I have a soft spot for the plot of "Parental Love", and whenever I re** it, I will have all kinds of emotional experiences, whether it is about marriage, life, pain, or the relationship between parents and children, I will have deep thoughts. What makes me feel most about this drama is its warmth and sincerity, and it is this warmth and sincerity that makes us maintain a positive spirit after experiencing many setbacks. I think that may explain why a play is so popular.
In the process of ** this drama, the deep relationship between An Jie and Jiang Defu until they grow old always touched us. However, in the original book, An Jie and Jiang Defu are not a fairy-like couple. Their relationship is actually an exchange of interests. Jiang Defu values An Jie's youth and beauty more, while An Jie is attracted by Jiang Defu's charm and thinks that he can bring a better life to himself.
This is how it is described in the original book:
My father summoned the courage to enter my mother's complicated family environment many times. On several occasions, my father almost gave up, but it was my uncle and aunt who gave him strength and courage. But in the subsequent pursuit process, the father has a trace of negativity, which makes the initial love less obvious and important.
It is the kind of father who does not want to steam steamed buns, but dominates his father's life with the competitive mentality of a farmer. My father was a farmer, but he didn't have a good figure like ordinary farmers. What my father thought to himself was, now that I have occupied the position, I am still worried that you, a stinky girl with long pigtails, will not succeed?
In this battle, my mother fought alone, but in the end she married my father. My mother's death was a heavy blow to me – her son died shortly after the war ended. ”
Jiang Defu, although he was a naval officer, his personality was relatively rough, his lifestyle was not very exquisite, he was deeply influenced by the concept of small farmers, and most importantly, he was divorced.
An Jie is an eldest lady from a capitalist family, she spent her formative years in a sweet honey pot, she was highly educated, and was known as a knowledgeable woman in the new era, her appearance was both beautiful and generous, and she was in the prime of her youth.
Since ancient times, marriage has emphasized the principle of matching the family. Jiang Defu and An Jie do not match well in terms of social status, education, marriage concept and age. According to the general point of view of society, Jiang Defu and An Jie are not a suitable couple, and An Jie is not an ideal wife suitable for marrying Jiang Defu, who is five big and three coarse.
Although the TV series version of "Parents' Love" drew a beautiful end to the relationship between parents, it also expressed unwilling feelings for An Jie. "I don't want to go on like this, I'm going to be a good man. In the TV series, An Jie didn't have much expectation and excitement about the upcoming marriage, and his sister An Xin asked him: "Why are you not happy at all when you get married, is it because you are unwilling?"”
An Jie said: "I can't say it either, maybe I'm unwilling, right?"”
An Jie's dream marriage is like this: a tall and handsome man in a white dress says to him affectionately, "I love u miss an."”。However, Jiang Defu could not provide her with such a wedding, even if the dowry prepared for her at home, she could not bring it all. For a young woman who is full of longing for love and marriage, she may feel a little lost.
An Jie was dissatisfied with Jiang Defu's previous marriage, although he didn't really like this person at first, he still chose to enter the palace of marriage with this personBecause she didn't have a better option at the time, she said. In fact, Anjie had no other choice, because at that moment, she didn't have a better decision, it was just a short-lived union.
Below, we'll take the reasons behind **:
01 Due to the influence of family background, Anjie's family has always struggled to raise their heads.
In the play, Jiang Defu and his friends all call An Jie "Miss Capitalism". An Jie's family background is not pure, and there are many complicated overseas relationships in the family, including the seventh and eighth aunts living overseas. His sister-in-law's family was a landlord, and his brother-in-law's brother was a high-ranking Kuomintang officer, and he chose to go to Taiwan.
At that time, those whose families were not in a good financial situation had difficulty looking up when they went out, and most people would choose to take a detour after seeing it. In order to improve the family's living situation, An Jie's brother and sister-in-law have been working hard to facilitate her relationship with Jiang Defu. Since Jiang Defu came to settle down many times, the people around him have different views on the people who settle down.
Especially when An Jie's sister-in-law learned that Jiang Defu had a good impression of her sister, she almost wanted to marry Jiang Defu. At first, An Jie was reluctant to marry Jiang Defu, but the sister-in-law patiently persuaded the younger sister and highly praised Jiang Defu in front of An Jie, calling him the life-saving benefactor of the An family. In the end, An Jie firmly decided to let his son recognize Jiang Defu as his godfather.
