it doesn't bind anyone.
By looking at it you will find thatThe more people like to swear, the more comfortable they are at breaking their vows.
They don't mind boasting about themselves in the mouth, they will only worry that you will puncture the lie too soon.
03.Habitually kidnapping others with "good relationships".
When "moral kidnapping" is mentioned, most people's attitudes are nonchalant, and everyone stubbornly believes that they will not be kidnapped, and they do not bother to be a dragon.
Indeed, in real life, moral kidnapping is not as pompous as it appears in film and television works, but just like the sentence, "You haven't been deceived just because you haven't met the right ** for you".
A person who is good at moral kidnapping is a master of stealing concepts and a master of disguise.
Somehow they will try to avoid the fact that you put more effort and time into it, but you don't get respect and reciprocity.
In this process, plunder is their goal, and warmth is their means.
They will repeatedly emphasize that if you don't help him, if you don't continue to give to him, then you are at fault.
Between a push and a pull, it successfully shapes the strong and weak sides, and the insiders often find themselves in the pit after the fact.
Socializing is an essential skill for everyone, whether it is dealing with colleagues and bosses in the workplace, or managing friendships, love or even family relationships, "learning to socialize" is an extremely important thing.
But the premise of social interaction must also be to clarify one's own sense of subjectivity, dilute the negative impact of others, and become a better version of yourself.
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