When I read "Parental Love" again, I realized that Dehua existed only to highlight An Jie's "exquisiteness".
She was an ill-fated woman whose mother left this world for good shortly after she was born.
In the whole play, the love between Jiang Defu and An Jie is enviable, but from different perspectives, isn't the harmony and happiness between the couple also based on Dehua's selfless dedication?
Jiang Dehua's real name is Jiang Dehua, but because An Jie thought her name was too rustic, he decided to rename her "Hua".
Many people have both love and dislike for this character. After she falls in love with a man, she begins to take revenge and hurt him. In Liu Jing's writing style, she did not show much "kindness" to the woman from beginning to end. In fact, Jiang Dehua's life full of "tragedy" has already predicted the future direction from the moment she became the first man.
Dehua first came into the audience's sight because his sister-in-law had a child and needed someone to take care of her.
The relationship between the two sisters-in-law makes a clear difference between the two women. The eldest lady is a beautiful and gentle girl. One of them was a noble lady, while the other was an uneducated woman from the countryside.
Soon after Jiang Dehua became an adult, he entered the sacred hall of married life. He and his wife are both soldiers, and the husband has been serving in the army for two years, and by chance, they met and fell in love. Sadly, her husband joined the army in just one month and has not been left behind.
Later, when spending the night in the cave house with Lao Ding, the irony of the "first time" was particularly sharp. Because there is no "love" in his eyes"For the first time" means that he is a very talented man, and he is so considerate and loving to his wife. This also means that she is the same type of person as Jiang Defu's ex-wife.
Following her family's advice, she opted for a marriage that had no emotional support, but in the end her life became a mess.
After getting married, Dehua played the role of a cow and a horse in his in-laws' house, and was responsible for managing all the affairs of the family. The mother-in-law is a gentle and virtuous daughter-in-law, and she gets along well with him, and she has always hoped to get the understanding and support of her parents-in-law, so she is also very strict with her husband. Despite her sincere affection, her mother-in-law still did not give her the respect she deserved and even treated her harshly.
Jiang Defu did not want to see his sister continue to live in a hellish environment, so he decided to move the streets of Dehua to the city.
Given the man's original intentions, it would have been comforting to get his sister back to her normal lifestyle. Because my sister is a kind, sensible, gentle, responsible and loving girl. Indeed it is.
Starting from the actual situation, the selfish behavior between him and An Jie is vividly displayed.
At the age of 40, he had not yet started a family, and from a certain point of view, his brother and sister-in-law had considerable responsibilities.
After An Jie and Jiang Defu became partners, they were born one after another, and Dehua took care of their five children like a "nanny".
In fact, it refers to the transfer of his sister's unpaid labor from the countryside to the city, so as to enjoy Jiang Dehua's "dedication" with dignity.
For the residents of the countryside, Dehua was deeply favored by his older brother, and he went to the city to live a comfortable life, which was also a great achievement for him.
Although Jiang Dehua entered the home of her brother and sister-in-law, her living situation did not improve significantly, and she still insisted on working.
After giving birth to a child, An Jie immediately devoted himself to his career and was worthy of his youth, so what about Dehua's situation?
She was in her youth, and although she was uneducated and regarded as a "widow" by the public, that didn't mean that Teckwah lost the opportunity to fight for her.
According to local tradition Xi once a daughter is married and splashed with water, Dehua should not return to her maiden home.
However, his elder brother Jiang Defu did not take this to heart, because for him, people who were related to him saved him some unnecessary expenses.
Neither An Jie nor Jiang Defu have really examined Dehua in depth.
Over the past 20 years, she has raised 5 children on her own, which is more dutiful than a full-time nanny, which is her biggest regret.
In Jiang Dehua's life, she regards her brother and sister-in-law as the most important part and never really thinks about herself.
Just like a hard-working "scalper", the important things in his life are put aside. Seeing this, many fans will be curious and don't understand why An Jie and Jiang Defu didn't plan this matter?
From the very nature of human beings, everyone appears to be selfish. There is no doubt that An Jie is deeply grateful for Dehua's selfless dedication, and Jiang Defu also remembers his sister's kindness, but both of them take it "for granted".
Teckwah seems to be only good at taking care of children and does not have many opportunities for growth. He was a good friend at school, but when he got home he became more and more introverted and didn't even dare to talk to his family, let alone play with his children. If the marriage is to be arranged for Teckwoh, who will raise the children?If the child has a job, how can he do it himself?The additional costs incurred in the home are not very economical from any point of view.
Later, when An Jie arrived on the island, Jiang Defu suggested taking his sister over, but she did not choose to refuse, because An Jie and his children owed too much to the woman.
When An Jie gets along with his sister-in-law on the island, although there are still conflicts between the two, An Jie's attitude has changed significantly.
Especially after learning about Dehua's situation in his hometown, she felt sympathy for this woman, and the guilt in her heart gradually intensified.
