The story of my wife Sister Lin and I starts with Uncle Xu going to the mahjong parlor that day.
That morning, I went to the vegetable market as usual to buy some fresh vegetables and prepare to cook a delicious meal for Sister Lin. After going home from grocery shopping, ** suddenly rang, and the sound was from Uncle Xu in the hospital.
Hey, I'm Uncle Xu. Eldest sister, I suddenly had a terrible stomach ache and was hospitalized in the county hospital. The doctor said that I had an emergency and needed immediate surgery, which was expected to cost 30,000 yuan. Hurry up and transfer the money to my card, it matters to save your life!Uncle Xu's voice sounded painful and helpless.
I suddenly became nervous, and hurriedly asked with concern: "Uncle, why did you suddenly go to the hospital with stomach pain?"Is the situation serious?Do you need me to inform Xiaofang to come over?30,000 yuan, I'll call your card, you hang a point, I'll be there right away!”
Just when I opened the mobile banking and was about to transfer money, there was a sudden "crackling" sound on the other end, which sounded a little familiar. I listened carefully, why is it so similar to the sound of mahjong collision?
All of a sudden, I became alert and immediately said to Uncle Xu: "Uncle, wait a while, why is there the sound of mahjong in your background?"You're not going to go to the mahjong parlor again, are you?”
* Uncle Xu on the other end heard my questioning, and he was immediately speechless and at a loss.
I immediately raised my voice and said, "Uncle Xu, tell the truth!."Did you go to the mahjong parlor to play again and lie to me that I would ask for money for hospitalization?Are you still a little shameful?”
Sister, don't be angry yet. I just went to the mahjong parlor to play two rounds with my brother, and by the way, I borrowed some money to buy things at home, and I will be back soon. You can transfer 30,000 yuan to my card first. Uncle Xu explained cautiously.
Buying something?Do you think I'm going to believe your nonsense!I couldn't bear it anymore and scolded angrily, "Uncle Xu, I've seen enough of your virtue!."There is no night of gambling money, and I honestly won't live it, right?I don't want to see you waste your money gambling all day long!”
Eldest sister, you just transfer this money to me to spend, it won't get in the way. I promise it's the last time. Uncle Xu is still quibbling.
The last time?Didn't you say the same last time?I've lost count of the number of times you've made a mistake!I said angrily.
Sister, you should do a favor to your friends, I promise I won't gamble much. Uncle Xu changed his strategy and began to grind and soak hard.
Uncle Xu, do you really think I'm a fool?Decades have passed since I met you, and your stinky problem hasn't changed at all!Gambling addiction, wasting family money, my hard-earned money is lost to your gambling friends in vain!I couldn't help but curse.
Eldest sister, don't get excited, I'm going home, okay?Uncle Xu's tone softened, but I knew that he was just making a false accusation.
Back to what's home?I'm not welcome here!Get out of here and don't come back!"I finally couldn't take it anymore and burst into tears.
* At that end, Uncle Xu was silent. After a long while, he said sullenly: "Sister, I'm sorry, it's my fault." I'll find a place to stay for a few days, and I'll come back in a few days to apologize. ”
Hung up**, my tears rained down. Uncle Xu, a negative man, has lived with him for decades, and there is no hope of correction at all.
I was anxious and angry, anxious that my wife would not change her gambling, and angry that I had indulged him for too long. I looked at the food I had just bought on the table, I lost my appetite, and I slammed my fist on the table, and the vegetable juice splashed everywhere.
Uncle Xu, you useless thing, you have ruined all my hard work!I worked hard to earn money to support my family, and you took it to sacrifice to the gambling ghost!I cursed helplessly, not caring what my neighbors would think when they heard it.
I paced back and forth in my room alone, and my mind was full of angry words to Uncle Xu. I can't wait to run to the mahjong parlor immediately, grab his ears and drag him home, and fix him again.
But after thinking about it, Uncle Xu is so brainless, it's useless to beat and scold. He only has mahjong in his heart, and he can't be a home at all. Living with such a gambler for the rest of my life, what a sin I have made!
Thinking of this, my eyes turned red. My wife is not enterprising and indulges in gambling all day long, and my fate is bound to such a person, which is really not worth it.
However, Uncle Xu is, after all, my wife who has been working with me for decades. Get rid of him now, I'm an old woman, I can't rely on it, how should I live the rest of my life?
A thought popped into my head: divorce!Instead of being dragged down and angry by him, it is better to break up directly, and I will live a clean life by myself!