In the sister-in-law's point of view, deciding what type of person An Jie marries and whether she is happy after marriage is not the primary consideration. From the sister-in-law's point of view, the most important thing at the moment is to change his family life situation. With the officer's aunt by his side, the people around him will naturally have a higher opinion of him. As family members of officers, they will enjoy a variety of benefits, including white flour and penicillin, which are not available to ordinary people.
Anjie observed the living conditions of the An family, and she knew how marrying an army officer could affect the trajectory of her life. And An Jie's choice to marry Jiang Defu is actually compromising with life and reality.
02 Jiang Defu once saved his nephew's life.
After the ball, An Jie did not have a positive opinion of Jiang Defu, his personality was rough, and he had a marriage. An Jie is not optimistic about Jiang Defu from the bottom of her heart, and she feels that this marriage relationship that has not yet begun may come to an end. But unexpectedly, Anjie's nephew suffered from meningitis and urgently needed a western medicine called penicillin.
There are no clear standards for this drug in ordinary hospitals, and it is only used by military doctors. Therefore, the eldest brother and sister-in-law suggested that An Jie go to Jiang Defu. But due to the problem of face, An Jie didn't want to talk about this medicine, and she also felt that it was difficult to talk about it. Indeed, she is not the object that Jiang Defu wants, so how can she help us?Isn't this asking for trouble?
Considering the safety of his nephew's life, An Jie's brother had to go to Jiang Defu for help in person. After learning of this situation, Jiang Defu did not hesitate to run around, and finally succeeded in prescribing medicine with the help of the hospital director, thus saving his nephew.
It was in the process of searching for medicine that An Jie was able to come into contact with this seemingly rugged man. At the same time, she also noticed the qualities in Jiang Defu that were worthy of her trust throughout her life.
After considering all the factors, An Jie and Jiang Defu started a formal relationship.
03 An Jie chose to marry Jiang Defu not only because of his unwillingness, but also as a challenge to his fate.
In that era, the role of An Jie was highly representative. She is a highly educated woman with an independent, self-confident and self-esteemed personality who desperately wants to break free from the label of "Miss Capitalist".
Therefore, when she learned that marrying Jiang Defu might cause her to lose her military status and return to her hometown to farm, her boss asked her if she would like to go home with him to farm and live a simple life, and she responded without hesitation: "I do".
Jiang Defu was deeply relieved when he heard the words "I am willing". How difficult it is for a woman to be willing to jump into a fire pit for her own sake. He firmly believed that he was not wrong, and thought that this woman was worth fighting for, even if he lost his military and party membership.
Thinking about it carefully, does Anjie's "I do" really mean that he wants to jump into the fire pit?She didn't understand why she would choose to "be an ordinary woman"?She couldn't understand that she didn't have a good impression of Jiang Defu at first, but under the pressure of various realities, the marriage she was finally ready to accept became her preferred partner because of her birth background and family background
An Jie and Jiang Defu finally came together, and to a large extent, they were also mixed with some negative elements.
In the original work, Jiang Defu's pursuit of An Jie is too heavy and has a hint of negativity. His peasant mentality of not wanting to steam steamed buns just to fight for face deeply affected him, making love less crucial. He thought to himself, I've even conquered this fortress, and I'm afraid that you, a naughty girl with pigtails, won't succeed?
However, the kind of negative elements described in the original book were given to An Jie.
Feng Xiaogang once mentioned this:
It is wrong to choose marriage no matter what, and a continuous marriage is to make a mistake and make a mistake. ”
The marriage between An Jie and Jiang Defu is based on a multifaceted consideration of the actual situation and social class. They all want to change themselves, but they don't have the ability to do so. An Jie has transformed Jiang Defu all his life, making Jiang Defu transform from a burly man to a husband of "three washes", and Jiang Defu has always shown tolerance and understanding to An Jie. Between them, there are too many contradictions and entanglements, and none of these affect their love and happiness. In any case, Anjie, as a lucky woman, has achieved the comfortable life she longed for in this married life that was neither suitable nor suitable. Perhaps this is the true meaning of life, to have offspring, to spend the rest of our lives together, and finally to achieve unity with each other.