At the same time, when Lao Ding appeared, Dehua felt the light of hope.
This is the first time she has worked hard for her future, and she does not say any sweet words, but only cares and supports her in practical actions.
After An Jie learned the news, he did not speak coldly, on the contrary, he did his best to promote this good deed, in order to alleviate the guilt in his heart.
Since marrying Lao Ding, everyone generally believes that Jiang Dehua has finally found his home and found a happy haven.
In fact, this woman's life is still full of constant "suffering".
After cultivating the "four things", I began to assist the "big ones" and "two things" to take care of the children. In his opinion, as a teacher, he should teach students well. Jiang Dehua's life gives the impression that he never really lived comfortably.
The lady is either taking care of her children or preparing to raise them, but she has completely lost her self-awareness.
In the best years of her youth, she devoted herself unreservedly to her brother and family. It took a lot of effort to finally find Lao Ding, but in the end he became an "outsider".
After her husband died, the gratitude of her children made Jiang Dehua's mood cold.
After so many years of hard work and patience, Lao Ding has devoted his life to his children, but in the end, his children only want to be buried with their parents, completely ignoring Dehua's feelings.
So, what kind of existence is she?A "nanny" who has no achievements?
Without Yafi's plea, it is difficult to imagine what fate would have befallen her in the end.
From a woman's point of view, I often think about Jiang Dehua in the countryside, what is she really pursuing?
In fact, the answer is actually quite straightforward: she gave so little, just in exchange for the same amount of care and pampering, including peace, happiness and being cared for.
It is often said that family affection is selfless, but this is really the case
In the case of the brothers' clear accounting, Dehua and Jiang Defu showed a deep family bond. In his opinion, his sister is his own brother, and he wants to protect his sister from harm, and he does not want to be bullied. However, what kind of contribution did this older brother make to his younger sister?How much did she contribute in helping her brother start his own business?In the midst of the countless chaos at home, her dedication won An Jie's love.
From a rational point of view, the happy state of my brother and sister-in-law has actually hindered Jiang Dehua's happy life.
In addition to these, there is another person who should not be overlooked, and that is Dehua's first husband, the man who mysteriously disappeared.
Certain transactions are considered "wrong" from the outset".
In Dehua, I noticed the figure of Jiang Defu's ex-wife.
The only difference is that the fate of Dehua's ex-husband has not yet been determined, and he has lost contact since he was involved in the battlefield.
Jiang Defu and his ex-spouse ended this contradictory marriage relationship through the method of "splitting legs".
From a particular perspective, a woman like Teckwah is invaluable, a woman with scathing words but a soft heart, a woman who is both kind and capable.
The most critical factor why Jiang Defu and An Jie live like this is them. In fact, the "disappearance" of the first husband also constitutes a factor that cannot be taken lightly.
If you don't love someone, you can choose to leave and voluntarily end your engagement with him.
Despite this, the other party decided to join the army and did not see Dehua for a month after they got married, which made her suffer all the pain.
Although her mother-in-law has repeatedly caused trouble for Jiang Dehua, considering Jiang Dehua's character, she is not a person who is easy to worry.
At least at home, they can take care of each other until they grow old and eventually take ownership of the family, which is not too difficult.
However, Jiang Defu brought Dehua to the city and began a lifestyle of dependence on others.
From another point of view, if Jiang Dehua did not choose to enter the city, but chose to serve his in-laws, then his fate would not be so tragic.
Considering the situation of the in-laws, when the son disappeared and the daughter-in-law was not present, they were naturally filled with dissatisfaction in their hearts.
Jiang Defu's behavior seems to be out of concern for his sister on the surface, but in fact it exacerbates the conflict in her life and makes Dehua's attitude even more embarrassing.
For Teckwoh, he just changed places to work, and his life hasn't changed much.
If she chooses to live in the countryside, her life will not be fruitless, although life may be difficult.
As a widow, after her in-laws enjoyed her old age, it makes perfect sense that she found a suitable partner again and lived a stable life.
Without the hard work of my brother, sister-in-law and children, life may have become difficult, but there would not be much of a gap.
In addition to these, her first male partner also served as a kindling.
If it weren't for the sudden disappearance of the other party, there wouldn't have been too much dissatisfaction and accusations, and Dehua wouldn't have been so tired.
What kind of life path Jiang Dehua chose and what kind of ending he faced, although he did not owe anyone any debt, he still lived tenaciously in a tragedy.
This role not only highlights An Jie's noble taste, but also reflects the helplessness felt by Jiang Defu's previous wife.
In the book Parental Love, each character reveals the true nature of the human being, which is something that everyone should experience in depth.
As the saying goes, a good childhood can ** a person's life, and similarly, marriage also has its uniquenessAfter countless failures, we learned that love and marriage are not so easy to find. Improper marital relationships and inappropriate beginnings can lead to lifelong delays.
Therefore, when faced with life's major events, we must act cautiously and avoid impulsiveness.