The idea excites me. There is no one, I can do whatever I want, and I don't have to send money to make a wedding dress for a negative man anymore. I've been paying off my debts all these years, and I'm tired!
So I called my close friend Aunt Liu, confided in the quarrel with Uncle Xu just now, and said that I had decided to divorce him.
Aunt Liu persuaded me: "Oh, you and your wife have such a good relationship, it's a pity to divorce just because of this money." It's really wrong for him to gamble, don't take it too seriously, you still have to be more tolerant of old husbands and wives. ”
I excitedly retorted, "Auntie, it's not about money!"I really can't get used to his gambler's virtues, and I'd rather live in a welfare home than worry about him every day!”
Aunt Liu smiled: "It's not a day or two that you have been awkward, and after a few days, the anger will subside, and you will be reconciled as before." Don't do something as big as divorce on the spur of the moment. You two still have each other, don't you?”
I burst into tears and said, "Auntie, I've really had enough of him." Even if the reconciliation is as good as ever, he will still gamble next time. I really don't see any hope of growing old with this negative man. ”
Aunt Liu was silent, and after a while, she sighed: "You can do it yourself." It's just that you have to think twice about what you decide. Although my wife has shortcomings, after all, the love of half a lifetime is also worth thinking about. ”
I wiped away my tears and solemnly said to her, "Thank you, Auntie, for reminding me." I've been thinking about it for the past two days. Perhaps, instead of divorcing, it is better to try an ultimatum and force him to quit gambling”
Aunt Liu smiled: "He will definitely be reluctant to divorce you." You can figure out how to clean him up. What is needed to open your mouth. ”
I decided to give Uncle Xu another chance. Although I can't bear it anymore, I can't bear it for half my life. I began to think about how to deal with this dead gambler and make him completely change his ways.
This time we can't be softer. I took out my mobile phone and called directly to the mahjong parlor he frequented: "Hey, I'm Uncle Xu's wife." Please tell him that if he doesn't come home tonight, he won't want to come into my house in the future!I will file for divorce immediately and draw a line with this gambler!”
* The waiter on the other end stammered a few times, saying that he would tell Uncle Xu. I hung up on the ** fiercely, thinking that I must force him to obey this time.
At eight o'clock in the evening, I waited anxiously in the living room. At this time, the doorbell rang suddenly, and I hurriedly opened the door, and Uncle Xu stood outside, carrying my favorite Longlilai shrimp dumplings, with a flattering smile on his face.
I said with a cold face, "Grandson Turtle is back?".Put the shrimp dumplings on the table and let's have a good talk. Uncle Xu didn't dare to say anything, and sat down honestly.
I looked into his eyes solemnly: "Uncle Xu, I'll give you one last chance." Either you promise me to quit gambling immediately and forget how to spell the mahjong parlor from now on, or we will divorce and I will not recognize you as a gambler from today!”
Uncle Xu begged anxiously: "Eldest sister, you can spare me." At my age, if I get divorced, what will I do in the future?Give me another chance, I swear I will never gamble again, and I will stay at home with you. ”
I sneered, "I'm tired of hearing your oaths!".Unless you play ** now, quit all mahjong groups in front of me, and, hand over your bank card, I will supervise every penny of your money!”
Okay, it seems that we have only one way to get divorced. I will have the lawyer draw up the agreement. I resolutely stood up and was about to leave, when Uncle Xu hurriedly grabbed me.
Don't don't, big sister, the card is for you, listen to you!He scrambled to pull his bank card out of his pocket and handed it to me. I put the card away, took out my mobile phone and asked Uncle Xu to quit the mahjong group on the spot and cut off contact with all gamblers.
Uncle Xu nodded again and again, and repeatedly promised me that he would quit gambling and return to Liu. Looking at his dog-legged appearance at the moment, I also know in my heart that I am afraid that it will not be long before he will return to his old Xi. But I am determined to uproot this cancer with the strongest possible means.
A month later, I began to accompany Uncle Xu for walks, grocery shopping, chess, etc., and supervised his every move. Three months have passed, and the energy of Uncle Xu's gambling addiction seems to have gradually faded, and I have gradually become relieved.
In this way, under my strict discipline, Uncle Xu finally succeeded in quitting the bad Xi of gambling. Now he is like a different person, he has become a hardworking wife, often helps me with housework, and chats and laughs with me when he has nothing to do.
I also enjoy being idle, eating and playing every day, saving me a lot of worries. The world of our husband and wife is as harmonious as ever, and our children often use us as an example when they see our loving appearance.
