There is such a sentence circulating on the Internet about calculating, and I personally think it is quite wise, and I share it with you: Don't worry about unimportant things with important people;Don't worry about important things with unimportant people. This is so rational and wise, but in real life it is easier said than done. Let's take a look at "Fireside Night Chat", how the ancient sages viewed this issue.
Original text] Yanzi's incomparability, Mencius's self-reflexivity, is the sage's way to rebel;Zigong's lack of flattery, and the original thinking of sitting on the strings, is the law of the sage to keep the poor.
Note] Yan Zizhi is not comparable: This sentence is to praise Yan Hui's broad-mindedness. Yanzi, the name is back, and the word Ziyuan is yuan. Spring and Autumn Lu people. Confucius's **. He has always been studious, happy to live in poverty, and noble in virtue, and was once praised by Confucius. Don't care, don't care. The words of "The Analects of Taber": "If there is nothing, if it is false, if it is false, it will not be compared." Mencius's self-reflection: This sentence praises Mencius's ability to examine and reflect on himself. Mencius, Mingke, the word Ziyu. Shandong Zou people. A famous politician, thinker, and educator during the Warring States period. He has traveled to Qi, Wei, Song, Teng and other countries, because his ideas were not adopted, he retreated to write books and said, known as "Yasheng". Zigong's infallibility: This sentence is to praise Zigong for being good at words but not flattery. Zigong, surnamed Duanmu, name given, word Zigong. Spring and Autumn Patriots. A student of Confucius. Able to speak well, quite good at business, rich to a thousand gold. Actively participate in political activities, ask countries, and fight against princes wherever they go. From the "Analects of Learning": "Zigong said: 'Poor but without deceit, rich without arrogance, what is it?'"Zi said, "Yes." If you are not poor, you will be happy, and if you are rich, you will be good. Yuan Si: The word Zi Si is also known as the original constitution and the middle constitution. In the Spring and Autumn Period, the Lu people. A student of Confucius. After the death of Confucius, he lived in seclusion to defend the country, and he was still happy with his clothes and vegetables. Later poems mostly refer to the poor in general. Sitting on the strings: Sit and play the piano in peace, and enjoy yourself.
Yan Yuan does not care about others, Mencius often self-reflects, this is the way for a virtuous person to get along with an arrogant person;Zigong does not flatter the rich, Zisi sits and plays the piano to enjoy himself, which is a way for moral people to be happy with poverty.
Comment] Gentlemen are self-confident, and they don't need formal wins or losses to prove themselves. Only the villain, calculating,-for-tat, arrogant to arrogant, thinking that he had gained a advantage, in fact, he had already lost a lot. When a gentleman treats an arrogant person, he either respects and stays away, or laughs at him, which can naturally turn the dilemma into invisible. Gentlemen are noble, they will not go with the flow for the sake of temporary interests, lose their virtues, but strive to strengthen their self-cultivation, improve their knowledge level, and maintain their own high demeanor, this is the preciousness of a gentleman.
Fireside Books] Poor and happy, and happy through.
Zhuangzi. Zeng Zi used these three to save his body every day, if there is a change, if there is no encouragement, its autonomy is sincere, it can be said that it is the foundation of learning.
Zhu Xi.