Recently, when we get married or choose a date, the blessed Lord often asks questions about whether or not we can get married in the "Year of the Widow." The so-called "Year of the Widow" means that the first day of the first lunar month in 2024 has already passed the beginning of spring, so 2024 is equivalent to no beginning of spring. This kind of year without the beginning of spring is the "widow's year" in the folk sense. In fact, the "Year of the Widow" is not uncommon. In the nearly thirty years between 2010 and 2040, there are as many as 12 years of the widow: 2010 for the Year of the Tiger, 2013 for the Snake, 2016 for the Monkey, 2019 for the Pig, 2021 for the Ox, 2024 for the Dragon, 2027 for the Goat, 2029 for the Rooster, 2032 for the Rat, 2035 for the Rabbit, 2037 for the Snake, and 2040 for the Monkey.
Is there a rational or calendar basis for so many widow years?Shi Yuan checked a lot of information, and the interpretation that seems to be a bit of a lunisolar calendar element is: "The birth of the "no spring year" (widow's year) is because of the beginning of the lunar new year and the beginning of spring in the lunar calendar"Mistakes"caused. Folklore believes that the plan of the year lies in spring, "spring is the beginning of yang, no spring is no yang", there is no yang in a year, only yin, it becomes a lonely yin year, that is, the so-called "widow's year"!
In fact, if we understand a little bit of the principle of Taijitu, we will know that the beginning of the yang of the new year will not be the turn of the beginning of spring in any case, and the latest will start from the winter solstice of the previous year, or even from the beginning of winter of the previous year.
From the perspective of Taijitu, the winter solstice is the day of the year with the shortest day and the longest night, that is, the day when the yin pole is born and the yang is born. From this day on, the direct point of the sun begins to gradually move towards the northern hemisphere, so the yang energy gradually arises, and the white dot at the bottom of the Taiji diagram is the meaning that the yang energy begins to brew in the place where the most yin energy begins. And there is a certain truth to the yang energy from the beginning of winter. Because the wood is Shaoyang, Jiamu is born in Hai, that is, from the month of Hai, the second year of Shaoyang began to be born. Therefore, the yang energy of each year is much earlier than the first day of the first lunar month, and it must also be earlier than the first day of the first month of the solar calendar. According to the logic of the "Year of the Widow", every year should be a "Year of the Widow" without a yang beginning. This is patently ridiculous.
Therefore, the so-called widow's year has more psychological implications for folklore. Many elderly people, who are blindly convinced of traditional folklore and love for their children, will consider avoiding the widow's year. If the elders in the family care a lot about this statement, but don't want to miss out on getting married in the Year of the Dragon, it is recommended to use the following workarounds:
1.Get the certificate first, and then get married. For friends who are already engaged, they can first get a certificate before the beginning of spring next year and become a legal couple in the legal sense, which is equivalent to getting married in the previous year.
2.The wedding chooses an auspicious day. If you have to get married in 2024, try to choose the date according to the eight characters of both parties, choose the woman's big and small month, and the three-in-six day with both parties, Tianyue De, Tianyi noble, etc.
3.The layout of the wedding room improves yang. Since it is a year of yin and yang, try to make yin and yang match from feng shui. For example, put more paired items on the mountain, the wedding room is more yang, the wood fire is more prosperous, and the position of the door owner is selected to place the bed.
In short, the Year of the Widow has no convincing theoretical basis in terms of Yili and calendar, and is more of an exaggeration of folklore with false rumors, which has a psychological impact on people.
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