It has been more than a year since he reconciled with Uncle Xu. During this time, I was always on the alert to prevent him from going astray again.
One day, Uncle Xu mentioned to me that his old comrade-in-arms Liu Sishunzi was retiring and wanted to gather his former brothers for a dinner party. As soon as I heard that it was a mahjong friend from the past, I immediately sternly refused: "Those gambling sticks are one or two, you give me a far away!."”
Nope!I know you, it's a dinner party, maybe you're going to have a gambling game again. In the past, I had so many troubles because you fooled around with them!"I'm resolute.
Uncle Xu had no choice but to give up. I know he still yearns for the high-profile days of spending money in his heart, but I will never give him another chance.
A few days later, Uncle Xu cautiously proposed that his old sister was celebrating her birthday and wanted to invite us to be guests. I keenly grasped the key word "old sister" and immediately asked, "What old sister?".Could it be one of the three missing on your mahjong table?Don't even think about it!”
Uncle Xu was so frightened that he didn't dare to mention anything related to his past gambling friends. He knew that I would do what I said, and this time I definitely didn't discuss it with him.
I also check his phone from time to time to make sure there aren't any gambling software or group chats in it. All of Uncle Xu's social accounts asked to add me as a friend so that I could monitor them at any time. I also check his bank statements regularly and ask questions about suspicious transactions as soon as they are found.
Under my strict supervision, Uncle Xu could only stay at home every day, occasionally going out to buy groceries or go for a walk. His former gamblers did not dare to contact him, knowing full well that he had entered the "golden cage".
I was always vigilant about the possibility of Uncle Xu's relapse, and I didn't dare to be careless. I actively subscribed to some books on quitting gambling, and from time to time I asked Uncle Xu to learn Xi to help him remember the dangers of gambling.
Watching him live a well-behaved life day by day, I finally felt at ease. Our relationship is also getting better and better, like a little couple in love.
When the children saw our loving appearance, they also joked: "Mom, you are really disciplined, and Dad is obedient!".”
I smiled and said, "Your father can change his ways, it all depends on me watching every day, and I can't relax for a moment!""It's a heartwarming day when we laugh as a family.
Although Uncle Xu has successfully quit gambling for more than a year through my strict supervision, I am still wary of the possibility that he may return to his old evils.
Recently, I found that Uncle Xu is a little absent-minded, often in a daze, and not very good at doing things. I immediately realized that this could be a precursor to a resurgence of gambling addiction.
One day, I pretended to ask him casually, "Uncle, have you been irritable lately and want to go somewhere?"”
Uncle Xu hurriedly shook his head: "No, no, I am very content." But from the twinkle in his eyes, I could tell he was lying.
I said solemnly: "Uncle Xu, you are honest, do you want to gamble again?"During this time, I noticed that you were not quite mentally right. ”
I immediately warned sternly: "Remember, those gamblers will only drag you into the water!."I can understand your itchy hands, but you must not go back to your old business!Meditate first to calm down and don't think nonsense. ”
Uncle Xu honestly sat down on the cushion and meditated. I also put together a few books to show him. Fortunately, this time it was stopped in time, and his gambling addiction did not spread.
But I also realized that supervision alone is not enough, and it is also necessary to fundamentally change the mentality of Uncle Xu. I began to encourage him to read more positive books and learn to be grateful for his current life. I often take him out for a walk.
Once, we went to our son's new company to have a look. Uncle Xu saw his son sitting on the boss's chair with his legs crossed, and several secretaries waiting, and he was envious.
I said to him, "You see, if you hadn't ruined your family property by gambling back then, our life would not have been so miserable." Self-reliance is the right way. ”
When Uncle Xu heard this, a guilty look appeared on his face. At times like this, I have to make him remember the lessons of the past in order to stop him from going wrong again.
I often take him to the welfare home or the community to help volunteer, so that he can see the miserable life of those who are homeless. This reinforces the satisfaction he feels in his current life.
Through these methods, I found that Uncle Xu's gambling addiction has indeed weakened. He seems to have found meaning in life and is becoming more and more involved in family life.
I said to him with satisfaction: "Uncle, remember our oath, no matter what difficulties we encounter in the future, we will tide over them together, and we must not let gamblers ruin our happy life!"”
Uncle Xu held my hand and nodded solemnly: "Eldest sister, I will keep in mind your teachings and never repeat the mistakes of the past." We must grow old happily!”
I believe that through the unremitting efforts of both of us, Uncle Xu's determination to embark on the right path will become stronger and stronger. Our old age will also overcome difficulties in supporting each other until the end of life!
It has been two years since Uncle Xu successfully quit gambling. In the past two years, our relationship between husband and wife has been thriving, and I am very relieved to see him keep his promise and never gamble again.
However, I also understand that we must always be vigilant to prevent him from being ** again. For example, during the Chinese New Year, I firmly disagreed with Uncle Xu sending red envelopes to his former mahjong friends, for fear that they would take the opportunity to pull him to gamble again. Although Uncle Xu was a little reluctant, he still followed my advice.
Recently, Uncle Xu's second brother is going to travel here from other places, and he wants to stop by to sit at our house. I learned that his second brother was also an old gambler, and it was impossible for him to agree to visit.
Your second brother is coming to play mahjong with you, I will never allow it!I said sternly to Uncle Xu.
Uncle Xu said with a bitter face: "He is my own brother, it should be okay to come to the house to sit, right?"I promise I won't gamble. ”
Didn't you promise that before?With your second brother, maybe you're going to get sick!"I don't back down.
Uncle Xu had no choice but to refuse his invitation to his second brother. Although Uncle Xu still misses his past gambling brothers, I have to be ruthless to prevent him from being tempted again.
Recently, the community has set up a university for the elderly, offering interest classes such as guzheng and calligraphy. I took the initiative to take Uncle Xu to sign up, hoping that he would make some decent friends and learn some useful manual work.
I said solemnly, "Money is not the only meaning of life!".Learning something good for your soul. If I find out you playing mahjong again, I'll kick you out of the house!”
Uncle Xu was threatened by me, so he had to go to class honestly. I also check his progress to make sure he's not lazy.
Through these strict means and guidance, Uncle Xu's mentality has changed significantly. He is no longer full of gambling money, and he has lost interest in mahjong, devoting his time and energy to his family and new interests.
I often go for walks and do housework with him, and he always has a smile on his face. When our children saw that we were very affectionate, they often made fun of us.
Mom, your dad is so obedient, better than a kitten and a puppy!The son said with a smile.
I smiled and said, "Your dad used to be a naughty monkey, but now he has finally been disciplined by me to be a sensible old cat and dog!".”
We laughed as a family. I am grateful to Uncle Xu for finally being willing to accept my transformation and get back on the right track as a human being. I will spend the rest of my life with him, and I will never let gamblers take advantage of it!
In the blink of an eye, Uncle Xu and I have been growing old together for five years. In the past five years, Uncle Xu has really banned gambling and has become a good husband who loves his wife. Every day he would massage my legs and feet, go to the market to buy groceries and cook, and obey me.
A few days ago, Uncle Xu had a serious illness and was in the hospital for a month. I stayed at his bedside every day, for fear that once he woke up, he would think about gambling. Fortunately, he was finally discharged from the hospital, and he didn't mention half a word about gambling.
After I was discharged from the hospital, I took more care of Uncle Xu, afraid that his newly recovered body would suffer from the wind and cold again. One day, however, he suddenly said that he was going to his old friend's house, and I was keenly aware of something suspicious.
I sternly asked, "What old friend?".It's your gambler again, right?I've been thinking about them for so many years!”
Uncle Xu hurriedly explained: "No, no, it's just an ordinary old friend, don't worry." ”
I resolutely stopped: "I have just been sick, and now that the weather is cold, you are not allowed to go anywhere!".Recuperate at home!”
Uncle Xu had no choice but to give up. I knew I couldn't be soft on him in the slightest, it was to stop him from getting addicted to gambling again.
Recently, Uncle Xu's mobile phone suddenly became unusable, so I accompanied him to the mobile phone store to buy a new smartphone. On the way out, I repeatedly told him not to install any social media software, so as not to contact his past gambling friends.
Uncle Xu said helplessly: "I've quit gambling for so long, you should be able to trust me, right?"”
I sternly said, "Trust must be tested for a long time, so that I can tighten the regulations less!"I still keep the phone, and I will install it directly for you if you need anything. ”
Uncle Xu looked disappointed when he saw that his new phone could only be shared with me, but he didn't dare to disobey my orders.
A few days later, an old classmate suddenly came to the house to find Uncle Xu for a reunion. I immediately questioned if I was also a gambler, and finally asked someone out of the door. Uncle Xu stood aside and didn't dare to squeak.
You remember to me that the most intimate reliance in life is family, not those so-called brothers!I said sternly to Uncle Xu.
Uncle Xu also understood that I was for his good, and he didn't dare to associate with outsiders anymore. He is now tired of spending time with me, and rarely goes out to socialize.